How to gain my confidence back in soccer?
Believe me everything that you've said is exactly what I went through at some point. Last year I was a freshmen and I tried out for soccer. All of my friends made it except me. I felt like I was incapable to do anything until I heard a quote that stuck with me its from rocky it goes like this. "You know the world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. Its a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it'll beat you to your knees and keep you there if you let it. You me or nobody's gonna hit as hard as life, but it ain't about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, its about how hard you can take it and keep moving forward. That's how winnin' is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth but you gotta be willing to take the hits..."(the rest doesn't apply to your situation haha) but anyways bcuz of this quote I worked my butt off everyday and I built up my confidence little by little and in the end it all paid off. My sophmore year i tried out again and I made varsity over ALL of my friends. Just what ever you do just know that you can overcome any obstacle as long as you believe in yourself:)
Does confidence come with age? Your 20s vs 30s?
I am a very insecure 21 year old woman. A lot of people speculate that a young woman's self-esteem all lies in her appearance and its wrong. I am not cocky in saying this but I'm actually an attractive person. But I feel like thats all I have, just a look. It doesn't mean I don't feel worthless. I am very awkward talking to people because I feel like I'll embarrass myself. I am always feeling a burden when I'm with others or that I am not liked. I am most certain my bad vibe is probably only causing people to dislike me more but I can't seem to shake this. My lack of confidence doesn't seem to have a root (appearance, work, success), its just there and its affecting every part of my life especially dating. I never dated before and I don't have trouble getting a guy but I can never keep a guy interested. I end up talking too much in attempt to overcompensate (to impress them). I am hoping that this will just pass with time. I am hoping things will get better at 30, supposedly the age when life gets better. Does it?
How to get over bullying/low self-esteem?
I've been bullied severely day by day for about 4 years, in primary and then in middle school. I thought I forgot about it and got over it but I guess that's not the case. For a while, I've been feeling anxious, depressed and most importantly, horrible about myself. Sometimes I got these sudden boosts of confidence but usually I turn them into some kind of a joke a minute after. My self-esteem is close to zero if not below it. I've been trying to fix it myself and I talked about it to my friends but no one helps. Then, I realised that the cause of my low self-esteem is probably the bully I experienced. In retrospective, it was just me getting called names... but I guess it was so hurtful that I actually believed what they said and that's what I've become. I stray away from looking at people because I've been told I'm fat and ugly. Same with talking to people, I've got few friends because I've been told I'm psycho. From there, I also came to the conclusion that I can't do anything and now I feel like I'll never accomplish anything in life (I like drawing but I get extremely depressed about it). Useless. My mother is not being exactly helpful either. She keeps on telling me to 'pull myself together, otherwise I'll get sent to an asylum'. It makes me feel even worse, actually. Any advice?