How do you deal with divorce?
So far, this has not been a good year for me. In fact, to be quite frank, it's been a miserable year. Everything in my life seems to be falling apart. Me and my ex-boyfriend had a really bad breakup this year plus he's stalking me and won't leave me alone, my family is facing financial issues due to the struggling economy, my brother is in rehab for alcohol abuse and he is only 24 years old, I'm moving out of California forever. But the worst one of all is my parents are getting divorced. I'm really sad and depressed and I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm 19, almost 20 years old in 10 days and I feel so lost and alone. Christmas is coming up and I have nothing but a broken family and ailing relationships. Everything is going wrong. On top of it, I'm moving out of California and moving to Nevada next year and I'm not looking forward to it. What's worse is that after the divorce is finalized, my dad is staying in California and I have to move with my mom to Nevada and I really can't stand my mom. :/ So I'm having a lot of issues with my mom because I want to live with my dad. I don't want to live with my mom. I want to live with my dad. But my mom is making it difficult for me and it's causing a lot of problems. What should I do? Have you ever gone through the experience of divorce before? How did you feel when your parents got divorced? And what advice would you recommend for me? Put your signs too, thanx. Capricorn Sun Cancer Moon Pisces Rising
How can I deal with divorce?
Some things to remember. There are and were millions of people who went through it and so can you. Seriously, millions of folks and both male and female.I thought I had it bad till I spoke to a bunch of women about their divorces and their stories let me know that I had a walk in the park compared to them. All of them. My story was not as bad as any of theirs. I don’t know how these women did it. But you know, if they could get through it so can I.I also decided that I would take help anywhere I could find it. Songs but not sad songs. Listening to sad songs don’t help. Don’t do things that allow you to wallow in sad feelings. I use to tell myself not to fall in love with the pain. Yeah, do that then you can spend hours blaming your ex. Don’t do that it is not worth it.Hang on to inspirational quotes. Vanalich Puziakin (Vanalich Puziakin) tells of the Winston Churchill quote, “if you are going through hell, keep going”. Keep moving and it tells you there is something just down the road.Keep moving, literally move. Exercise helps a lot. Gets your body moving and out of that sad posture. Keep your head up. Yeah, literally raise your head when feeling down or sad. It is harder to cry when you look up. Sometimes you need to continue to operate so you can’t be crying and be dysfunctional. Raise your head, wipe your tears, and get on with your business.Hold onto your friends. Hold onto your family. Take the positives and let go of negativity. Don’t have pity parties. Find joy in everything. Love spending time with children, enjoy their joy in life and add to it. Really, you don’t want to be a downer with kids, do you?Relentlessly search for good feelings and keep negative feelings and thoughts out of your mind. Yeah, they creep in but keep pushing the negative thoughts away. The more you do it the easier it gets.Revenge is a “nice” thought but doesn’t do it too much. Hard not to do it at all, just don’t dwell on it too much. One day it will go away without much notice and that is when you will have reclaimed your life.There is more of course but this is a start. Good luck and be good. Be good to yourself as well.
Where can I find a "dealing with divorce" chat room?
Email me at poohinmissouri@yahoo.com i have a family site with a chat room that is just 2 months old and we deal with all sorts of problems and yes we have women that have recently went through a divorce as well and will be glad to help, and no need to worry about the someone looking to meet thing it is a smaller site since it has not been around for long we deal with all sorts of problems, disorders, and diseases so email me and i will send you the link to it the best time to come is in the afternoon and early evening
How to deal with the death of a mother and a divorce at the same time.?
My wife and I have always had problems, but we worked through them. This time is different, we started fighting the same day my mother died I could not believe it I wanted support from my wife and there was nothing. I wanted to talk to her and it became about her. Know with that said my mother and I have never been close, but she is still my mother. I need my wife to be supportive and not fight with me.
How to deal with parent's divorce...?
My parents got divorced when I was 10. It was a really hard thing to go through, but eventually I got through it. All you have to do is think on the brightside, and try not to think of your parents too much. Just remember that you'll still be able to see both your mom, and your dad. Cheer up, things will get better soon, I promise. :)
How did you deal with your parent’s divorce?
My parents relationship was rocky from start to finish. Their relationship was like a mirror, not pristine or shiny like regular mirror, but scratched and shattered.I knew my father had anger issues from birth, and that my mother was very sensitive. My father always said terrible things to my mother and they would fight for a few days, then everything would be back to ‘normal’One day, I was in the living room when I witnessed another mom+dad fight. My father abruptly strode into the hallway, looked me in the eyes and said this: “I’m sorry, I don’t love your mother anymore.” In English! My father never speaks in English, only other languages.He then left me in the hallway, my cerulean eyes widening in shock, and my frail knees shaking, eventually lowering me to the ground.I heard them argue some more, my father saying:“You’re just my wife on papers.”“I’m going to move back to Germany.”Stuff like that.-My father did leave - for a day lol and then came right back.They did get a divorce but it didn’t change how they usually would act near each other. They never touched anyways, not since like 20 years ago.New living arrangements were made, I only see my father on weekdays and my mom on weekends. I like my mother more than my father so I wish I could’ve had their schedules swapped, but I just obliged.How did I deal with my parents divorce?Like nothing ever happened, I wasn’t upset, angry nor frustrated.Why did I act so upset in the hallway? Hmm maybe sensitive kid crap. I didn’t realize at the time that the divorce wouldn’t mean shit.