Is this depression? please help! i need help to stop self harming?
Need more information about what is/ what has been going on in your life and you need to find other words other than depression to tell what you are feeling, I live with depression myself, i have and still do but am ashamed that I harm myself by cutting and other ways, I like helping others like my self because I can't help myself, I have friends that help me through each day and that's what depressed people need aswell as reasons to keep going, I can give you my email if you want I can talk to you and help through most anything cause I've been at rock bottom with out a hope left, i know what its like and what you are feeling, my email is star.crossed2012@yahoo.com If you want help just email me, my name is Tara, if you talk with me I'll tell you most anything about me, about my depression, how I cope, etc. so that you feel comfortable talking with me. Even if you don't talk with me, you NEED some form of help before its too late.
How can I stop someone from self-harming?
Ok. Here you go.Acknowledge that she is right. Are you a professional therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist? Don't roll your eyes. If you aren't a professional who knows how to help her (you wouldn't be here asking how to help her), then she is actually right. Not just because you can't.... you might say something good. She isn't going to listen. She is already convinced that nothing you can say will help.Acknowledge that this is a cry for help from her. She wants you to keep on attempting to stop her, because it gets her the attention she is seeking. The more she shows you that you aren't helping, the more you will try to prove her wrong, and the more attention she will get... which is what she is looking for.Acknowledge that what she needs is an actual professional to help her. Can you make her go to one? Nope. She has to make that choice all on her own.So... how can you stop someone from self-harming? Tie them up and make them a prisoner... or suggest that they seek professional help.
How To Tell Someone That You Self-harm?
Hello. I'm 16 years old and I have been self harming for a few years. It started as just like bruising myself and hitting things but in the past month I started to cut and scratch. I try to tell myself that it isn't a big deal and that no one needs to know, but it's getting worse. I used to not know why I did it but now I know why and it's because I don't feel good enough for anyone and I have a deep self hatred for myself. I still don't think I NEED to tell someone, but I'm starting to think it would be a good idea, I want to stop, but every time I try, I end up hurting myself again. I have a friend who I have been thinking about telling. She is in band with me, which leaves us an opening to talk if she takes me home tomorrow. If she does should I tell her then? or should I tell her before? I don't have her number so I cant tell her over a text, but I'm also really scared to tell her. I don't know if she will react badly or not. So should I tell her? And if I do how should I tell her? like how should I ease into it so she wont freak out?
Need help to stop self harm without parents finding out.?
Just out of curiosity... how do you self harm if you "don't bleed or anything."? Do you starve yourself? Intentionally poison yourself? Burn yourself? Break your bones with a hammer? Do you really have a problem, or are you and your friends just bored? EDIT: As someone who cut from the age of 13 (but has now stopped): HOW THE HELL DO YOU CUT YOURSELF AND NOT BLEED?! Do you know the definition of the word "cut"? Here is what the dictionary says: To make an opening, wound, or incision in something. I mean, I guess you could scratch yourself or something. I'm not really sure how this is a problem. You don't have ugly scars and you don't cause yourself physical damage. Just tell the councillor. It could progress into something worse, and nobody needs that.
How can you tell if a self harm cut needs stitches?
As a general rule: * If the wound is "gaping" ( that is, natural swelling isn't able to keep it shut)* If you can see the fat layer beneath the skin, or*If you cannot stop the bleeding with steady, hard pressure after 10-15 minutes, you need to seek medical attention.From the way this question is worded, I'm going to assume that you don't want to call attention to your self harm by seeing a medical professional for stitches. While I'm hesitant to enable you, I also know how awful it is to feel cornered by needing medical treatment, and therefore bringing attention to your self harm.So, in light of that - it is possible to close a wound yourself without the aid of a medical professional, without stitches. You'll need something called steri-strips, which are adhesive strips meant to hold wounds closed in place of stitches. You can find these anywhere that sells first aid, for under $10, and you should only need two or three small pieces. A box of steri-strips is invaluable to have, and it lasts a while. However, if the wound has been exposed to air for more than 24 hours, then it needs to heal naturally without being held shut, because at that point it's had too much exposure to bacteria, and closing the wound would trap that nasty shit inside. If the wound is less than 24 hours old, and you do not want to seek medical attention, this will be invaluable:How to Apply Steri Strips | eHow How to Clean a Wound I sincerely hope that you can find another way to cope with things. Self harm ruined my appearance, my relationships, and got me into psychiatric lockup for most of my teenage years that left me with some significant emotional issues. If there's anything I can do to help, if you need someone to listen or advice (both on wound care or general self harm issues) or a shoulder to cry on, please don't hesitate to shoot me a message. I'll be glad to help in any way I can, and my inbox is always open to you. From someone who's been there, I promise that things do get easier to deal with. Just be safe until they do. I'm thinking of you.
How can I stop myself from doing self harm?
I cut myself until I was 21yrs old. When I stopped cutting, I basically replaced it with alcohol. I had never drank before and whenever the self-destructive urges hit me, I just drank. While I don't recommend this route, I wanted to use it for an example. Whenever you feel these urges, you must satisfy them. But you don't have to cut. I replaced cutting with alcohol, then eventually replaced alcohol with exercise. Not long ago I quit smoking, replaced cigarettes with Xanax and eventually replaced Xanax with writing. Any time you take something out of your life, the best way to cope is by replacing it with something else. Whenever you have an urge to self-harm, don't try to push the feelings away. You cannot and do not want to ignore them. Instead find something productive (preferably not drugs or alcohol) that will replace cutting but still allow you to vent your feelings. Try writing or working out (they worked well for me) ...chopping wood, jogging, talking with a friend, photography, building something like a model plane perhaps or whatever so; long as you can enjoy yourself and get your mind off cutting in a healthy way.I know how these feeling can either creep up or hit you like a truck. The urge to self-harm is one thing that only it's victims can truly understand. When these urges come, it may initially be difficult to "re-route" your thoughts to something other than cutting, but if you stick with it, it gets much easier as time goes by.Others with self-harm issues have successfully done this and I feel as though I should give a word of warning. If the activity does not at least help you stop cutting, then more than likely you have chosen the wrong activity. When you discover the right activity and stop cutting, you will likely find yourself obsessed with this activity. It's very common for an ex-cutter to become so engrossed in whatever they pursue that it takes up a large percentage of their time and is often viewed by others as unhealthy. It's important that you realize this is perfectly normal and that your obsession will eventually fade. For example, if you start building model cars, don't freak out if before you know it you've built dozens...it's better than cutting and you'll feel a lot better about yourself.
Self-harming relapse?
First, stay away from this guy because you don't need that kind of influence in your life. There will be so many great guys at college and beyond, so let this one go. Obviously you have a lot of pain inside, the cause of which only you can know or discover. I think the first thing you might want to focus on is allowing yourself to feel that pain and not try and replace it with physical pain. Also know that you are allowed to feel pain and just because there aren't scars doesn't mean it doesn't hurt you. You don't need to make scars to prove to the world that you are hurting. And your mother was wrong, you aren't just trying to get attention. You have a lot of emotional energy that you could use for constructive purposes, rather than destructive purposes. Try something creative and new - try a bunch of things and see what fits you. Right now, the reaction to the pain you are feeling is only hurting yourself more (I know you know that), and basically you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. I'm not sure if this would help, but while you are finding other ways to cope, perhaps you could try drawing on yourself with a red pen. It sounds stupid, but I actually know that for some people that helps. It's worth a shot, at least. If you really are having a hard time, talk to your school counselor. That's what they are there for, and you can get a great deal because you are a student. The stresses of adapting to a new life and schedule can bring out negative coping tactics, and they can, at the very least, help you talk out what is going on in your mind and help you realize exactly what it is that is hurting you.
Good excuses for self harm?
There aren't really any reasons to give someone. Everyone knows what cutting looks like. All you can do is cover them up. I used to use sweat bands, the ones with all the emo stuff on the and whatever, they work pretty good. I understand how good cutting feels, but you shouldn't do it. From the fact that your finding ways to hide your cuts in the future, I'd assume you want a future. If you continue cutting that future could one day just vanish. I cut for years and one day when I tried to do another cut as I always had, something went wrong. I don't know what happened, maybe my blade was too sharp, or I pushed too hard, or I went too fast. All I know is instead of just a cut, I slit my wrist. I cut open my tendon and now will have nerve damage forever and could possibly loose use of my hand one day. If I was juts the slightest bit to the left, I would have slit my vein too and then I'd be dead. Suicide is never the answer and if you continue cutting, it might be the end for you wether you want it to be or not. Please stop cutting. It's not worth it. Once you find other ways to deal with your issues life gets better. Try listening to music, I like hard metal to drown out all my bad thoughts, but the type of music is up to you. I've also found that drawing and writing were very helpful. As scary as it might sound I used to draw pictures of razor blades and knifes with blood and stuff. It might scare someone if they saw, but drawing the pictures of self-harm, made it so I didn't actually hurt myself. You have to find something that works for you. If you ever need to talk please message me. I'm hear to listen and give advice when I can. I also have a few more coping skills you might find helpful. Good luck, and please don't cut !!
Ways to stop self haming?
music - it's very therapeutic - choose songs that fit your mood - if you're mad, choose a song that illustrates it - it helps in getting out those emotions without doing yourself any damage in the process. and if that doesn't do anything for you, i'd highly suggest you see a therapist so you don't end up scarred for life...or dead. that wouldn't be good at all.