I want to self harm again and I need help?
My parents have been going through a divorce for 7 months now and it has taken its toll on me in a negative way. I am 15 and female. 3 months ago, I got into self harming and cut myself twice. I told my 2 closest friends and my very close aunt after both times because I hated keeping it all in. She told my parents after the second time and they completely flipped out and are all worried about me still. I have been wanting to cut myself again for the past 3 months, but I haven't. I have come close and I need something to help me from doing it again because I don't want to hurt the people I love again or hurt myself for other's peoples issues. Please help me!!! And also, I would like to get therapy because a lot has happened to me the past year and I think I need help, but we seriously can't afford it so thats not gonna happen and I have tried to talk to my school guidance counselor, but that didn't help either.
I'm 14 and need help with my self harm?
Go see the therapist that your GP referred you to. That's really your best option. In the mean time, instead of focusing on not cutting, focus on other positive thing you might enjoy: going for a walk, reading, listening to music, daydreaming, writing, humming, singing, making crafts or building things, cleaning up your room, playing with pets, volunteering, or whatever else you can think of. Instead of trying to make yourself stop cutting immediately, make yourself do something positive each time you cut. If you cut your leg, make a quick drawing or scribble some words down or do a stupid dance. If you cut tomorrow morning, do something nice for yourself afterwards like going for a walk or sitting on the porch or eating a healthy meal. The main point is, don't focus on stopping self-harm. Instead, focus on incorporating positive things in your life. It might take months, but eventually those positives things will help overtake self-harm. Please do go see a mental health professional. Also, if there's the potential that you'll be severely harmed after one self-harm incident, the most positive thing you can do for yourself is call 911.
How can I stop myself from doing self harm?
I cut myself until I was 21yrs old. When I stopped cutting, I basically replaced it with alcohol. I had never drank before and whenever the self-destructive urges hit me, I just drank. While I don't recommend this route, I wanted to use it for an example. Whenever you feel these urges, you must satisfy them. But you don't have to cut. I replaced cutting with alcohol, then eventually replaced alcohol with exercise. Not long ago I quit smoking, replaced cigarettes with Xanax and eventually replaced Xanax with writing. Any time you take something out of your life, the best way to cope is by replacing it with something else. Whenever you have an urge to self-harm, don't try to push the feelings away. You cannot and do not want to ignore them. Instead find something productive (preferably not drugs or alcohol) that will replace cutting but still allow you to vent your feelings. Try writing or working out (they worked well for me) ...chopping wood, jogging, talking with a friend, photography, building something like a model plane perhaps or whatever so; long as you can enjoy yourself and get your mind off cutting in a healthy way.I know how these feeling can either creep up or hit you like a truck. The urge to self-harm is one thing that only it's victims can truly understand. When these urges come, it may initially be difficult to "re-route" your thoughts to something other than cutting, but if you stick with it, it gets much easier as time goes by.Others with self-harm issues have successfully done this and I feel as though I should give a word of warning. If the activity does not at least help you stop cutting, then more than likely you have chosen the wrong activity. When you discover the right activity and stop cutting, you will likely find yourself obsessed with this activity. It's very common for an ex-cutter to become so engrossed in whatever they pursue that it takes up a large percentage of their time and is often viewed by others as unhealthy. It's important that you realize this is perfectly normal and that your obsession will eventually fade. For example, if you start building model cars, don't freak out if before you know it you've built dozens...it's better than cutting and you'll feel a lot better about yourself.
I can’t stop self harming.?
I’ve been in a pretty dark place. Since I was twelve I’ve been cutting and burning myself. At 14 I started drinking. I think I’ve lost about a year in memory. I got over the drinking just recently, at 18 years old. But I’m still cutting and burning myself. I can’t stop. I feel like if I don’t self harm, I can’t go through my day, I either self harm or I kill myself. It feels good physically. But mentally I hate it. I hate myself. I want to stop and be a better person. How can I stop? Anyone else self harm and found substitutes to it that aren’t harmful? Pleas.e I can’t take it anymore. I’m slowly killing myself by staying alive.
Is this depression? please help! i need help to stop self harming?
Need more information about what is/ what has been going on in your life and you need to find other words other than depression to tell what you are feeling, I live with depression myself, i have and still do but am ashamed that I harm myself by cutting and other ways, I like helping others like my self because I can't help myself, I have friends that help me through each day and that's what depressed people need aswell as reasons to keep going, I can give you my email if you want I can talk to you and help through most anything cause I've been at rock bottom with out a hope left, i know what its like and what you are feeling, my email is star.crossed2012@yahoo.com If you want help just email me, my name is Tara, if you talk with me I'll tell you most anything about me, about my depression, how I cope, etc. so that you feel comfortable talking with me. Even if you don't talk with me, you NEED some form of help before its too late.
Need help to stop self harm without parents finding out.?
Just out of curiosity... how do you self harm if you "don't bleed or anything."? Do you starve yourself? Intentionally poison yourself? Burn yourself? Break your bones with a hammer? Do you really have a problem, or are you and your friends just bored? EDIT: As someone who cut from the age of 13 (but has now stopped): HOW THE HELL DO YOU CUT YOURSELF AND NOT BLEED?! Do you know the definition of the word "cut"? Here is what the dictionary says: To make an opening, wound, or incision in something. I mean, I guess you could scratch yourself or something. I'm not really sure how this is a problem. You don't have ugly scars and you don't cause yourself physical damage. Just tell the councillor. It could progress into something worse, and nobody needs that.
How can I help my friend who's self-harming?
Self-harm is a symptom that can take many forms. But what to do depends on the situation. First, a caveat: You are a friend, not a caretaker. Being supportive and helpful is part of friendship, but try to keep in mind that you cannot bear the responsibility for the person alone. Being friends with someone who’s self-destructive can be exhausting, and you may need support yourself. Try to stay away from a downward spiral of increasing feelings of responsibility and guilt coupled with isolation. I’ve been there, on both sides, and it’s bad for everyone.But, in terms of what you can do, there’s the long-term and the short-term. Long-term, try to find out why they self-harm (e.g. depression? anxiety?) and try to get them to a professional. And just, in general, be a *friend*. If it’s depression, try to engage them in stuff, try to get them to take a walk with you and so on. Depression is a downward spiral itself and sometimes you need a bit of a push in the right direction from a friend.Self-harm is often a coping mechanism that frequently also turns into a kind of psychological addiction, Short-term, it depends on them. Talk to them about it sometime when they’re in (relatively) good condition.If they *want* to self-harm and don’t want to stop doing it, there’s not really much you can do about the symptom itself. Forcing the issue too much might risk harming your relationship without aiding the person at all.If they want to stop self-harming, but can’t do it alone, help them out in making the self-harm itself harder. If they cut themselves, get rid of their razor blades. If they starve themselves, be a bother about them eating. And so on.