I need advice on friend problems..?
Ok.. Hey my names Faith. I don't think you friend has any say in when you do your homework or not. Do you get better grades when you do it with her or do you goof off an not do it... Is the reason she's mad is that when you do you homework do you copy off of each other? I'm in middle school and I still have to do my homework I get home at three and I'm usually not done untill around nine or eight. I know that when I do my homework with my friends and I have to wait for them to catch up and it takes alot longer! I hope that you can work thisbig thing out with your friend and just tell her she's acting silly and that your sorry and tell her you forgot... lol Its not the best but Hopefully it works! bye!! good luck!! =D
I need advice about my friends relationship?
So, my best friend and I graduated high school this last may. I moved about an hour away to go to college and she stayed home. She goes to a community college in our city. While there she met this guy in one of her classes. He is 27 (she is 18) and they have been hanging out and messing around some. She talked about getting into a relationship with him. I said that I don't think its a good idea to have anything serious because he probably has much different intentions than her, in the terms of where the relationship is going. We are very close, have been friends for over 10 years. I just don't see myself being able to get along with the guy because I think he is almost taking advantage of her. She has only had 2 boyfriends and only dated them for 3 months each. She also doesn't make the best decisions for herself and doesn't really look ahead at the consequences. I know this won't end well. I just do not know how to get her to realize that this isn't something she should pursue. She is very pretty and outgoing so she could easily find a guy closer to our age with more similar life experience and intentions. Any advice on what I should do would be greatly appreciated. Thanks :)
Need Friend Advice?!?
Yahoo answers questions to be asked! well, i have these two friends who say they are my best friend but here are some reasons i think they are just friends: 1. ok well my two friends talk on the phone almost every night and the last time i talked on the phone to one of them was when i needed help with one of my assignments. 2. last year, one of my friends said something and i heard different and they made fun of me because of it for 2 months before i totally cracked! did i mention they got people from the class involved and they made fun of me because of it for 2-4 weeks than stopped! This year, one of my friends kept on saying i had herpes! I’m only 13! she kept this up for about 2-3 months and only just stopped a few weeks ago! 3. they make fun of the games i play. like they laugh about it and say i am weird for playing it and all that stuff. 4. They have secret sleepovers which they tell me about after it happens. there was one time when they went to the gold coast to go to dream world and the only two reasons i can think of (is to why i wasn't invited) are that she could only take one friend and/or she didn't want me there. the other time was when one of their sisters had a sleepover birthday party in which once again i was not invited and found out the next day of school (both sleepovers were on different weekends). 5.they make fun of me because i am small and not the smartest! id a best friend suposed to do that? 6. i didn't go to one of their birthday parties so the girl asked our friend to put her msn message as all of 'her best friends' without me! i ended up geting so pist off at that girl and started to tell both the my so called best firends (one of them was the girl that i missed her birthday party). These are the onl things i can think of that have up set me. should i tell them this at a risk that they will hate me? do you think that they are best friends and that i should just ignore all of these things? Sorry if some of this doesn't make sense. -.- Thanks so much for your answers!
In love with sons friend advice needed?
I'm 46 years old and a mother of a 18 year old son. I've been single and lonely for the past 5 years. My son has a best friend Andrew who is also 18. Ever since I met him about 6 months ago its been amazing. He started flirting with me and I flirted back. He'll always give me compliments and help me around the house. He;ll give me advice and tell me stories. He's very cute, nice, funny and amazing. Whenever I'm around him I feel like weights have been lifted off my shoulders. Whenever he's around me is like trying to describe the taste of water. I'm so in love with him and he told me he loves me too. The only problem is he is my son's friend. We're both in love and want to take our love to a new level. We're both legal single adults and we have every right to. However I don't know how to tell my son or what to do about this awkward situation. We're 2 adults in love and no one should stop us from continuing our lives. but what should we do?
Friend's Dad is hurting her! Need advice!!?
There in lies the beauty of abuse ( just a figure of speech), the abuser can wrap their victim around their little finger by threatening harm to those the victim cares about so that pretty soon the victim start to believe they 'deserve' what the abuser is doing. Please go to an adult that you trust...parent, teacher and tell them what is happening and your 'speculations'..make sure you do it in a way that doesn't make you seem hysterical or a troublemaker. Her fear of losing her father to jail is only because she is rationalizing and is trying to make him into the Dad who will protect his little girl. Do NOT tell her what you plan to do as she may distance herself from you---just do it. After it is done and she has been confronted, let her know that she is too dear to you as a friend and you would rather endure her anger than stand quietly by and watch her get hurt. Your friend may be angry with you for a while, but at least she will be safe. An SATC (sexual assault treatment center) can have her take a special test to check for assault. You are showing that you are a TRUE friend and I wish you the best and hope your friend gets the help she needs. Just remember to be supportive no matter what.
I have a friend who doesn't listen to my advice?
i don't think she should go out with him, not anymore, but she really liked him and she wouldn't ask him out, now i'm pretty sure he's just a player, he wouldn't even ask her out. and i'm a really good friend to her, but she's a spoiled brat. her dad is rich, so she gets what she wants, she's never been grounded, even though she almost set her house on fire when i was over and she was playing with matches while i was working on our project, she thinks that because her parents let her have whatever she wants, then she should get whatever she wants from everyone. she also thinks that all of her problems are worse than all of the problems that you have or had... she's just a brat
My friend is being abused by her boyfriend, I need advice.?
She is so desperate and dependent on him. That's not love. These are the kind of women that wake up dead. This is so upsetting. She is probably afraid of him and incapable of saving herself. He doesn't care about her or the baby. I'm glad she told you. Since there is a child in the home you have to tell someone. You could report it to your child abuse hotline or ask the police what to do. You can't save your friend but you can see that the child is protected. She must go to the police and get a PFA. (protection from abuse order) so that he can't come around her again. She can also report the abuse she has already experienced. It has to be on record in case he ever tries to get visitation or custody of the little girl. She must leave immediately and not tell her boyfriend that she's moving because when the woman leaves that's often when they get really hurt or killed. She has to have a plan of where to go that he won't know where she is for awhile and then she needs to file with Domestic Relations for full custody of her daughter. Look in the yellow pages. Hopefully there is a shelter in your town for abused women and children. She needs to be safe and have distance from him to get over the violence and heal. Good luck. I'll be praying for all of you.
I need your advice regarding a good friend who is jealous of everything. What should I do?
When you say “jealous of everything” what do you really mean? Are they jealous of your relationships with other people? Jealous of your income, job, home or specific relationship? Is this a good friend who wishes to be a romantic partner of yours or is jealous that you have a romantic partner?Sometimes, when we are not able to work on ourselves and our goals, either through circumstances, fear, anxiety or laziness, we look at others as “having it all” and that makes us feel lesser. We are jealous of their “good luck” rather than focusing on bettering ourselves and our own lives.If this is truly a good friend, make sure you are reading the situation and their responses correctly. Are you constantly bragging or flaunting good things in your life that you know are lacking in theirs? Or is it just coming up because of the person’s own insecurity or feeling of scarcity?Understanding clearly how and why someone is presenting certain feelings may be hard to do as we are always clouded by our own view of the world around us. If you feel that jealousy is an issue for your friend and that it is coming from their own sense of lack, then perhaps an open conversation - not one condemning or criticizing - that shows your empathy and sincere desire to understand their feelings, can open the door to a better understanding of what they feel and why. Once you have a better picture of that, you can determine how or if your friend may be helped by you or a professional person who specializes in helping people improve their mental state and their lives.Jealousy is a nasty feeling that eats away at the person who feels jealous as well as those who are the object of the jealousy. Many stories have been written about how jealousy has unintended negative consequences. Be compassionate if this is your good friend and see if you can unearth the truth. That will make it much easier to know how to help, if at all.
I have friends who are never there when I need them (either they ignore my problem or they make light of the situation). They’re only available when they come to me for advice. What should I do?
Be frank with them.But FIRST, find your tribe. The people you are describing as “friends” are not friends while they continue to behave in this manner. They are not interested in you. They find value in you but you aren’t interesting enough (in their minds) for them to care. If you are smart enough to be asked for advice consistently, that means their disinterest is their own downfall not yours. They are not mature or deeply reflective enough sort of individuals to recognize value and treat it with the appropriate care.Find your people who are more interested in what you are interested in. If you already have some good people, refer back to my first sentence.If you give someone the opportunity to be a better person and you do it in a humble yet assertive way, the ball goes pretty much in their court, alleviating you of any further pressure until they make their decision. If they continue to seek out your friendship, there is a new standard they must be aware of. Make sure you are consistent with it and they will respect you. This might be hard to do at first, but you have to let go and not care as much. Rest assured, if they are worth your time, they will make the effort to be better friends.The book “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k” is great for understanding this concept. I didn’t like it at first because I thought it might be really negative, but it’s not. It’s very positive.
(Short): I need advice please.. Should I forgive my friend?
We were very close till he cut me off over a month ago (he even deleted me from all his social media) because he thought it was his only way to keep his girlfriend. Two weeks later, he fixed things with his girlfriend, and he came back and kept apologizing and hoping we'd be close again. He's still trying to make me forgive him after a month, but I don't know if i should forgive him... He really made me feel unwanted and unimportant. Should i forgive him? Does he really deserve another chance?