I really hate my dad...?
I'll make a long story short, i really dont like my dad, he and i never get along and have nothing in common. when i try to be nice, he does something to repel me and make me wish i never tried. Now you see here's my dilemma, it happens every year... his birthday is this weekend and i'd rather not get him a gift, but if i dont then my mom will be sad, he'll be angry, and it will be one giant headache. Does anyone other than me have this problem? is fathers day/ mother's day, birthday's, christmas and any other holiday for that matter just bring up unpleasant feelings?
Why don't I like my dad?
This was very interesting to read, and my heart breaks for you given the situation. I'm 19 and my dad passed away when I was 13 years old. I miss him every single day and think about him constantly. He was super funny, very friendly, motivated, a good father/husband, and just a great person. I am lucky to have had a dad that I loved, and knew loved me. But I've grown up with friends who have horrible relationships with their father; they don't even speak to one another. And if they do speak, the father abuses them, emotionally and physically. Every one is different--and I don't think you're "weird" or "abnormal" for not having feelings for your dad. I was going to say that maybe "you don't know what you got til it's gone" kinda thing..but it sounds like you're living your life just fine without him. Maybe he hasn't made a lasting impression on you. When you think of the times you had together...all the memories you share...do they make you smile? laugh? cry? Or no emotion at all? I think for the sake of your well being..you should stop questioning it and stop thinking about it and just "feel" and live your life with feeling and not thinking about it..if that makes sense. Or else it'll just drive you crazy. If you do figure it out, that's great. But if not, please don't dwell on it to the point where it consumes your life. I really wish I could help more. Good luck with everything and God bless you!!!
I don't really like my dad?
I know he's my dad and everything but sometimes I really wish he wasn't. It wasn't always like this, when I was younger (I'm 16) me and my dad would have so much fun together. There were some problems with his side of the family so he left for a couple months, which actually turned in to 5 years. He came back when I was 14 and I sorta felt awkward around him. He hugged me and bought me things but I didn't really care. In the two years he's been back I have never called him "dad" not even once, I use to, not anymore. He doesn't do stuff with me like he did before he left when I was like 8 and under. Now he just sits on his phone or watches tv when he's not at work. Obviously, not having him around for 5 years I missed out on things guys should know, like about fixing cars and stuff like that. The stuff I do know I learned from my uncle. My grades are not the best right now because I'm really struggling but my parents think I'm "lazy", that's not true. My mom has always shown him my grades and I got lectures about them and stuff but this time he got angry and said I the grades didn't change he was going to hit me. In my mind while he was yelling I was just like, "who are YOU to say something like that, you haven't been here for 5 years and you think you can discipline me? Hit me right now and I swear ill do something ill regret" I didn't say I out loud obviously, but still. I try to avoid him as much as possible cuz I don't want to talk to him. Is there something wrong with me?
I don't like my step dad.?
I strongly dislike my step dad for many reasons. I am 13 now and my mom and dad were together for 16 years. My dad was in the army for 12. I was 8 when my mom got married again and I was 7 when my parents got divorced. My dad was drunk one night and had an afair with my mom. Then my mom wanted to surprise him on his army trip and she walked in. They got divorced shortly after. My mom got most of my dads stuff and he moved in the same town as my grandparents. My dad got married with the lady he had sex with that one night. My new step mom was one of the people you might call a witch. Eighteen times she stole our stuff and left us living with grandparents. My dad still kept on comeing back to her. One night she was cussing me out and slapped me. That was the night my dad left her. That's my dads story. My mom got married with this guy not one of my siblings liked (older brother and little sister in the middle child). He is from Arkansas and left his kids because he was broke and wanted to live off my moms job which is pretty comfortable living style. My brother got into drugs and alcohol soon after my parents divorce. He has takin away from us 4 times. Me and my brother are the bestest friends in the world. It hurt very bad to see him get arrested. I was getting very depressed because my step dad yelled at me a lot and I had low self esteem. Everytime I tried talking to my mom about how I don't like him. She made me tell him to his face what I think of him. Idomtknowwhattodo
Is it bad that I don't love my dad?
It's ultimately your choice.If he was never there - you never developed any feelings for him: you know, I've observed others - their families, having a second parent seemed to provide more stability. And, sure, a son would be able to talk to dad easier than mom (guy stuff. I realize kids - their parents get along differently than others, but it seemed the kid respected - appreciated a supportive and caring parent (even if they didn't always agree, knowing your parents have your back really helps you develop your courage). If your dad has been there, and your feelings are from current - newer issues: it is always nice to have the extra support (even if you never need it). Not all families are warm-and-squishy like the Brady Bunch; sure, the more you can relate - get along would provide a more positive home life, but your love might be more distant - not as obvious. Maybe you want to feel more independent, believing the farther the distance, the more independent you are. Independence comes most from your actions, not distance. If you feel the need for distance, save for a great job - life opportunity, I might wonder if you're not running from something (childhood, a toxic family, yourself (your hometown representing the source of what you are - despise)). Hmm; I can see getting away from "what ails ye" to improve your chances of healing. You cannot run from you - don't run so long, you never take time to heal. I get you; dad chose his path (after sentencing us (kids) to ours. When he realized he wasn't going to be around much longer, he tried to reform our bond."Dad; I have watched from the distance you chose to keep: it seemed asif we may have had a lot in common"."Problem Is: you were never around long enough to form any bond...".Dad died in 2012 or 13; I didn't attend his funeral. I shed no tears then; then, in 2015, I visited his grave.I shed one tear (literally - oddly): not for him, but the me I might've been if he'd fulfilled the promise he made to me before I was born.There just wasn't anything there...
I don't want to go to my dad's house anymore? help!?
I hate my dad, no he never abused me or anything hes not like that, but I really dont like him anymore because we had a disagreement about his stuip a** girlfriend and I am done with him for now, he needs to get it through his head and be a good father and in till then i dont want to go to his house what can i do with out making it permentant but making for a while in till he becomes a caring dad. I am 14 and in my state once you are 12 you can make the discision but then you need to go back to court and make it permentant for a couple of years and i dont want that and my mom said she is nothing she can do unless we go back to court and my dad is stupid and makes me freakin come even tho i explained to him that i dont want to. ( he wouldn't let my mom come pick me up and was yelling at me his house is my home BULL im there 6 days a month i mean really) so what can I do?