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I Think Im Anorexic But Idk If I Should Tell Anyone

I think i may have anorexia but i dont know. im too scared to tell anyone?

Yes dear, you have anorexia, and YES you should TELL SOMEONE!! The road to eating disorder recovery starts with admitting you have a problem. This admission can be tough, especially if you’re still clinging to the belief–even in the back of your mind–that weight loss is the key to happiness, confidence, and success. Even when you finally understand this isn’t true, old habits are still hard to break.

The good news is that the eating disorder behaviors you’ve learned can be unlearned if you’re motivated to change and willing to ask for help. However, overcoming an eating disorder is about more than giving up unhealthy eating behaviors. It is also about rediscovering who you are beyond your eating habits, weight, and body image.

True recovery from anorexia and bulimia involves learning to:

Listen to your body.
Listen to your feelings.
Trust yourself.
Accept yourself.
Love yourself.
Enjoy life again.

The more specific the information you offer, the better the person you’re speaking with will understand and be able to help. Answer the following questions and include the answers you are comfortable revealing:

When did you begin having different thoughts regarding food, weight, or exercise? What were the thoughts?
When did the different behaviors start? What was the behavior and did you hope to accomplish something specific (lose weight, gain control of something, get someone’s attention)?
Have you noticed any physical health effects (fatigue, loss of hair, digestive problems, loss of menstrual cycle, heart palpitations, etc.)?Or any emotional effects?
How are you currently feeling physically? Emotionally? Do you feel ready to stop the disordered eating behaviors?
How can the people in your life best support you? Do you want them to monitor your behavior?
Do you want them to ask you how you are doing with your recovery or would you rather tell them?


You need to:
1) Ask for help
2) Find a specialist
3) Address health problems
4) Make a long term plan for treatment

Anorexia and other eating disorders are REAL MENTAL ILLNESSES. And that DOES NOT mean you're crazy. You're anorexic, and you need help. That's okay. I hope this helps, and when you're better, please repost =) I'd love to hear your success story! Best of luck, and warm wishes
- Logan

My friends say I'm anorexic, but I don't think I am. I usually eat only 1 meal a day, because I never feel hungry. How do I know if I am anorexic or am on the way to anorexia?

It is important to understand that “anorexia” is not just this thing that happens to girls who starve themselves.Anorexia Nervosa is an eating disorder that happens to people, and includes intentionally eating very little, and usually exercising, and results in health impairments that can literally lead to death. It has a mental illness component.Anorexia and Weight Loss that is not anorexia nervosa can be caused by a medical problem that results in a person feeling a general loss of appetite. It is entirely possible (probably, even) for a person who has medically caused anorexia to not have any mental health problem.If you regularly do not have enough appetite to keep your body weight up to a healthy level, that is a serious medical problem.It is common for some people who like looking skinny to accept their lack of appetite, because they like the outcome.Unfortunately, the kinds of medical problems that lead to long-term loss of appetite are often really bad ones. Like cancer.Your friends know what you should look like, and they are telling you they see you as anorexic, that is not enough to decide that you are. But you say you don’t have much appetite, only enough to eat one meal a day. That symptom, along with your friends concerns about your low weight, are enough to tell you to speak to a doctor about your problem.Low appetite and losing weight without trying, is definitely a medical problem that requires a full medical exam.And, if you realize you are still trying to lose weight, because you like being too skinny, that suggests the possibility of anorexia nervosa. Thinking you still want to lose weight when your friends are begging you to gain weight, means you already have a problem. Not “on the way to” having a problem.Anorexia or anorexia nervosa, either way, go see a doctor. And if you read all this, and still think you don’t want to see a doctor about it? That would be a third sign that you are having a problem. Mentally healthy people do not avoid getting medical help when they need it.

I think i'm anorexic but my parents dont care?

who the hell told you that?

Go tell your school counselor. They'll help you get the help you need.

Shall I tell my swim coach i am anorexic and cut myself?

I have recently been diagnosed with anorexia, and i frequently cut myself...I am trying to do something about it, so i am thinking of speaking to my swim coach, we are very close and she knows me really well. I do not know how to approach the subject, she already suspects i am cutting myself and she knows i am anorexic. She has already tried to talk to me about it, but i was too scared to talk about it so i said nothing was going on, but now i have hit realisation and need to do something about it!

I know i should be speaking to my parents, but i am not ready for that yet, do you think it is wrong if i land my problems on the coach? When she last approched the subject she threatened to kick me off my position as captain of the school swim squad unless i started eating again. I am worried if I say something i will lose my position as captain. It is also her duty as a teacher to tell the school nurse, but i don't want her to know, is it ok if i ask her not to tell anyone?

Thank you

Why do I want anorexia? I know it's a horrible thing to think so why does my head keep telling me I need to go anorexic to be happy again?

Anorexia will in no way makes you happier, lack of food = lack of nutrients, lack of nutrients means physical weakness, physical weakness can bring so many more other problems like depression, self-depreciation, suicidal thoughts and so on and so forth. You need to see a therapist.It's only human to wish you looked different or could fix something about yourself. But when a preoccupation with being thin takes over your eating habits, thoughts, and life, it's a sign of an eating disorder. When you have anorexia, the desire to lose weight becomes more important than anything else. You may even lose the ability to see yourself as you truly are.Anorexia is a VERY VERY VERY serious eating disorder that affects women and men of all ages. It’s characterized by three key features:refusal to maintain a healthy body weightan intense fear of gaining weighta distorted body imagePLEASE SEE A THERAPIST, YOU’RE LITERALLY KILLING YOURSELF, IT’S A VERY SLOW SUICIDEThe end result if not taken care off early is DEATH and trust me when you die you’ll have the perfect weight, you’ll be dust, non existent, nobody will think best or less of you because you have ceased to exist. Trust me you are important the way you are to someone and it start with YOU. Take a mirror with you and say this - I AM BEAUTIFUL THE WAY I AM AND I ACCEPT WHO I AM WITH ALL THE FLAWS THAT COME WITH IT. Once you accepted that, nobody can destroy you, not even you, loving yourself first will help other to appreciating you. But of course don’t go on YouTube, Tumblr, Facebook to gain that trust, only you can do it with perhaps a little help from a real-life therapist.BEST OF LUCK!

As a recovering anorexic, what if I don't know if I am hungry?

Thanks for the ask to answer.Develope a regular eating schedule. Adhere to it. Your body will help you along. With time it will get used to eating at those times.Learning to listen for hunger and fullness cues takes time. It is a skill that is learned.Develope a continuom like this:Not hungry at all.Starting to feel a little hungry.Hungry.Very hungry.Oh my goodness I am starving.Not full at all.Starting to feel full.Full.Uncomfortably full.Stuffed - too full.As you eat - look at the continuom.When I start eating I am usually at - starting to feel hungry or hungry - on the continuom.When I was in treatment they had placed cards with a similar continuom on it at our dining tables. As I ate my meals I observed how I moved through the continuom from - starting to get hungry to full - consistently with every meal.It is a learning process. I obviously no longer need the card in front of me. I can scan my body and from experience guage how hungry I am - or am not.The human body is biologically wired for survival - it will help you - if you help it - by being consistent with a regular eating schedule and trying to eat the same amount of food at each meal or snack time.Consistency is one of the KEYS to recovery.Any dietician who is trained in helping people recover from an eating disorder can write a healthy food plan for you based on your own unique dietary needs.A short story: On my first day in treatment I had lunch - my first meal there. When I walked into the dining room and saw my assigned seat with my meal on the table - I literally thought to myself - Oh my God! I am going to starve to death here! - the portion of foods were very modest compared to what I was accustomed to eating (I have binge eating disorder). I can honestly say that I NEVER experienced hunger in treatment. I was always just right. Satisfied.My point is this - my professional dietician was highly skilled at treating people who had eating disorders and designed a good plan for me based on medical information about me and a two hour interview where she asked lots of questions about my eating habits.Recovery is a process that takes time and patience.Warmly,Bethany