I think I might have depression but my parents don't believe me!!!!?
I know whats its like to have parents who dont believe you. My parents dont believe in the disease and that it can be fixed overnight. I am in college right now and ever since a traumatic incident occurred(about a year and a half ago) i havent been the same. You could be going through depression or just a phase but I still believe your parents should support you and be there for you. After this particular incident i would go through weeks in which couldn't sleep and then i would oversleep and miss tests. I almost failed a couple of my classes. I would cry randomly almost everyday and I didn't have the energy to do the things I love to do. I would overeat which was horrible because I'm a ballet dancer. There was finally one day when I just fell apart and felt none existent. I actually went to see a counselor and talked about my issues. She recommended i see someone when i came home for winter break. i had to come up to one of my dance instructors about what was going on that day because i couldnt stop crying. The thing is, i dont know if i believe in taking drugs for depression. It just doesn't seem natural. But my parents seemed to ignore what was going on. I eventually forced myself to focus on the positive and positive things a about myself that day. I started writing in a journal almost everyday about the positive things. In a way i was doing self theraputic activities. You really need to find your self worth because everyone has it.It def wasnt an overnight thing but it did help. Just try to help your parents that bottom line, your not happy and at least they should give you support. A reason why that they may not believe you is because they feel that they raised you perfectly and that you should not feel depressed. But many times its not because of the parents. I hope everything works out for you
My parents say they won't get me a therapist, I'm 16 and depressed, badly. Is there any other way to get to one?
If your school has a nurse that is one option. Some schools have counselors.Your parents reluctance to get you the help you need may come from ignorance or it may come from financial reasons. Either way, your need for help outweighs their reluctance. You have the more important problem and your need deserves attention, now.In the United States, 30% of mental health services are provided by primary care doctors. Talk to your regular doctor.If your parents’ employer has an EAP (employee assistance plan) you can call them for help.Learning to understand and regulate your emotions would also help. I wrote a long post about that here: Jeanine Joy's answer to Could you teach a child the wrong emotions?If things get really bad where you are thinking about harming ourself, you can go to the ER department of a local hospital. All you have to do is tell them you are seriously thinking about suicide and they have to help you. If you can’t get there you can call an ambulance. If you are in the United States you may also be able to call the police department and ask for a Crisis Intervention Officer (CIT Officer). They can arrange transportation for you.Showing your parents the risk factors and warning signs for suicide may spur them to action. Most parents who loose a child to suicide were in complete denial before it happened. Don’t threaten it. Just let them know the risks. All parents should be educated about risk factors and warning signs but even when training is offered for free most won’t show up. It’s a lot like buying life insurance, they just don’t want to even think about it.You do not need your parents in order to get treatment. Minors who need help are entitled to care.Let us know how things turn out.
My parents don't believe in mental disorders but I think I have one?
For years, I can't remember the last time I felt truly happy. Even when I'm with friends, family, or watching a funny movie, I'm not truly happy. I fake a smile and most people I meet think I'm extremely outgoing and funny. But that's just an act. There are times where I can't even smile because I feel completely empty inside. There's moments that seem to occur more frequently where I think about how much I hate my life. I hate what's become of it, I hate the uncertainty of it, and I hate how it came to be. I've been having more and more suicidal thoughts. I never thought of acting on them but I think about it. These past few weeks, I feel as if my dark thoughts and feelings have grown stronger. I can't help it. I try to stop it but I'm so tired of hiding it. I see myself pushing others away but at the same time, I don't mind. I rather be alone. I want to get myself checked out. I just want to see whats wrong with me. Am I just some overly emotional teenager or do I have some sort of depression? I want to ask my parents to take me because I don't have insurance and neither do they but I already know how they feel about things like this. They always talk down on mental disorders and they believe that it's nothing but a hoax. They think I'm being too dramatic and that I need to get over myself. But I really just want to see. I don't want medication, I don't want anything crazy. I just want to see what's wrong. What should I do?
My parents insist that I’ll have kids, but I’m not sure I’m buying it. How do I break it to them?
Honesty.In all fair share, it’s nice to have kids in the future. But, can you afford them is the major question? Simply enough, it’s great to see our little ones grow up and do their own thing. But in the long run, it’ll take enough out of anyone to keep them alive and thriving like everyone else.The best thing to say to your parents is that you’re not buying it. Whatever reason you have, you can tell them from the following:Not prepared due to financial reasoning:The major reason people have kids is they’re prepared not only mentally and physically, but financially. As stated above, having a kid equals twenty-one (21) years of your life, maybe more to adjust and grow with. And, if they still disagree with you, you can do your research and tell them this little fact.Just consider: According to a 2010 USDA report, the average middle-income family will spend roughly $12,000 on child-related expenses in their baby’s first year of life. By age two, parents are up to more than $12,500 per year.Now multiply that by 21 years and between 240000-242500!That should be good for retirement money. But all in all the advantage is you get an extra set of change come tax return. Question is, will you still dish that much just to see your future kin grow?Not prepared to take the next step:Sometimes it’s great to have a loved one to “take it to the limit one more time” As the Eagles would say. But, sometimes it’s cool to keep that way and relax. If you’re still young and want to enjoy the entire world out there, do it. Enjoy whatever life gives you! You still have an opportunity to do whatever you want before that kid comes by.Take your time, evaluate your options, and toe the line. Finally, tell parents what you really feel. Anyone insisting you to have anything in life doesn’t mean you’ll feel comfortable about it.The choice is up to you.