People talk about me, spread rumors about me? What should i do? :(?
I'm a 15 year old girl and SO MANY people talk about me behind my back and are mean to me. Today in gym class we were playing basketball and this one girl that hates me hit me with the basketball and acted as if it was someone else, she was then laughing. They're really immature. I don't like the way they treat me. I feel like I'm invisible in school. This is a new school and i've started in it for about 2 months. People also judge me on how i look, dress, etc.. they say im ugly or that my style is ugly. This hurts my feelings. There was a rumor that i had sex with 3 guys and I really didn't.. I don't know why they would say something like that. Many people bully me and i usually feel bad. I'm a sensitive girl and I feel like the things they say to me (ur ugly, stupid, stink, etc) are true, when i guess there not. I only have 1 friend and I hope she never ditches me or anything. One time "my friend" was absent and i was sitting alone in the lunch table, i felt like crying or leaving the lunch room. I get sad when people laugh and have friends and everything.. when I'm just standing there with nobody next to my side. When I enter class, people say 'it smells bad in here' and i look behind me and this guy pointed at me, the class laughed. I felt so bad, people think i just don't have feelings, i guess (even though i may have low self esteem). I am a human being and I actually do have feelings. I don't understand why people hate me and think i smell bad but i take a shower and apply deodorant everyday. I guess I'll just be stupid and non-lovable my whole life. What should i do? PLEASE help me? I'm crying right now :'( Any advice would be great for me. Thank you.
Why do I laugh when I'm being attacked or false rumors start about me?
You do that either because of denial or “Seriously? That is so not true” attitude. When a laugh is short and the face expresses discomfort masked by a fake smile, it usually means that you deny that someone would even try to make you look bad or spread false things about you.People don’t want to look like a target for people who spread false rumors, bullies, etc., therefore, they mask their true feelings behind laughter or emotional detachment to look less like a victim. Bullies, and people who spread rumors look for others who react quickly to things because they enjoy seeing others cringe or suffer under their power (aka it makes them feel good in some way). Therefore, many people react differently…by means of emotional detachment and denial.
Why do people start rumors about me if I'm silent?
I know that being silent could be the problem, but when I talk it makes it worse. I'm a 9th grader and everyday I'm pretty silent. Mostly all my classes, I don't talk. Except for maybe one with this girl who I really get along with. And at lunch I sit with these people I sometimes talk too and then go sit somewhere else alone when I'm done. I used to talk a lot until this guy started bullying me. Calling me a whore, snitch, ect. So then I decided to stop talking and he stopped too. But, I have major depression and being silent makes it worse. And people start rumors about me all the time, saying I like this one guy who I don't even know or that I'm a drug addict. I swear a new rumor is started about me everyday. And the weird thing is, everyone I talk too says I'm nice. I'm always smiling at people in the halls and being nice to them when they ask me stuff. I'm never rude to someone. So what should I do? I don't wanna just start talking again because for some reason my happy loud personality offends people.
What is the most preposterous rumor people have started about you, and have you corrected them in any way?
They believed I am arrogant.Primarily because I found that a region of weld in a man-rated fighter were insufficiently covered by x-ray image quality indicators. 95% of the time I was instructed to read the film, I would reject the shots because they did not meet criteria.It came across as being stuck-up and arrogant, and I understand how easily that is perceived: it could have been some jerk taking the opportunity to blow a technicality out of proportion in order to gain attention and fluff my feathers.I don’t like attention. Being under the microscope by my peers was not pleasant. Being thought of as arrogant was unavoidable if I was to meet my imperatives of personal integrity.Things were rarely said to my face – I gave everyone an opportunity to demonstrate how my interpretation was incorrect, and I tried my best to dispel their accusations in my re-shoot logs. Things were assuredly said behind my back and I had no opportunity to address them. So I ignored them.It seems that eventually everyone came to accept that my work ethic is…particular.That program was later canceled by Congress thanks to the 2008 recession but nearly 200 of these machines are currently in service. I have no regret over the lines I drew in the sand.
Some people laugh at my awkwardness. Comfort words?
Other youngsters at the school think I'm weird because I did some socially unexpected, ridiculous or awkward stuff and now I'm feeling really bad because I picture them laughing at me and I have this intuition they're gonna start ''rumours'' about me and everyone is gonna look at me in a different way. Please say some comfort words. ''fck what other People think'' is just not working, since I cannot sleep. It's so bad to feel this, it kinda makes me want to act more weird (now unnaturally) just to fit their stereotype.
Why do people spread rumors about people and about me?
The reason people spread rumours about you and others is because they feel insecure and they want you to as well which is not a good reason at all. JUST IGNORE THOSE BITCHES!!! They might also be jealous of your relationship that you have with your friend so don't worry to much. Hope I helped x
Someone in my high school started a false rumor about me sleeping with someone’s girlfriend. Now everyone I know is talking about it. How can I find out who started it?
That’s the bitch about a rumour – no one would ever ‘fess up to being the person that started it. Even if you managed to find the culprit, you’ll never know for sure (people may be lying about who they heard it from, etc.) But I can’t blame you for wondering who.It’s possible a jealous person is trying to break this couple up. I’ve seen girls do this plenty of times; start a rumour to see a relationship end so they can ‘be there’ for the guy when he goes through his rough period.It also could be a guy that started it to seek revenge on the couple or break them up.Maybe the boyfriend looking for ‘excuses’ to break up with his girlfriend! Who knows!Could be her trying to break up with her boyfriend and hook up with you! Doubtful, but people can do some pretty weird things to ‘place’ themselves among people they want to be with.So, understand that this may not be anything personal towards you – though it may come off that way. Whatever the case, I’d go talk to her boyfriend to clear the air – if you feel comfortable doing so. If you do, the rumour will quickly die. But I’m sure it still irks you that you will never find out. Be wary of anyone that keeps asking you or this couple about your/their thoughts on the ‘rumour’. People trying to start drama usually want to know how the drama is progressing.
How can I make people forget a rumor about me?
you are kidding i hope lol....
I accidentally started a rumor (although I was being clearly sarcastic) What do I do?
Here's what happened: I was with my boyfriend, a few other friends, and this guy (I'll call him B.) who is kind of an asshole to me, but some of my friends hang out with him. We were talking about what stuff we own is the most important to us. After my boyfriend said his top few things, B said to me "I'm surprised you aren't bitching at him for not putting you on his list. Most chicks would be... He's such a horrible boyfriend. I was going to say that I like it that he doesn't see me as a possession, and I'm glad he didn't say I was, however I realised that would probably just make me look like a bitchy feminist. So instead, I VERY SARCASTICALLY said: "I would never expect to be valued that much by him, especially because several of his other cheap whores are much better in the kitchen than I am." I then lifted part of my sleeve to show a big bruise I had (from a biking accident) and vaguely continued "I made that mistake before..." Anyway, B (who had been trying to make me be a ***** to my BF), shut up pretty quickly after that, and everyone else laughed at how shocked I made him, so I thought the whole thing was done with. However, I recently found out he has been spreading the rumor my BF hits me (Completely untrue), and people believed him, possibly because of the bruise I had from the bike accident. What should I do?