I need advice about a girl who left me for another guy.?
So here's the situation... Ive known this girl for years. Always considered her out of my league so i never even tried. This girl is BEAUTIFUL. She had been dating this guy for about a year and a half and the guy was a complete a$$hole to her. Always made her pay, never complimented her, had her on SUCH a short leash, he was a complete jerk to everyone he came into contact with. She dumped him because he cheated on her twice. On my birthday, she called me wishing me a good day. This was about 3 weeks after they had broken up. We started talking for a few days and eventually she asked me to hang out. Of course I'd say yes because I'd had a crush on her for years. We went out, went bowling, had a great time. I was aware of the whole "rebound" situation so I played it cool for a while. Two months have gone by and I was the happiest guy on the planet. We saw eachother everyday, she'd call me in the middle of the might saying she missed me, pretty much every single moment we could, we talked/ were together. Just today she informed me that she still likes her ex and doesn't know if she wants to continue with us because there is the possibility that she will leave me for him in the future. Broke my heart when I heard it. We talked about it for about an hour. She left, and we continued texting. I don't know where she went (possibly to him) but she hasn't talked to me since. Keep In mind that we hadn't gone a single day without talking in 2 months. I've tried calling her, texting her, emailing her, anything to talk to her and I haven't gotten anything. I don't know what to do. Should I keep trying to contact her or should I leave her be? I'm afraid If I leave her be she will lose feelings for me and gain them for him in the meantime. I do not want to lose this girl and I could really use some help =( I am not in high school so this is an adult relationship. I'm sorry this is so long but I though you should know the whole story. Thank you in advance
Ive just been raped and i need advice?
I was at a party. i got very drunk and the friend who was supposed to be watching me brought me into the bedroom of the guy who owns the apartment. I feel asleep then a second door leading into the bedroom was opened. It was the guy who owned the apartment. He locked both doors. I kept saying no but couldnt physically hold him off. He was 21 and he didnt even know me, this was the first time i met this guy. I have a boyfriend who ive been together with for two years. I told him what happened and he is very upset with me, said he couldn't believe I would do this and said he doesnt wanna listen to me. This happened last night. I will not report him. My mother was raped by her stepfather when she was younger... this will kill her. I also will not report on the fact that im so ashamed and i refuse to be known as "the girl who got raped cause she was too drunk to know the difference". I dont know what to do... all i want is my boyfriend's support.... and he refuses to give it. Someone please help me.
My girlfriend feels like i dont care anymore??? please help?
If you guys almost broke up because she "really liked another guy" then it sounds like shes unsure about what she wants and not as serious as you. Especially since she allowed herself to see something in another guy but the fact that she stayed with you shows that she sees something in you too and has stronger feelings for you. Pay attention to her and what she likes. Does she like watching movies in the house or going out bowling or just cuddling? Does she like to talk or listen? What does she like to talk about? what does she like to listen to? Does she like her feet or back rubbed? is she the mushy type? Does she like holding hands? does she like kissing and showing affection in public? Does she like going to the beach? is she shy or a show off? Pay attention to her and her reactions. Send her little random love notes every now and then in little random places she wouldn't expect like on her fav fruit in the fridge, in front of her speed gauge in her car, her bed room mirror, the bathroom mirror, etc. where ever. Take her out to do things you know she likes and maybe hasn't done in a while. or keep her in to do the same if that's what she prefers. Give her random kissed though out the day, not just as a greeting or when saying "good bye" but don't smother her- unless she likes that's. Again pay attention to her and her reactions. Whats her fav color, place to go out to eat, thing to do with you? whats your fav thing about her? whats her fav thing about you? What does she love about you? Ask your self these questions while spending time with her, pay attention to her, her reactions, and her body language. It will tell you everything you wanna know. its all right in front of you, in her =) Don't be over obsessive or scare her by doing any of this, just be observant and pay attention =) And this goes for your sex lives as well (if there is one). That's an important part of a relationship and intimacy, but not the main focus. just plays a part you know. Good luck! Hope I helped.
Most of the people here have told you to stop bugging her about it. I agree wholeheartedly. You've commented in response to those answers,I don't think if she not ready, I think she's just scared because it a new thing.And I'm here to tell you that it doesn't matter.It doesn't matter why she doesn't want to have sex with you. It doesn't matter if she's not ready, or she's just scared, or she's waiting until the third full moon of 2031. If she doesn't want to have sex, you should respect her decision (even if you don't agree or you think it's silly) and back off. She knows you want to have sex with her. When she's comfortable, she'll let you know. Until then, every time you try to change her mind, you're making her feel bad about herself. You're making her feel like your sexual needs are more important than her comfort and control over her body. You're making her feel like you don't think she's intelligent enough to make her own decisions. You're telling her that you think you know her better than she knows herself.If you succeed in changing her mind through sheer force of will, how do you think the sex is going to go? She's going to be nervous and uncomfortable leading up to it, she's probably not going to enjoy the act (since if she's nervous beforehand it's a lot harder to get aroused and you'll probably hurt her) and after that, she'll probably regret it. Now she associates sex with all those negative feelings. You've damaged her entire view of sex. Think it's going to be easy to have good sex with her in the future?None of your thoughts matter here. What matters is that your girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you and you need to stop your coercive behaviour and respect her wishes.
So i think i have lost feelings for my girlfriend all of a sudden i dont know what to do? i really want her ?
Please can someone give me some advice honestly.... i know sometimes u lose feelings and you cant do anything about it... I love her to death we are both 18 and have been dating for almost 5 months we have had our fights... and lately the past 4 days I have been depressed about my own stuff I cant even eat.. is it possible that i still really like her as i used to but im just depressed... if i lose feelings for her honestly do you think they will come back...? we have had sooo many wonderful memories and before we were talking about marriage and kids.. i know bit crazy. I dont want to move on the a different girl and i believe maybe i am just depressed.. i used to see her every other day or so but now i see her constantly and maybe that's what is causing my loss of feelings.. she is leaving on vacation for a week in like 5 days so i think this time apart will help me think and i hope and think i will regain my feelings... it just happened randomly in the car where i looked at her and said wow i don't like her anymore... she is gorgeous but i am just not attracted to her for some reason.. is it my depression?or maybe because im seeing her so much now i don't know what to do? will this break make me love her again i don't want to leave her helppp please??? is it also because maybe i see her so much now im bored.. i used to cry for this girl at night when we got into fights and now idk please help me.. give me some meaningful advice i dont want to break up with her and lose her please dont tell me to let her be experience the world all the crap lol tell me something else?we lost feelings for each other before our 1 month and then i went on vacation unpurposly for 2weeks... when i came back we were stronger then ever please helppp me shes the girl i used to cry about???