What am i supposed to do with myself?
It may be necessary to see a professional who specializes in eating disorders. Your mother does not have the sufficient knowledge to help you through this. Anorexia, like any other addiction, will be a life long thing. You have to realize that life is not about how you look, or how thin you are. The whole time you spend obsessing over your weight you are missing out on genuine life experiences that will help you grow into a beautiful young woman. When you find yourself looking in the mirror and pointing out flaws, look away, go take a walk. Take all of the full length mirrors out of your room, or house. Make sure to eat healthy, fresh fruits and vegetables, as little processed foods as possible. With exercise and healthy eating habits you will maintain a healthy trim body. Dancing and hula-hooping are great forms of fun exercise that dont require a gym. When you feel the thoughts about not feeling thin enough creeping in try and distract yourself. Make a bracelet out of glass beads and string. Read a book. Please, do not be afraid to contact a counselor. That is why the exist. The more you are able to distract your mind from those thoughts about weight, the more natural it will become, and the weight-control thoughts will drift away. It is called cognitive behavioral therapy, you change the way you act and feel by changing the way you think. Its extremely helpful. Good luck
How am I supposed to navigate myself through a world that I don't fit in with?
Hi there, Coming from a 20 year old guy, believe me I know how you feel. I too am a loner that ovoids people my age and most people in general because to be honest, I find most people to be boring and uninteresting for the same reasons that you mentioned. (whining about celebrities and twilight..etc) I really wish I had the answer to your question, how do you navigate through a world you don't belong in? how do you live a life alienated from everything? these are questions I ask myself everyday, and unfortunately have not found the answer to. The only thing I can surmise right now is that we're just supposed to do whatever makes us happy and go with it, follow your heart and stop caring about what other people are doing. So far this has worked pretty good for me, although I can't help but still feel like I don't belong here. This may be a feeling that haunts us for the rest of our lives because we fail to engage in the simple-minded hum-drum boring reality that other people we dislike do. As they always said, geniuses are always misunderstood and alone.
Am I supposed to be hearing myself talk on my Turtle Beach X41?
That is not an issue, but rather a great feature. Microphone monitoring lets you hear yourself in the headset so that you do not yell into the microphone, or get the clogged ear feeling because you are unable to hear yourself speak.
Primarily, the only reference point you have is a mirror. So, let’s discuss that.Believe it or not, you’re asymetrical — your left half and your right half don’t quite perfectly match; it’s really close, but there are differences. And, this is normal. For instance, people usually have one eye that’s a little larger than the other.Additionally, when you look in a mirror, you’re looking at yourself more or less head-on. That gives the illusion of flattened features.If a person with a telephoto lens shot you more or less head-on from a few feet away and reversed the image left-to-right, you’d find the photo more flattering.Our mental image of ourself often excludes the little flaws that jump out at us. And, so skin flakes and discolorations, even pimps, or stray strands of hair can be visually distracting. Usually this type of stuff is taken care of in image post-processing via photo retouching.Another problem has to do with lighting; this is a complex subject unto itself, but one wants to avoid an on-camera flash, as well as harsh lighting, and also bad artificial lighting. Not doing so will result in red-eye, dark shadows, and skin discoloration from improper white-balancing.There’s also posture and poses you can do that will do everything from making both eyes seem the same size to putting a pleasing curve in your stance; you can make it so your limbs don’t dangle, and you can get rid of flab from the chin or arms. It’s even possible to slim down belly fat. And all of them based on how you are viewed.Even your smile can play a strong role. Just showing teeth or pulling back on your cheek muscles isn’t a genuine smile; those involve the eyes as well.A good part of the problem is simply that you don’t see yourself the way others do (and accept you, I might add) — this is why they may say the picture is fine. And honestly, it is. But there are ways to get a photo that shows you as you perceive yourself, as covered above; these are all learnable skills.So, the good news is you’re not ugly! But, you may want to talk with someone experienced behind a camera to get the look you want.
Am I supposed to feel this way?
So, Christmas is coming up, and my mom got us presents and stuff. Honestly, this year, I haven't been wanting for anything, and I would be perfectly fine with whatever. But that's not the point. So, my mom is always the one who gets us presents; my dad never even knows what she gets us. But he always gets my mom something super special, like a new phone, or some fancy brand clothes. But, he hardly pays attention to us. My mom is the opposite, she doesn't get anything for my dad, but she pays a lot of attention to us. I feel sort of jealous of my dad, and I am sort of angry at him, because all he is doing is paying attention to my mom, who never does anything for him anyway. And, I was going to make presents for both of them, but today my dad asked me to wrap my mom's gift, and he has hardly talked to me about Christmas, except things to do with my mom. He is so absorbed in her. One day she fainted, and he was like treating her like a child. I was ignored when I was on the verge of killing myself, and I am always ignored when I cry, even being yelled at. But whenever she cries, there is always someone there to rescue her. It's not fair. And, this might be selfish, and I'm not sure why I am feeling like this, because it's the first time. But overall, I am pretty depressed and upset, even for something as small as this. Please don't call me a brat, I know I might be being one, and i have already been called that enough. I just want some answers on how to deal with my feelings.
So confused... what am I supposed to make of this?
For awhile now, I've been battling with my sexuality. I'm 17 now, and have never dated. Never come close to. For a few years, I went with the idea that I was gay, no questions asked. But as I explore these ideas and feelings in my head, I can no longer say I am so sure.... But I have no idea how to make sense of how I feel I guess the best way to describe this is to try to explain in words. I have understood my attraction for males for a long time now, and it is fairly unarguable. But I can't really say I've ever been attracted to a woman's form. I have had "crushes" on some girls, I'm assuming mostly for their personalities. And so with this, I have thought I was simply gay. That'd seem a logical conclusion, right? But lately I've been exploring it more in my head. I've tried imagining myself with either gender (I hope what I right here, and here on, doesn't sound creepy >.< I am trying to be sincere, but I am not good with writing). I can see myself being emotionally attached to a guy more than I can a woman. But the love I'd seek with him, whoever he may be, is innocent - almost like a brotherly love. I would want a guy to talk to, to open up to, and share a day with. And so on. One thing I can't imagine, however, is ever being physically involved with a guy... I am not at all aroused by the idea of... as much as I hate to be frank, here... having sex with a man. When I... try to imagine such things during... certain times... (ugh, if there was less blunt a way to vocalize this), I am only moved by the idea of being fully physical with a woman, even though I am not necessarily attracted to women.... I have absolutely no idea what to think anymore; it sucks. I am confused beyond belief and I fear I'll never be able to be with someone, because I have no idea who I want to be with. What am I supposed to make of this? Or is there anything logical to see? Am I doomed to be this confused and messed up forever?
I am a loser... How am I supposed to get a relationship!!!!!!!!!!!?
You need to see a therapist immediately. I don't know about the UK, but in the US there are plenty of free clinics for people with low income. You should do a Google search and make some calls.
What am I supposed to do about this?
First off, why did your mom marry this guy, lol???? I think you already have the right idea. If he touches your stuff, call the cops. Even your mom couldn't take your stuff away if you own it. I had this happen to a friend. She had to call the cops to get her phone back (which was in her name) The cop said you either have to kick her out or come to some sort of agreement. You cannot touch her stuff if she paid for it. It doesn't matter who owns the house. Put a huge dead bolt on your door, like you already said. Giving you and your adult sister (who is over 21 right) a curfew is just redonkulous. Telling her that she can't drink or else she will be grounded, lol. Who does this guy think he is? One of the things you are going to have to do is get your mom on your side. SHe is going to have to talk some sense to this guy. I can't believe she is just sitting back and letting him make all these rules. Honestly, what is he going to do when you just laugh at him when he tries to ground you. Watch out though. He seems like the crazy type that might actually try and use corporal punishment on an adult woman. (meaning you) Again, don't let him touch anything that's in your name. Call the cops if you have to. Don't let him go through your purse or touch your laptop. Tell him straight up, I will call the cops on you if you touch my stuff. Have your older sister with you when you confront him. He wants to be able to read your text messages, lol???? Since you probably won't be able to reason with him maybe write a letter to him. That way you could get all your point across. Personally I would just try and ignore him and his rules. You will probably have to call the cops once just to let him know you mean business.... Next time he takes your phone or car keys. Damn, he actually goes in your room and goes through your things. What a crazy control freak. He is not even your father. What does your sister say about all of this??
As far as I can remember, I have never posted a picture of myself on Quora. Entirely possible, but it's never been my profile picture.When I first started here, my profile had a stock picture of some cat, same as I used for most of my other accounts.Now it's just an old drawing.I have a few reasons for not showing my face on every answer:I’m a teenager. This is easy to find if you look through my profile, but not having it everywhere can give me more credibility.I’m non-binary and answer LGBTQ questions here at Quora. My profile picture combined with my androgynous name makes people not assume my gender, or think I'm male. That's fine by me.Similarly, women on Quora can be harrassed for their gender. If picture showed me in all my female glory, I might get unwanted PMs and so on. I’d rather not deal with that if I don't have to.I don't have many followers, but I am active enough that some people recognize me. Changing my picture now would only result in confusion. “I know that name, but who are you?!”I can be slightly paranoid about having my picture on the Internet. Not rational, just me.Besides, I like the drawing.I don't have a problem posting pictures of myself on specific answers, but profile pictures are always there. They're small, but can instantly tell the reader your age, sex, and other things you might not want them to know if it isn't relevant.That said, I might eventually use a picture of myself.This is a picture of me I considered making my profile picture:
I think Varsha has covered it brilliantly. But still I will add something from a slightly different perspective.You yourself mentioned this - "Do I need to hire someone that will punch me in the face each time I screw up?"I think, you need to figure out, what exactly is the reason behind this. You can work at keeping your mind on track. You can follow what's been mentioned on the answers, to slowly help you. And all of that will help you in the long run. But looking at it differently, why are you not able to stick to something?I often feel the same. I set myself deadlines, and I am not able to follow up on them. And the process of over-thinking begins for me. Slowly it occurred to me that I procrastinate a lot at times (well wasn't shocking for me either). I slack-off. I start on something and soon enough I get distracted by a random youtube video, a tv show, websites like facebook. And that sticks with me for hours at times, while the work I was supposed to do sits on my desk getting bored, unlike me. Slowly, I have started to change the way I handle such situations. I have realized that the reason I can't get all my work done is because I don't manage my time well enough, and that I waste my time as well. Maybe, that's one of the reasons holding you back and I think you are already aware of that. You will probably get tensed at times, thinking - "Crap, I didn't follow through again", but, you need to remember, that this is a commitment you made to yourself, and you can be in control of the consequences that follow. You need to have a stronger will-power to finish what you started. And you can't have that with your mind not at peace with all this over-thinking. Stop being so hard on yourself.And thanks for the A2A, although I don't know how much I could help the OP.