I caused a fight between my parents...?
I think I might have caused my parents to get into another fight, they have been stressed out lately, and they were fighting just the other day (it got so bad my step-dad left for a day, but they did sort it out). What happened today was just that my mom forgot to bring her phone with her, and I couldn't reach her, and, so, I called my step-dad to see if he could find her. He answered the phone in a really bad mood and was saying things about how "undependable" my mom can be, and how he never has any idea where she is, etc. When I was finally able to reach my mom, I called him and told him that I did find her, and he got really angry again, and just told me to pass the phone to my mom. They started arguing, and he just hangs up the phone in the middle of their conversation (it was more of a fight). I don't really know what to do, because now I think both my parents are mad at me, and each other, and my mom yelled at me and said that I was "only causing problems". What should I do? Thanks!
Is there anything I can do about my parents fighting?
You’re meant to go through it. nothing else can be said. we all like life to be pleasurable 100% of the time, but pain like this will always be around the corner. Whether its an argument, fight, etc. people are not perfect. some people don’t learn from their mistakes at all. welcome to planet f*cking earth. it’s how it is. there’s worser things that could have happened. there’s no way to make them stop fighting. All people fight. All marriages aren’t perfect. there’s always that one bolt that’s loose. Marriage is just a contract, gives you state rights to be with another person of the opposite sex. that’s all there is to it. my mom and dad are fighting today, it’s could be easily solved but the way they fight is ridiculous. it’s all for silly things just like your parents fight about. there’s no way out. you can go out of your house, but then you’ll start wondering what if someone got hurt or even worse - killed. there’s no way out. my parents are married for 22 years, and the frequency of fights emerging is like on average once every 4 months. then after this they get back together again as if nothing happened. after another four months again something to fight about. it keeps on repeating. this has been the fighting side of their marriage. I still remember the first one that happened back in 1998. my dad threw the cd out of the car because my mom was bugging my dad about the songs inside. they were songs of religious genre, that was supposed to be given to a family friend. this was when I was 3 years old. I can’t ever forget that one. I’m 21 now, it’ll always be in my memory. I sincerely wish you and everyone here who’s looking for an answer the best, in tolerating all that pain, and I hope that there’s peace in all our houses soon.
My parents are arguing, I think it's my fault?
my mum and dad have been arguing most of the week and i think it's my fault because i told my mum i might be depressed, when she told my dad, he told her that there's nothing wrong with me and that i'm just being a typical teenager, my mum then lost her temper with my dad and shouted at him and told him that he wouldn't know anything because he's never around and she feels like a single parent most of the time, he said that he thinks my mum is to soft on me and i should get over it because that's the only way i'll learn to deal with tough situations in life, now they have been arguing constantly about it, now i feel guilty because i've never known them to argue this much and i always get brought in to the arguments now which i don't think is fair on me. how do i talk to my parents about it without it causing another argument? because when i tried to talk to my mum about my depression thats what started these arguments. i know this sounds silly but i've got enough going on without dealing with the stress of my parents arguing, i want my parents to be able to help me with my problems without feeling like i'm the one who is causing the problem
Is a fight between my parents my fault?
So here it is my 14th birthday in a couple weeks and i went and asked my parents if they would help me arrange a murder mystery party and they said no i ask why they tell me and i accept it(basically), then one of my parents start talking about more elaborate things such as six flags(my parents are not married) and they get in an argument about money. then i ask is this fight my fault and they both say yes. how is this my fault?? all i did was ask a question how is it my fault??????Please explain in detail how you feel about this situation!
I'm hungry, but I'm scared to go downstairs Cause of my parents....?
My parents had a huge fight in public yesterday. And they told me bad things about each other while walking out of the mall. I woke up at like 7 am and I didn't eat ever since 5 PM yesterday. And I am soo hungry. But I'm like really scared to get food. What should I do?
My parents are constantly fighting and Im scared my dad will hurt my mom again?
Coming from child hood where my parents were always fighting I can relate to you. I have been studying psychology now for several years and am finishing it up. I know that adults have many layers and that the layers will peel back depending on what is going on in their lives. I would sit with your patents if this is possible and I would talk with them. I would tell them how this makes you feel and how you love BOTH of your parents and how much you hate to see them unhappy. Ask them if it is something you have done. Sometimes this will spark the ears of a father like nothing else will. I promise you that your father does love you. I am willing to bet that he has many problems that stem from his childhood that have never been resolved. I would tell them that how much your family means to you and how much they both mean to you. Explain that all you want is a family that is happy and that is willing to work together to work through what ever problems you might have. There is nothing so serious that it can't be worked out. As for your mom each and every day I would compliment her. Tell her how blessed you are to have such a wonderful mother. Tell her how much you love her and love to see her smile. Don't get in the habit of talking bad about your father, no matter how true it is. Any negative talking will only breed negative feelings. Those are the feelings you want to avoid at all costs. I wish I could help more. I hope that the advice I have given you will help. I will also add that you pray for guidance. Keep your head up and remember to smile. I will help when and where I can. Drop me a line if there is anything more I can do.------------------------- The Help Doctor
How do I deal with parents who fight all the time? My parents argue over trivial things. Mom has a temper, blames people, and controls everyone. She compares us with others, saying how good they are. Dad is too stubborn to apologize, and has an ego.
There is nothing you can do about your parents' fighting. Believe me. I spent years wondering what I could do.The only thing that you can do is get some space from it. It is not likely that their relationship is going to change unless they decide to change it. It's not up to you or your siblings to change them and trying will just make it all the harder for you to disengage from this very toxic dynamic in your family.It's time to grow more independent of your family and seek more sane and peaceful relationships for your own life. These dynamics have a way of creeping up into your own relationships simply because you have been in the midst of them for years. You need to know that and begin to become as conscious as you can about thinking about and having good communication in your life.Decide how you would like to proceed in creating a different energy in your life from the one that your parents have created. Get some help for this. Over time, you will create your own set of relationships that are based on healthier, more loving values. If that becomes your goal, you will begin to beat the stress and move forward in a new direction. Just don't spend your life getting stuck in their dynamic- unless you want to create such drama in your own life.
What should I do now if I accidentally caused my parents to argue?
First of all, calm Yourself down...Look I don't quite know what the situation in your house is but I'm guessing (by the description in the link ofcourse) that here father is a hard, rugged fellow and mom an emotional one.If this is the case, give your mom the best support you can give. Perform all the daily chores (atleast try). Win your mom's heart.Now very politely ask her to submit in front of your father. A mother's heart melts quickly (in this case even more quickly ;) )She will submit.It is said that 'Time is the best Healer'After a few days, your father will be pacified. Tell him, in person, that he didn't behave very well with his wife. Very diplomatically start like:"I know mom did some mistakes but see you also did some." Add something like ''Mom always praises you in front of others even when you are not present (adding a few instances)... And see what you are doing to her...''Bring some realizations to your father!Now your father's inner conscience should force him as well to submit in front of your mother.It is said that the best solution to an argument is if one peacefully submits (even though if she is right)...I really hope that peace may prevail in your family...