I need help finding better friends help?????
All my friends were either too far up their mens a s s or to close minded to have their own thoughts. They believe gossip and rumors. I got tired of picking knives out of my back. Chicks are lethal knife throwers too. My man and my son are my friends. And right now after all the "friend" drama, that's all I need.
I need help finding out if I’m the toxic friend in a relationship.?
About a day ago, my friend got super pissed at me for leaving a dog leash on his stairs. Like SUPER heated. He does this a lot, and it’s happened a couple times. (For diffrent reasons of corse) his Mom usually is the one to let him know about This type of stuff, but she’s out of town for like 2 weeks. It’s gotten to the point where it makes me feel so damn bad about my self, to the point where I feel as if I’m the worst person in the world. He said stuff like “I’m so glad your my friend, your definitely not one of the most un-self efficient people I know” and “literally kill your self”. The first quote was sarcasm if you couldn’t tell. But No one else makes me feel this way. I don’t know what to do. The night I left my dog leash on the stairs is also the night I vaccumed and clean his basement out of boredom. (The kid is filfthy sometimes) But anyways the question I’m asking is, am I the one who needs to get my **** together, or is he?!! I don’t know... Should I stop interacting with him and Focus on pursuing my dream of fitness and health? P.s: This isn’t the first time I’ve left something over there.
I need help kicking out my husbands best friend/roommate/mooch.?
So, last February one of our friends was having some marital difficulties and decided to go ahead and divorce his wife which didn't happen. When he first moved in, it was only suppose to be until he could find a job and move in with one of his other friends...it's now been five months. We live in a little one bedroom with our daughter, my husband, myself, and this mooch who has only paid the electricity bill once (what he and my husband agreed upon as rent, and he keeps losing his jobs after only a couple weeks) and has been bringing in girlfriends all the time. Every time I try to tell my husband we need him out, it turns into a fight and he gets mad at me saying, "He's trying to get on his feet still, give him more time." I find our situation is getting very delicate and I can't seem to figure out a way to bring it to my husband's attention without it blowing up in my face, I'm to the point where I don't know what to do, if I tell him to go, my husband will call him back.
Today my friend got caught copying my answers to HW. Y should I get a 0 on it too?
I am not going to lecture you. I have better things to do then lecture a person I don't know. Short and simple. --------------------------------------... Did you let her? If yes, problem solved. If no? Your teacher is a *****. (or a he-*****. =P) EDIT: IF you were helping, see above. That happened to me before. It's like you can't be nice but they yell at you if you aren't. PICK A SIDE people!
Pleease help me figure out who sings this!?
they played this song at my friend's funeral once.. here are some of the lyrics- bed of roses, good book closes look now all your friends are here church bells ringing angels singing many questions its not clear to me if you could see me now and know that i'm okay i just saw jesus today my father is holding onto me it's paradise i wish that you could see me now ..someone pleease help me find this song!
My friend is a drug addict, how should I help her?
Connections, love and support are the keys.For a start I would suggest taking your friend to the gym or if it is too much, for the very beginning, just for a long walks (if she agrees). Never, ever be her enabler. Be the best example of sobriety you can be. Talking to her a lot to help her release her pain and to discover the root of her addiction. Depending on what kind of DOC it is you should figure out how much of physiological and how much of psychological aspect withdrawal might bring - act and help accordingly. Slowly moving her interests - if possible - towards yoga, and spiritual path. Yoga, over time, gives an addict the best feedback on the effect of self destructive behaviors and on top of that a great hope and reward, promise of becoming a better person. It will also calm her mind, release anger and anxieties. Try to find support groups for her and take her there. Let her meet other people overcoming same problems. If you can, try also to direct her towards healthy eating.Physical activity/yoga, long conversations, support groups and health oriented lifestyle all of that should be a goal. Not a DON’T USE hard approach. She needs to develop a new path. She needs to realize there are different, drug free ways to find relief, calmness and happiness. It requires a lot of work but might also not work. She may need to touch a hard bottom before she starts changing direction. If you are strong enough to go through all of it with her, help her, but without expectations and judgement.If she can manage to be sober for at least a month or two, I would take her for Ayahuasca treatment. Google Gabor Mate and Ayahuasca. This step is hard but works miracles. Good luck and God bless you!
My friend suddenly stopped talking to me. I've tried talking to her, but she ignores me and talks with my other friends instead. What should I do?
Give the friendship a break for a while. People who value your friendship will take the time to make contact with you - you have shown you value her friendship because you have tried to make contact with her. Now it's time to step back and see if she can show the same appreciation. Use this opportunity to explore new friendships and activities, so you are enjoying yourself rather than sitting around feeling ignored. Avoid giving her opportunities to ignore you, and try to avoid talking about the situation with your mutual friends, in case things get repeated and misinterpreted. If you don't hear from your best friend after a month or so, and you still feel upset and puzzled by this, maybe send her a friendly email saying that you miss chatting to her and you hope that everything is okay. Don't worry too much about why she isn't talking to you. Again if she valued the friendship, she would tell you if you had done something to upset her, so that the two of you could resolve the issue. Maybe she needs some time before she can tell you what's wrong. Maybe she's getting a kick out of ignoring you and playing favorites with your other friends. You don't need to put up with being treated like the runner up in a popularity competition.
How do I tell my friend politely that they are annoying?
This seems to be the other side of the coin of a question I just answered about being “brutally honest.”In my experience, friends like this are not intending to be malicious. While I agree with Sapphire Silver’s answer, I disagree vehemently with taking a “blunt” approach. On the contrary, you need to take considerable care and sensitivity when approaching her.If you do “love” her, as you state, and you want what’s best for not only yourself, and her, but also the relationship between you two, you will need to understand the consequences of how you approach her with this.The best approach I’ve ever known is to take things slowly in your approach. For example, a conversation might go like this:[In private, definitely not in public, and not when you are irritated or annoyed.]“[Friend], I need to talk to you about something really delicate.”Her: “Okaaaaay.”You: “It’s been hard to get up the courage to talk to you about this, because I don’t want to upset you.”At this point, she will likely be quite curious about what you have to say, but the “entry price” to learning this is that she will have to not get emotionally riled up about hearing bad news.Assuming she agrees in some fashion (e.g., “You can tell me anything,” or “I promise I won’t hold anything against you,” etc.), then you can tell her that she has some habits that make it difficult to enjoy having her around.I’d avoid words like “irritating,” “annoying,” or “inappropriate” if at all possible. I’d also avoid naming specific instances or moments, which she will want to know about. Instead, try to focus on general behavior (interruptions, non-sequitur changes in conversation, topics of conversation that may not be of interest to those around her such as the singer, etc.). If you give her specifics, she is likely to try to defend those specific actions, rather than listen to the main point you are trying to make.Remember that the purpose of such a conversation is to preserve the relationship between you, even improve it. If that is not your goal, or your desire, then you can feel free to ignore this advice and be as “blunt’ as you wish - you’ll find that you will have no shortage of people who will gladly avoid you if that becomes your modus operandi.
What should I say to a friend whose mother has died?
First, I have to say "good for you" that you are going to use the phone and not email. I am horrified when people use email to inform others of someone's death and/or to respond. I had to get that said.When someone dies, we are always sorry regardless of how well we knew the person or what we thought of him or her. So, that is what you say: "I am so sorry to hear that your mom died."Next, we want our friend to know that we care. So, that is what you say: "f there is anything at all that I can do for you or the family, you will ask me, won't you?"Most people want to empathize with how painful this is for their friend. So, go ahead and say it: "I am sure you are really hurting OR this is just the hardest thing OR I know it's going to be tough going on without your mom's love to support you."When we have known the person well enough -- say in this case, your friend's mom had you over for dinner countless times or treated you like you were a part of the family -- we say something about how important they were to us. So, go ahead and say it: "I just loved your mom. She had such a wicked sense of humour. I am really going to miss her."Lastly, avoid platitudes. They are as empty as the thought that went into them. No, never, not at all say thing like these: I'm sure she's in a better place or she is at peace now or at least the suffering is over. further, the only appropriate occasion to mention anything religious or spiritual is when you attended the same church or shared the same faith. If not, stay off the subject.In short, the most important things to say are the simple, heartfelt things. Trust me. Those are the words that mean everything.It is nice that you want to be thoughtful about this. You must be a kind and caring person.