My mom left my family and I need help.?
My mom left 20 mins ago. My mom and dad were fighting and they were both shouting really loudly. My dad went out and sat in the lounge. They are really good parents and they dont fight much. They always put my siblings and I first so I dont know what's wrong. Suddenly my mom got up and started packing her bags. She told us she loved us and that she was really sorry for everything that she's done. Then she just left. I dont know what to do and i'm sitting here seeking advice. My dad's asleep and my brothers are playing video games. I dont know what to do and im stressing and crying over my mom. I NEED her in my life. I also have this big performance 2moro and I cant perform without her. What if she doesn't come? Please give me some advice, because untill she comes back, I'm just gunna be sitting in my room bawling. Iv'e never performed without her and she's my other half. Please help me....Thank-you for reading and taking some time of your lives to listen.
The only reason i live is because my family will be sad if i die....help?
I have seen a therapist: it only made things worse, my parents keep trying to get me help. i do pray, and i pretend to be happy. I feel that i can't cry or my family will be upset, and people tell me to just be happy!! how?? sadness is all i know!! the depression is apart of me, i can act happy but i still feel awful inside, i can't go on like this anymore
Parents know i smoke weed need help!?
maybe he has experienced things you haven't with smoking. you should talk to him about it, ask him why since he smoked that he is against you smoking. do it in a non argumentative way. Just walk up to him, when he is in a good mood, and say hey dad, i have a serious question for you. you said you used to smoke it but you get mad at me for smoking. is there something i should know that can let me understand why you are against it. just try to have a serious conversation about it with him. let him know your not asking this to be rebellious or argumentative or anything like that , just see if he can tell you why, ask him to help you understand. it would prob be a good idea to talk to him about it when your mom is not around, that might help him to open up more.
Why would homeless people's family allow them to be homeless?
A large number of homeless people are mentally ill or brain damaged and their families cannot deal with them any longer. My own father went homeless after being released from prison for pedophelia, having sexually molested me, my step sister, and a child he was babysitting (these are the ones known, there are probably many others). The family could not deal with him any longer. He was brain damaged from repeated concussions from sports and several car accidents. It's hard to know what caused what. Did he drive so crazy and have bad judgment from brain damage, or did he get brain damage from driving fast and poorly? But it released his inhibitions and allowed him to prey on the innocent.Pedophelia was not the only manifestation of brain damage. He was also irrational and quick to anger. He borrowed or stole things from the family. He couldn't keep a job. He pushed the family towards the poorhouse.It was an attempt to stabilize the family that led to my dad being kicked out of the family home. He was likely 30 by then, living with his parents. He had been lovingly called the black sheep until his conviction. After that we just did not talk about him at all. It's as if we were part of the family by adoption rather than birth. The family kept tabs on where he was and gave him some money occasionally. He eventually was employed enough to rent a tiny studio apartment and buy a beat up bicycle. Rather employed long enough in a union job to get unemployment whenever he was laid off. He lived in that apartment over 10 years until he died of an illness rather suddenly. He never did admit to having molested me, only saying that he did not remember. Perhaps that is the brain damage, but I don't know how a person could forget a thing like that.It's painful to have a family member who is homeless. When people ask about your family, you either have to lie or become a victim of their pity. It's kind of horrifying, but the family was being ripped limb from limb while he was present so this is the best alternative. It is a relief that he is no longer around.
Help! I’m a closeted teen lesbian! TEEN LESBIANS PLEASE HELP!!?
My name is Kenley, I’m 16 and I’m a lesbian. I’m in the closet because my whole family and community is homophobic and they’ll kick me out and hate me if they knew the truth. I don’t know any openly gay people. I really need someone to talk to, just someone I can have a virtual lesbian relationship with so that I remember to stay true to myself. Please! If you’re a teen lesbian girl, help me! We can email or exchange phone numbers and text and call and just have a relationship (with no real commitment, like in your real life you can still be with someone, just be my girlfriend too.) I know this is weird, but please, just think about what I’m going through. I need someone to trust, to talk to, and to really get an experience of a relationship with another girl, even if it will be only real to me. PLEASE HELP ME! (Please no mean comments. If you’re not interested just don’t respond…) I think if you got to know me you would really like me :3
I don't want to live anymore. I feel alone and useless. I don't want my family to suffer for me either. What can I do?
Dear Ariel,You do not need to explain.I know this feeling well. I spent 3 years in very deep depression and wanted to die every day. I tried committing suicide once but failed. I felt useless and worthless and totally alone. I still remember what it was like. I know the bottomless pit. I also know how to get out of it and to dissolve the depression once and for all.I strongly recommend you go to my blog at lifesanswers.org and read everything there about depression and how to get rid of it. Do all the practices and suggestions listed there. Do that starting today.Having said that. A couple things that are very important….First, if you die in depression, in the darkness, it will follow you. There is no relief in death. It will actually feel worse and even more real. Plus you will add guilt to the mix. So suicide is really not a good option.Second, you can get rid of the depression and the feelings of uselessness if you commit yourself to it. It will take work on your part by you can do it. You are not alone. There are people who care about you and you should make them a part of your support system.Third, you need to find a good therapist who has experience with depression. Make that person a part of your support system as well.I tell you these things from my experience and the experience of hundreds of other people I have worked with and helped.You can get out of this dark pit, this pain that never seems to end. You can do it. The darkness is lying to you.Remember, you are not alone and you are not worthless no matter what that inner dialog tells you.Take careJon
My sister committed suicide in March of 2014 and my parents have been a mess since then. What am I supposed to do?
Sweetie, I'm so sorry about your loss. The reason your folks are acting the way they are is because they're grieving. They loved your sister dearly, just like they love you dearly, and they probably are blaming themselves for her death. You're right when you say that your mom shouldn't have gone back to work so soon after your sister's death. But I think that she probably was trying to use work as an escape from her thoughts and her grief, which were and still are overwhelming. I'm also not surprised that your parents appear to have forgotten that they have another child, namely, you. They're so overwhelmed with grief and guilt right now that they aren't thinking straight. You need to do whatever you can to get yourself and your parents into some grief counseling. Start by reaching out to someone at school, like the guidance counselor, or the psychologist if your school has one. Or tell a teacher you trust. Whomever you tell is your choice, but remember that you CAN'T keep silent about something like this. You and your family NEED HELP, and the only way that you can get it is by speaking up and letting other people know what's going on at home. Professionals like teachers and school administrators are trained to help students deal with losses and tragedies like this. You may think that your parents aren't interested in helping you with college, but I think otherwise. I think that once they get over the shock and the grief from your sister's death, they may very well pin all their hopes an dreams on you, and will likely do whatever it takes to see that you get a good education. Of course it doesn't seem like that now, because they're still actively grieving the loss, and so are you. But when things calm down and the three of you finally start to feel better, their viewpoint will change. That's why, even though it's tough to concentrate and do your schoolwork right now, you need to keep your grades up and stay involved with school and life. You have an important job to do, which is to get accepted into a good college. Your folks WILL come around at some point, and they will help you.