Should I forgive my ex-bestfriend who once betrayed me?
Well, I think kindness and humility are the 2 most valuable traits in mankind.The irony is that they both are seldom found in mankind these days.I think I have been in a similar situation as yours too. Some couple of years back, I had certain issues over righteousness with my 'ex' best friend , resulting in the termination of our friendship.We were not on talking terms for over 7-8 months, after which one fine day, I got a text from her that she would want to be my friend again. Brave as I thought her step was, I politely declined the offer saying that I choose my friends with my own will and not with force.1 more month passed and one fine day we were both supposed to have an interview post which we both were in an elevator and kind of struck a conversation regarding how the interview went.We started talking again and now that its been more than 2 years, since that 'silly' incident happened, my ex best friend is my best friend again.We did not talk about that topic for the initial months, but we talk about it now.Coming back to you, why am I narrating my tale to you, is to tell you few things: 1. If given a chance, would I like to change the events of old incidents. Hell Yes, why ? because I think we both were immature back then.2. I have now realized, that your best friend need not be an exact replica of you by mind.3. We need to just stop judging people around us , accept and love the way they are.4. Never close doors for a person who has guilt in him or her, very few people have the courage to showcase that.My best friend has helped me handle some of the tough phases of life and I am glad I have her.Cutting long story short: Give people the chance they deserve, not everyone is like you, empathize with her, understand why she did what she did, BE KIND. That's the most valuable trait in mankind.
Does my ex best friend miss me or what?
3 and a half months ago me and my ex ( girl ) best friend had a fight and we have been friends since 5th grade, now we are juniors. anyways recently her parents told her not to talk to me anymore ( IDK Why ) and she told me the next day that I cant talk to her or there will be consequents. so i asked what did i do and she wouldnt answer. So my lifes been a bore for the last 3 months and she kept looking at me when i wasnt watching but when i notice she looks away and she says a few words when i ask to help her but otherwise she wont talk to me and we were in a class last Friday where we aren't allowed to take our books out of the classroom because there isnt enough so i was so generous and took everybody's books up and i asked her and she said no thanks i got it and i letted her put hers away first so i saw her roll her eyes. I said to myself wow over being generous and your going to roll your eyes wow but hey that's how girls are. Why do i have to be so nice? What should i do? how can i make her miss me? I've also asked for god to have us be friends and since than she's been saying a few things when i ask to help her but thats all.. Can anybody help? 10 pts.
Why do I still care about my friend who betrayed me?
Love is intrinsically unconditional. We put conditions on it in an attempt to protect ourselves or due to the wounds we all experience in life. Its based in our biological, capacity for empathy - out of which Love is an outgrowth. Morality as well. Once we share personal love (as opposed to generalized compassion) we’ve established some pretty deep neural pathways in our brains. There’s an oft quoted remark people can say about the worst people who’ve been in their lives in disruptive & negative manners, once they’re gone: “I’ll kind of miss him somehow”. Familiarity for so long & intensely makes them sorta like a perverse comfort food with neural pathways (essentially memories) that have formed. With Love the feelings are far more profound. More so with women who have more sophisticated emotional & intuitive systems. Also (& this unbelievably critical) there is a profound difference between forgiving & excusing. The first is when you see the potential for good & actively wish that for someone. The second cannot occur until the person takes responsibility for their actions. That means A) reparative action B) It has to cost them something. Always important (but especially when it is something that cannot be taken back - the most extreme example being murder or similar) is to heal the place from which they did such a thing. Or indisputably make the effort so that it at least partially occurs in an ongoing way.When you deeply get all this its literally a superpower you will have mastered that will be of such value in dealing with challenges yet to come, it cannot even be described.
How can I forget my best friend? How do I stop missing her presence in my life?
It’s so hard to lose someone who has been not just a close friend, but a best friend. It hurts, especially if she/he is the one that dumped you. Then you’re not just dealing with the loss of a friend, but betrayal too. But even something like a move is painful to go through and can make you feel lonely and dejected. Here are some things that I hope will help you.Remind yourself that it is okay to grieve the loss. All losses are painful and unfortunately they are also a part of the growth of life. Everyone loses friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, pets and also things like jobs, health, childhood, etc. Sometimes you just have to feel the pain to process it, but remember that the pain will get better. Pain can also make you more empathetic and a stronger person. Just as losses are part of life, so are gains. You will gain new friends, new relationships, new interests, new talents, new knowledge—and so many new things that will make you happy.Make new friends. I know this is easier said than done. Sometimes people’s “friend circles” seem to be full. If that’s the case, look around for other people who might be in need of a friend. There are always people around who are lonely. Also, look for opportunities that will introduce you to new people. If you’re still in school, try out for a sport, help with the school play, join a club, etc. Usually shared activities are the best place to make friendships.Do service for others. The fastest way to stop feeling sorry for yourself is to help others. Once when I was at a low point, I sponsored a child in an impoverished country. At the time, it was a financial sacrifice but it reminded me how blessed I really was. We can always do something to help someone else with greater needs.Keep a gratitude journal. Every day write down something different that you are grateful for. As you do this, you’ll be amazed at all of the good things in your life. (Plumbing, pain medication, flowers, chocolate, internet, etc) Have a positive attitude whenever you can. People are drawn to people who are happy. But the fastest way to drive people away is to be the type of person who is always negative and complaining.Hugs! It will get better.
Missing my ex girlfriend after 2 years?
Basically that relationship ended because I was severely depressed, my job was going nowhere and I ran the relationship into the ground. I barely saw her due to my hours and didn't want to be around people because of how depressed the job was making me. I'd completely miss the point of most arguments no matter how calm cool and collected she was and I was used to arguing for the sake of arguing from the relationship prior. She was and always will be the one that got away in my mind but since then I'm in another relationship, I loved this girl so much but those feelings are waning, shes 20 and I'm 23 and the age/maturity difference shows and all I can think of is how much I wish I had my ex back. I haven't actually stopped thinking about my ex since we split, literally every day I'll think about her or she'll be in my dreams, I'll wake up so insanely happy with a smile on my face before realizing it was only a dream. I'm a bit stuck, my current relationship feels dead, there's no joy left in it and it just feels like we're together for the sake of having someone there rather than the love it used to have. I can't truly convince myself that I've got a change with my ex again even though I'm an entirely different person to who I was before, I'm in a good job, I'm a lot less stressed, I'm happy, I'm no longer depressed and I actually go out to parties and socialize so much more than I used to. I'd just about give anything to hold her again. TL;DR: I love and miss my ex from 2 years ago, that rel failed due to my own personal problems, current relationship feels dead, not sure if I should try talking to my ex again. What should I do? Pros and cons etc