My best friend thinks I'm replacing her but I'm not?
Tell your friend she has nothing to worry about. If she isn't around you can spend as much time with others as you want without her having to worry you are replacing her. This would be different if she is around and you don't spend time with her, which you don't so nothing for her to worry about. I understand you won't want to lose a friend but don't go bending yourself over backwards just to please her or convince her. She might be a little insecure (or jealous) but that's something she needs to work on, not you. You should not have to convince her of anything. Friends are supposed to trust and respect each other, as well as give space to see others or do things with others. So don't let her call you a liar and feel free to get angry if she does, you don't have to accept it if she does. If she can't handle that she's not really your friend.
I think I'm in love with my best friend? Help?? Not sure if "best friend love" or a sexual love?
Okay, so I am really in love with my best friend. We are both girls, and we're best friends and super close. But lately, I've been thinking about her a lot more than usual. When I look into her eyes, I feel a tingling nervous sensation. I'm super shy around her- I always blush and get really nervous when I talk to her. She's perfect. I think about her all the time and fantasize about her at night- I dream of holding her tight and kissing her and having sex with her- all that stuff. But it's really weird, growing up I've always been sexually attracted to guys, never even thought about girls. My best friend is the only girl I've ever really loved... I've never liked any other girl. She loves me a lot too, but not in a lesbian way. I'm afraid to tell her how I feel, if she rejected me my heart would be broken. But anyway, I have so many thoughts and feelings for herI'm crazy about her. Not sure if she feels same way.. I'm only 13, so I'm really confused right now.. What should I do? Thx!
I have a crush on my best friend. I think she likes me too, but I've been in a relationship with another girl for 2 years and she loves me a lot. What should I do?
Crushes are often short term attractions.they come and go but you have been with your girlfriend for two years. I guess you still love her.Dont act hastily. You might lose this attraction for your best friend sometime later. Try spending more time with your girlfriend and make her a good friend and think of her positives and about your relationship and future together. Its always the case of " the grass is greener on the other side" but if you water your plants well enough your grass could be greener . Focus on making your girlfriend a great friend and bond with her.Inspite of all this if you still have feelings for your best friend after a few more months then you should possibly reconsider your relationship and come out honestly to the girlfriend because then it would start being unfair to her.
I've been friends with a girl for two years, but I like her a lot. Is there any possibility that I can impress her, or have I lost the chance?
One of the most underutilized skills is communication. I see it on Reddit all the time. People going there for advice when all they had to do was repeat what they wrote to the person they love. You would be amazed by how well just a sit down over dinner could provide a great opportunity just to let her know that she is a lot more special to you than she thinks.I visited my wife at her work for almost 8 months before I had enough alcohol to ask her for her number. When I did, she immediately gave it to me as if she had been waiting that whole time for me to ask. Luckily, I remember.If you don't mind, I will leave some thoughts of how to let her know.Go for coffee and just be straight. If she is a straightforward type of person then this should be easy. Sometimes it's just easy.You could just start texting her and be flirty if you don't want confrontation. Snapchat can be fun and easier to break the ice.Playfully mention something hypothetical like "What if we dated?"...lol, right? Take the temperature of her response to see if you have been friendzoned. If you are bad at reading people, bring someone that is.Ask her friends for advice, they might already know something you don't.Either way, it's going to be 3, 4, 5, 6, or more years if you don't make moves. It could be worse if she finds her right guy before you tell her. I love seeing people happy, but I know something like this can be a challenge. It was for me, and now we are going on our 10th anniversary and couldn't be happier.All the best wishes!
Help!! I think I've desertered my old best friend!?!?!?
The same thing is happening to me. I found more popular friends to hang out with and what I do is I just hang out with that person occasionally. You can hang out with whoever you want. and don't let anyone tell you different. because it's you're decision and no one else can make it for you.
My friend thinks the world revolves around her and that I'm her "backup?"?
Give it to her back; Say I forgot ab0ut you! With a dumb laugh and then walk away. Try to get the guys to notice you more. Ignore her for a while, maybe she'll get the message, if not, you only can ditch her.
My new friend and I have been recently talking a lot, and she just admitted to me that she flirts with me. Up until now I assumed she was straight, she knows I'm not. I don't know how to interpret this. Why would do you think she said this?
Hey….I am a straight, old man, but if it quacks like a duck….I would say if she is flirting with you and she felt she had to tell you that she was flirting with you, that is more than obvious to me that she is into you and wants to be more than friends, but hey, like I said, I am basing my sexuality on straight sexuality and I think the truth is, there is not a difference in how we all approach getting it on with the ones we love. Are you dense when it comes to flirtation? LOL Flirt back if you think she is someone you want to be with and see what happens! La vida loca!!
Am I cheating on my boyfriend by talking to a guy friend a lot?
“Circumstances don't change people,people change circumstances”Maybe this would sound bitter but you are not just cheating,but also looking for validation.The fact that you need to ask this question makes it very clear that your conscience is already aware of the fact that you're no longer committed to your boyfriend.You know what you're doing is not right.But knowledge does not equal acceptance.Each one of us have our own definitions of love,commitment,trust and loyalty. And these definitions change as per our circumstances and convenience. They shouldn't.You go as far as to say that in some ways you prefer your friend over your boyfriend and you still need us to tell you that that's not how its supposed to be in a relationship.I have been the guy who was friends with someone who already had a boyfriend and I have lost someone I loved to a new found friend of hers.Trust me,it hurts to be both.Be honest with yourself and come clean.First step is to accept it yourself. Next is to honestly talk to your partner about this.This is in no way to criticise you.People can fall out of love.Its not a crime.But to hold on to something which no longer is worth holding on for you,now that's not the right thing to do.
I fell in love with my friend, but she doesn't feel the same way. She wants me in her life but being there as just her friend hurts too much. I’ve tried distancing myself, but we both miss each other. What can I do?
Hi.I can tell you what to do because I'm in exactly the same condition.LITERALLY.So what I did.I took a day and explained my complete mental state to her and told her that I need her more than a relationship.I explained to her what she means to me.I told her that my feelings are on one hand and they can never come between me and her because she was scared to lose me as a friend.I try to distant myself, it hurts even more.I have learned to live with it now, you know why?Because, if I am honest with her about my feelings and If I am strong enough to stay focused in my own life even after being in love with her and still not being WITH her, only then she'll see me as someone worthy enough.Maybe she never accepts you as anything more as a friend, but you won't regret not trying.Just tell her once and if she tells you NO, back off.. stay normal and be a good and supportive gentleman.I joined the gym now, I train myself hard there and leave it all there.. Life goes on right?I'm waiting for her even now and a lot more.Hope for the best.