I don't really like my best friend anymore?
Ok so I've been best friends with this girl for 4 years. Let's call her christy. We've had a lot of fights. Some of them occurred because she was being b*tchy or being "bossy". During the most recent fight a few months ago she was being a real b*tch. I didn't want to be her friend. But on Facebook she told our friend to tell me she's sorry. I said okay and my friend said that Christy is making me apologize as well so I did but I honestly didnt want to and it wasn't really my fault. Right now she's nice to me, but I just don't like her as much as I used to. For some reason with other friends I'll be happy to talk to them but when it's Christy sending me a message or something I'll be like "Oh great it's you," in my head. On Facebook I get really annoyed by her. Like how she would post personal stuff about what's going on between us and her siblings can see it. For example. "[Tags brother], me and [tags my name] are having a fight!! You were right!"(her brother thinks im like really mean to her and doesn't know she can be mean to me as well) or she posts on my wall saying "even though you can be so negative and PMSing I still love you and you know that!! <3 <3" Ugh. I always feel "happy" if a friend or mine says they "love" me but I'm just like wow when it comes to her. Shes been really getting on my nerves ever since we've been on vacation and having Facebook as the only communication. I've always liked having her as my best friend an thinking no one could ever replace her, but now I like talking to other people online and stuff. Is it normal to want to get away from your best friend for a change? I'm okay with all my friends except for her now for some reason. She hasn't done anything wrong and stuff at this point but I still feel like I don't like her as much anymore. Before when I annoyed with her I would keep it in my head and still like her for some reason. O_o
My friends don't like me?
Okay so my friends aren't the nicest people, and they can sometimes be mean to me. One friend (let's pretend her name is Macey) we used to be like the best of friends ever. Now she's changed. She sometimes ignores me, gets irritated with me sometimes, brags a lot, and she comments on almost everything I say, but when someone else in my group says something she doesn't. Sometimes I feel like she hates me and loves everybody else. She sometimes makes me feel depressed. The next one is Emily. She is really nice and Macey always tries to steal her away from me. I really liked her until today. I was sick yesterday and im pretty sure they were all gossiping about me and now she's all like "we have nothing in common" and she made the other people in my group tell it to me for her and one of the said "she doesn't want to be friends with you anymore" and I almost cried. But I was really confused because at lunch I talked o her and it seemed like everything was fine. But when I got home I started crying a lot and feel really depressed. Last is Casie. At first she is so funny and all and she makes fun of people which makes Macey and Emily laugh but then she sometimes gets mad at me and doesn't really think of people's feelings. So my problem is, I'm considering whether or not to leave the group, I really want to but I don't really know what friends I would have... Also they sometimes leave me out, are very athletic, (i don't play any sports and am really bad at pe) and they always have these little running contests and it's really annoying... Plus Macey has an older sister who is mean to her a lot... I think that may be apart of the problem... Sorry this was so long and thank you for your time!! <3 <3 xoxoxo
I feel like my friends don't really know me, help?
This may sound odd but I sometimes feel like my friends don't really know me. The thing is, I'm quite social with my friends when I feel comfortable. I laugh and I'm really friendly around people so they mistaken me for always being a happy-go-lucky type, like super cheeful and all that. But the truth is I'm actually depressed, I have a lot of crazy emotions that I keep inside and I'm often sad. It seems to me that they only know me superficially, and I guess it's my own fault since I'm a really private person and I never express deep feelings openly or cry in public or anything because it makes me feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. So, they don't know how shy I am. Even when I'm feeling devastated I just smile and tell jokes and hang out with my friends and have fun with them. To them, I'm this "fun, spirited, easy-going, a little clumsy and a very absent-minded girl".. but I know that my true self is actually quite conflicted. I have a complex, many-sided persona it seems but for some reason my friends only see one side of it and fail to ever consider that perhaps I have deeper feelings too and perhaps I'm a lot more serious than it seems. I'm not sure why I feel like this though. I've only had one friend in my life who really knew the true me, who took me seriously and understood that I had an underlying, hidden emotional side. I'm sensitive and it's not hard to hurt me; yet, nobody knows about it. They just assume I have a good life and that I'm always fine. A good example is when a guy started talking to me about a month ago. He had seen me on uni campus often and he told me he had always had this impression that I had a very good, fulfilling life, that I was a cheerful person who always laughs and is never sad and has a lot of fun or something, but when I revealed to him the problems I suffer from and how I truly feel, he was very surprised.
Do I really like my friend?
She doesn't sound like the world's best listener. You might try "I" statements, such as, "When you start singing when I'm sharing something, I don't feel heard" and see what happens. When she starts talking about friends you just met, try humor: "That's so funny! You sound like you've known them your whole life, Madame Psychic!". ;-)A little communication can go a long way. :-)
My friends don't really like my boyfriend. They tolerate him but they don't really think he's that great. Should I take their opinions seriously?
You should always hold your own oppinion in the highest regard. Also, what are their motives for this investment of oppinon in your affairs? Where’s the privacy? If he truly makes you happy, why would it matter what others thought at all, whoever they were? I find all too often that women have peers that only want a woman to be in the same situation as them. If they are single, they want the world to be single. When they are in a relationship, then people should settle down. It’s a natural competitive drive that makes humans vicariously push for conformity. Weird bro men do stuff like that with their bro’s gf’s too, and it’s wrong. I would really try to hear the reasons they don’t like him, but don’t let jealous friends dictate your life. Tell them to get their own man to worry about, and to stop trying to live through you. Also, couples usually don’t have much time for other people if they are doing it right, which will make people that are used to having you around resentful and sometimes even spiteful of a new boyfriend. As I said, who do you want running your life, your oppinions or a falsely constructed reality built by other, flawed humans?
Why do I always feel like my friends don't really like me or care about me?
You can’t always wait for your friends to come to you. To have friends, you have to be friend, which means you have to take the initiative to sometimes invite them to do stuff.Don’t give up on friends unless they’re overtly mean to you.I used to think I didn’t have a lot of friends, and to be honest, I didn’t. I would always hope that someone would call me and ask to hang out, but to no avail. One night I decided I’d had enough, and was desperate to start knocking on apartment doors of neighbors I only vaguely knew. And I had some good times with them, I guess. I still could never get people to call me or anything that year, but that was a time of my life that really helped me grow. I learned how to reach out to people, and make new friends. Now I don’t find it hard at all to reach out and ask if people want to do stuff with me.You have a heard start: you already have friends! Go ask them to do stuff with you. They may not always want to/have time, but that doesn’t mean they hate you or don’t like you.If they actually don’t like you very much, you can always make new friends. Be a friend to others, and people will respect you, and want to be associated with you.
My friends don't like my crush?
When you have a crush you don't really see things as they really are. You sort of idealize the person and to you they never do anything wrong (even if you acknowledge a few things). Anyway, chances are if this guy is a jerk with other girls, he'll do the same to you sooner or later. You can't/don't want to change his personality. Friends and family do usually see through this stuff better than the person who has the crush. Best case scenario, let's say he's a great guy with you and an a**hole with everyone else - do you really want to be with/around him? If it's JUST a matter of going out one time - then fine do it, but don't expect anything longer lasting. Good luck! :0)
I feel like my friends don't care about me? Why?
You feel like your friends do not care about you because you are a caring person. If you did nit care about your friends, you would not care. I don't know how old you are, but your age determines how much you care about how people care about you. We are all born with different personalities. Some people do well with only a handful of people and are comfortable strengthening those relationships, sometimes for a lifetime. Some friends you make are more outgoing, are happy mixing with dozen people at a time and immediately forget them when they walk,away. Those are the friends you should not worry about, they are bored by being in the company of people for too long. They care, but only for the time they are with you. If you find d a friend who will stick with you, great for you. However if you only mix with the flighty ones, find other things to focus on when these friends get busy. Understand that they find their fulfilment in being more diverse, you care about everyone, but you might like to keep it low and consistent.