Trust issues with my mom ? please help :(?
Okay so i live in Bronx new york , and im dominicna and im 13 , but i am very mature for my age and i know that weed , sex , drinking , and all of that is wrong for me to do at a young age like this , i mean i go to church every sunday -__- . but everyone my age and up gets to go ouside and go to partys [8 PM - 12 am ) atleast . and their always having fun on the weekends , and they get to go outside and have fun and stuff and go to the movies . but the prob,ome is that my mom doesnt let me do ANYTHING , and i seriously mean , ANYTHING . like shes too over protective and i just want freedome because im going onto highschooll this year & i want to make it to college [ to another state) . so i want to have fun now i know im going to have fun while in college but im not gona have the same friends as i do now . and its really becoming an issue now because my mom is always thinking about wat other people think as in my family . and i cant trust my mom for nothing because she ends up telling the ENTIER family -_______________________________________... , not cool . but ii behave good in schooll , all my grades are 80 and above . [ besides social studies , i got a 75 :/ ) and all lat is good . so i just ask myself why cant she let me go outside & shes always saying how theres bad people outside and stuff and im always telling her okay i know but your acting like im going to be alone , im not going to be alone im going to be with a group of other people and my biggest issue right now is that i have a boyfriend and hes always asking me wen are we going to hang out , but im always fronting on him because i cant go outside :( . and its really messing us up and i dont plan on having sex untill im 17 or older and i already talked to him about it & he said hes fine with it he doesnt need sex [[ thank god :) . but waht can i do to make mymom trust me and go outside and stuff , and its not like im going to be outside evry day , like maybey on friday night , and then next week on saturday and stuff . . .
I can t trust my mom anymore..help.?
My mom and i have a decent bond I can tell her what goes on at school and usually how I m feeling. But recently my moms been having trust issues becuase my dad cheated on her, but since hes gone for a business trip, she was looking for her nice Dior SUnglasses which arent cheap, and she has hiding spots in the house just so nobody takes em. and she couldn't find them so I decided to help her, and I told her I remember what it looked like so I explained to her, but she just got suspicous, and yes I do lnow where her hiding spots are and I have been through them once ot twice because I was curious and she knows, but I dont take her **** like thats personal, then she started to accuse me if I gave them away or I fi took em and I was standing in my room holding the door crying so she couldn't come in. eventually I let her in and she wanted to check my room and went through my personal things and traxshed my room. she couldn't find them and said I'm sorry. but I just went in the bathroom and cried, she kept saying things how I stole and broke her things when im not perfect okay. but I haven't come out of my room for 6 hours and I don't even wanna look at her. Please help what should I do. She has come to my door and been like I'm sorry please come out and i just screamed at her which probably doesnt help, but its Superbowl and IDK please help! No hate please.
What should I do if my mom doesn't trust me?
The possible reasons of her not trusting you might be:Either you must have made a mistake sometime, which need not to be big, even a small lie to meet just friends falls in this category.Or, seeing at the modern world, she anticipate you as well as the part of vicious circle, so this is not distrust but over cautious.In any of the cases, gaining trust is a slowest process, and breaking trust the fastest.So the only thing you can do to gain her trust is:Strike more and more conversation with her about your friends, tell her about your every friend, and not for sake for telling but in simple stories.When you leave house, before she asks, tell her yourself about your complete plan.When out keep making her calls at regular interval, to update about your whereabouts.Parents gain trust on friends when they meet, so once a while, plan get together at your home only.Sooner or later you will gain her trust back, and once its in place, maintain it and gradually her nagging will fade away.Thanks for A2A.
Gf's mom doesn't trust me!?
Me and my previous girlfriend dated for 5 months, things were going great. Then one night when we were getting romantic, she said that she won't have sex as she is waiting until marriage. I really respect her faithfulness to religion, but I knew right then and there that it wasn't going to work. So I met another girl and dumped my previous girlfriend. Things are even better with my new GF or at least they were until my gf's mom had a talk with me. Apparently my old gf told her mon that I broke up with her because she wanted to keep her virginity until marriage, and her mom is friends with my current gf's mom an when she found out I was dating her, my previous gf's mom too my current gf's mom that I'm "sexually active". Yesterday when me and my gf were at her house her mom came over and said "so I heard you dumped your last gf because she wouldn't give you sex"? "We'll, if I ever catch you two or see any evidence of it, I'll have both of your A$$'s". She then said that I'm never allowed to be there when she's not home, and she's never allowed over at my house, and whenever we go out to dinner, she had to check in so she knows that we just go out and right back. I can't believe that my ex gf did this! Now me and my g Gf's relation ship is constantly supervised, and we've only been dating for a week an the mothe already doesn't trust me. What can I do to gain the mother's trust and what if my ex gf's mom tells other people??
How do you overcome major trust issues? My mom says that the world is cruel, do not trust anyone. Because of this I can't make friends or date anyone. I am too afraid to trust.
Well , your mom said that to protect you from getting hurt. In some ways she is right. But answers this : can some one trust you ? If your answer is yes then are you the only person who can be trusted? There are many like you right, so just be careful about what you share and how much trust and go ahead and live your life and learn from your own experience. If you go into the world with distrust your experience will reflect your beliefs. What you put out there is what will come back to you.But be judicious: For example you may trust you gardner with your garden but not with the keys to your house. You can trust your accountant with your financial details to file your income tax but you won't give him the keys to your bank lockers.So the point is everyone can be trusted to some extent . As you learn to trust you will learn whom to trust and how much to trustOK so if you trust what will you lose ? Are you a millionaire businessman ,who will get cheated of all his wealth? Are you a vampire who will be outed by those you trust? You have nothing to lose now and so this is the best time to learn to trust and to learn how much to trust. If you don't learn to trust trust you will limit your potential and your future.So go out make friends date , have fun and enjoy yourself , this one life is all you' ve got don't take it for granted.
I'm 14 and my mom doesn't trust me. When I approached her about it she said: "No parent trusts their 14-year-old, if they do, they're stupid." How do I get my mom to trust me?
Though I am reaching 60, one of my favorite quotes comes from a Harry Potter book The Chamber of Secrets “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” Albus Dumbledore.You show being trust worthy by demonstrating that your choices are worthy of trust. Does your mother have to ask you repeatedly to do chores? If so, your choice to not participate in household duties demonstrates you are not trust worthy. And, if you do take on your chores, do you tackle other projects without being asked? If not, your choices show you are not trust worthy.Now, if you do your chores, your homework, and invest time assisting in the household (help a younger sibling with homework; offer to take on making dinner; spending time with an elder relative; other examples) then, ask your mother where are you missing the mark.**When I was 14, my mom became a full time college student. My brothers and I were not asked, rather, we just did — made about half of dinners, all kitchen cleanup, lunches for school (including a bag lunch for mom), about half the laundry, older brothers grocery shopped, younger and I maintained the lawn. And the grandkids spent one night/week with grandmother, vacuuming/cleaning her apartment, making dinner and shopping (plus picking her up for medical appointments, and twice weekly dinner at home, and other outings).
I’m 15 and have severe trust issues. Should I talk to a teacher (who has recently been asking if something’s wrong) about my mom being mentally abusive towards me?
A2A: Absolutely! The system is there to help. I won’t lie to you…there is a possibility that your reporting will cause your mom to react in negative ways, but you should speak to your teacher about this fear as well. You teacher is a mandated reporter. If he suspects abuse, he will have to report it. Most people I know are very careful with that much power. Sometimes, they are so careful, that they fail to report what they should, and the problem gets worse than it needed to be. It would probably be better if he had all of your facts, and then you can decided what to do together.Now, about your mom. My guess is something happened 5 years ago that she is trying to cope with, and she may not be doing a very good job of it. It could have something to do with you, or it could be something you don’t even know about. If she isn’t listening to you when you tell her she’s gone off the deep end [trust me, it’s hard for a parent to listen to “a child” about there being something wrong with the parent - especially when the parent is already pissed about something], maybe she needs help. I’ve seen cases where reporting child abuse/neglect turned out to be the best thing that could have happened to the family as a whole. Parent(s) get help, kid(s) get help, and life becomes more tolerable.Talk to your teacher.