Why is it that my mother prefers my brothers more than me in everything?
I feel you. I’m in your position too. As a daughter of a chinese family, my life is only an appendix to the whole family. The first time i got my job, i gave 75% of my income to the family to send my little brothers to school. I was expecting that once they were off the school and had their own job, I could reduce my support and build my own life, but that didn’t happen. My mother insisted that I must continue giving 75% of my salary to pay for the house bills, house renovation and her medication. At first I yielded to her decision. Then, one day, a family dinner opened my eyes. My mother, my 3 brothers and I were sitting together celebrating the Chinese New Year on my treat. At that time they knew that I was unfit financially. I asked them to order anything they liked in the restaurant and I decided to go out to buy myself some cheap snack. Upon my return, my eldest brother saw my snack and asked me why I didn’t buy it for the whole family. I told him that he had chosen his favorite food in the restaurant so why he wanted to get my snack too. My mum stood to defend him and told me that it was not okay to be so stingy to my brothers. Wtf????Ever since that day, I stopped going home (I lived separately at that time, usually went home on weekends and brought them treats) and cut my allowance for home to 25% of my salary, insisting the brothers to pay their part on the house bills too. I counted the total house expenses in front of them and divided it by four to make it fair. I only pay what is being my part and that’s it.Sometimes, you need to stand up for yourself.
What should I do if I hate my family?
I hate My family too :(I can remember feeling like an outcast as early as the age of 5. I remember my mom beating me and calling me a whore for discovering masterbation. I was 7 when I was ripped out of a room full of kids and verbally assisted by my mother. As the years went on I was Always looked at as the bad apple. At 11 my mom would leave me to watch my two younger sisters who had formed an Alliance against me. It was. Constant bullying. At 12 I was Labeled a slut. I wasnt Even sexually active. At 13 I was A whore and a druggie. Again never even tried either. At 14 a was told to stay home from school because some girls wanted to fight me and the school I went to was full of racists and druggies. Mind you I am A white girl. The racism was coming mainly from a group of Guamanian girls who hated me over a boy. At 14 my moms friend tried to have sex with me. He was 36. Guess who my mom blamed for that? 15 I finally Had sex. I didn’t know how to handle that at such a young age especially with no real sex talk other than ““if you have sex you are a whore and nobody will marry you and you will be a waste”I got Pregnant. I was About 5 months along when I finally Told my dad. He forced me to have an abortion that almost cost me my life. He didn’t care. I had To write goodbye letters to my family. It was constant abuse again. Because now. I really Was a whore to them. At 17 I koved Out. At 19 I got Pregnant. At 20 my daughter almost lost her future. I struggle every day to stay happy and to feel the love of my children and the love of the small percentage of good people still out there. I have No real home and I have No real family. Life is really hard for me right now.
My mom hates my dad's family and i dont!?
I think your mother is being selfish, you have the right to know and interact with your relatives, after all your mom made the mistake not you, why should you have to pay for it. I think that your mom may be scare that you may think less od her by what your aunt may tell you about her. but I believe you mother loves you, and if you talk to her in a respectful way you may get her to listen to you. If you tell her whatever happen between you and dad, it should of stay between you and him, I believe is immature that his family act this way tours you, but I won't be like them, whatever happen between you an dad's family, i want it to stay between you and them, I will not be dragged in the middle of it. You will always be my mom, ans I will always love you ans respect you and no one can change that, but may that's family are my relatives and no one can change that ether. I should be able to be part and enjoy both families because I did nothing wrong.
Is it wrong to hate my brother?
Sounds like your brother has some very big issues and needs some help.He needs to be put into some intense couseling/or medications. Far as you hating him,I can understand that. He has hurt you and your family.Better way to put it would be that you dislike what he has done to you and your family.Hate is a very strong word but it is warranted for what you have been through. If your parents keep enabling his negative and abusive behavior,he'll continue.Your brother has to be the one to want to change his behavior and how he treats all of you,noone else can force him to.But,maybe if your parents and you were to be strong and commit him somewhere for his emotional instability maybe there's a chance. I also believe you should attempt to go to some couseling.It will help you deal with your emotional issues with your brother as well make you feel alot better in time. That way you can talk freely and not worry about it.Hope your brother gets some help.
I hate my family?????
Being the middle child, you're going to feel the most awkward about your siblings. You're older sister isn't succeeding well in life (and your parents might give up hope on her) and your brother is too young to understand anything. I think the reason why your dad is doing this is because of your older sister. You said that your older sister has flunked college twice. She might have ruined her life possibly because she was acting inappropriate by hanging out with friends who had a bad influence on herself. Your dad might reflect on this and try to protect you from ruining your life like your older sister because I think he has had enough of her (and your mom too). The one thing you need to do is prove that you're independent and since you're grown up, you should be capable of making mature decisions. Your sister is an example of what would happen if you ruined your life, and you already know it's a bad thing. You need to have a talk with your parents...alone. I am the oldest child (15) and I have a sister (who just turned 12) and a brother (3 and a half). My sister talks to me a lot about how she gets the less attention from my parents, which is probably because she's the youngest. Well, that's all I can say that the moment. I hope everything goes well for you!!!! Best of luck!!
Why does my Mum hate me and love my brother so much?
My mom does the same thing to me. I have an older sister who is treated like a princess...idk why she doesn't love me as much. shes always yelling at me for anything and everything. She started acting like a jerk to me after she found out i had sex with my boyfriend of 3 years. the only guy i've ever had sex with. BUT, my sister had sex with two guys. and the second guy she had sex with got her pregnant. Mom gives her special treatment because she had the first grand baby. In your case however i think it would be because he is so much younger she doesnt want to have to yell at him because she has seen how badly it has affected yours and her relationship. she doesnt want to have her baby boy hate her like she feels you do by lashing out after she yells at you. she only yells because she feels that if she doesnt, you will. and thats not true. if she doesnt yell, you wont yell. Sit down and have a talk with her. It may not go well (my talk with my mother didnt, she almost kicked me out) BUT it should be done because she needs to know how you feel. and you need to tell her. make sure she knows how much you love her though becausee that is important.