Is my friend taking me for granted?
We have been best friends since we were 9. I would do anything for her,but I don't feel she would for me. I have gone out of my way to do things for her like come get her when she's run out of gas, always drive when we go somewhere, lend her money (she pay me back but still), let her share things with me that I pay for, I always have to go to her house she never comes to mine. stuff like that. These things arn't a big deal by themselves but all together it's kind of ridiculous. She never offers to help me out though. I feel like she takes me for granted and doesn't appreciate what i do for her. Am I over reacting?
My "best" friend takes me for granted?
what should you do when an old friend starts to take you for granted? The thing is I am used to her not calling me and this and that cuz shes very absent minded but i am just really pissed off. i feel like i ALWAYS try to include her in stuff and she just never thinks to do the same. for example usually we go skiing over winter break, this year she just decided to go to Germany (by herself) and she kinda always just springs stuff on you like "you im going to germany, didnt i tell you?". and this weekend she came home from college, she told me she was gonna be here and wanted me to come home too so we could hang out. so what does she do? she doesnt even call me when she gets back, i had to text and she was like "oh yeah im home me and my friends (from her college that she came with) already got food i hope u werent hungry so i guess u can just come over". like i know sometimes shes rude without meaning to be cuz thats how she is, but im just so annoyed at how shes been treating me!
How do I treat a friend that takes me for granted?
Make yourself less available. They can only do that when you allow them to. It's a cooperation between the two of you - they want, you provide. Stop providing.Friendships often come together for a variety of reasons but they are usually providing some kind of advantage for one or the other. Your relationship may be the kind of relationship that is one-sided, where one gets the advantage and the other gets taken for granted. It is likely that this is why the relationship works, and if a change occurs in that dynamic, it may mean an end to the friendship. You are now the one being taken advantage of, but I venture to guess that it felt like you were needed in the beginning so you liked the relationship but it has changed. So if you do change that dynamic, they won't be getting what they want from you and it is your choice how you handle. It is impacting you to the point of asking for advice. It may be doubtful for them to change - once a dynamic is established, altering it a person may withdraw, in simpler terms, if you stop feeding the animal they will look for food elsewhere. The change doesn't often work in keeping the friendship, though she may be quite unaware of what's happening, so talking about it may help. But it's become a habit or ritual if you will, a behavior that's developed, and that may be hard to change. It's up to you to stop letting this happen, and the best way is to back off a bit, don't be so agreeable.
I have a close friend, he takes me for granted. What should I do now?
Lets take it this way. There could be two things. One he/she thinks that you are a good friend or the one who thinks that you are close to that person and you will be able to tolerate, even if that person takes you for granted. You can make it clear by telling that person to bend his ways. Secondly, it could be because of you also. You could have given that person the chance. I mean most of these problems are mutual where one person projects that he/she is easy which allows the other person to take advantage.
My best friend takes me for granted. wat do i do?
how do you became best friends? and you should've asked her why did she agreed to become your best friend if she can't be like one. The problem sometimes is that, we thought that, that person is a best friend material, and yet we're not so sure if they can be always there for us....who can appreciate those things you've done for him/her. Be4 choosing a bestfrend, let the years pass and let's see if they are still our friend. But i don't mean that your bestfrend is bad.
How do I stop being taken for granted by friends?
People take you granted when you are always available for them. They know that no matter how they behave you will be always sticking around.If you are always there for your friends through thick and thin, no matter what, then this shows that you are a good person who cares and loves his/her friends.This thing should make you proud of yourself that you hold the true essence of FRIENDSHIP.Remember,Too much is too bad…..Being too good to anyone and always being there for them is definitely a good thing ,but this too is an extreme act.Someone may suggest you to change the company, but this is not the first thing to do. If you really love your friends and don’t want to be taken granted, then the only thing you can do is make them realize your worth, your value.Let me give an example.Children always take their parents granted. Unless there comes a situation when their parents are not available for them,they don’t realize how important they are to you. Specially when you move out of your house you understand how easy it was to depend on them for every possible thing!!Here you take your parents for granted, but you are not a bad person, nor your friends are. This is just a human tendency.To make them realize your worth, you need to have a little bit of Attitude. (in a positive way).You may also engage yourself in self improvement. This may also help because people always tend to love the better version of you.and always remember this…………..And even after all these efforts, if the things don’t change, then those people do not deserve you. (Believe me you will feel much relieved when you come out of that negativity)Hopeful that my answer may help ….Thank you!!
I feel taken for granted by my friends?
i feel like my friends take me for granted. They dont really take how i feel into consideration, and sometimes they dont even listen to me talk. I have a few friends that'll just ignore me if they have someone else they want to talk to and theyl just leave me out of the loop. I rarely do that to them, and i try to help them as much as possible. I do have a few friends i can trust and rely on, but the others make me feel kind of sad. What do you think?
My best friend takes me for granted. What to do?
This is an interesting question!!See there could be a few reasons for it.-> Sometimes when you don’t speak a lot, may be you are an introvert. So you don’t talk too much and may be that’s why your friends don’t involve you in a lot of major discussions.-> You must not be giving best suggestions or may be you must be a kind of selfish friend, who just remembers his/her friends at the time of need. This could be one of the reasons.-> Try to be more sensible, helpful and caring in life and i am sure your friends will never take you for granted.
My best friend took my kindness for granted. What to do?
Sometimes it’s your mistake that you give them lots of importance and all your feelings and emotions are attached to them. Before finding any solution to this problem, it is important that you should know the reasons why people take us for granted.why People take you for granted:You love them:This is the biggest reason why anyone starts taking you for granted. If you are expressive and told a person that what he/she means to your life, he/she will start thinking that whatever happen you are never going to go away especially when it’s an unconditional love. So, if you think that the one you love is taking you granted, it’s time to rethink about that relation.They rule your life:There are people who have the power to make you smile as well as cry and when people become so important in your life, you become weak in front of them. You start living your life the way they want and try to do whatever makes them happy. The day others know their importance they will surely take you for granted.You are Adjusting:If you are adjusting, emotional in nature and keep others first while taking any decisions in life then people will surely take you for granted. It’s good to be nice to people but start thinking that you won’t do anything wrong with them and you will adjust for them in any situation. It’s very easy to play with emotions for adjusting person.Never think about credits:Even if you are trying to work hard for someone or care a lot for someone, you never expect to get care and credit in return then you need to become smarter. There are people whom you have to realize how much you work and care, sometimes you need to use words to show who you are and what your worth is. Once you will show your worth, they will stop taking you for granted.Self-confidence:Sometimes people lose their self-confidence either because of failures or wrong decisions in life. If you will lose self-confidence, how others are going to respect you? Lack of confidence gives permission to another to rule you. Unless you won’t show your importance, other won’t come to know what you mean to their lives.Above were few major reasons why people start taking you for granted but to avoid such situation, you don’t have to be bad or rude to them. If you are polite and giving then don’t change yourself to show your worth, there are other ways to show others that you exist. I will surely share them in my next article. Meanwhile do share your views with us that why people are taken for granted.
I care about my friends. But I feel they just take me for granted. What should I do?
I am not much help with these things and my advice mostly ends up not working for people even though it works fine for me; and that is a disclaimer.Having said that, it is often the case with people that an extra bit of love/care/affection etc are born out of an inherent feeling that we cannot do without these people and obviously such a feeling is a sign of weakness (except of course with parents or soul-mates where the emotions and relationships enter a much higher level of selflessness, bonding and above all duty). In short when you say that you care a lot for your friends, you are exposing that you feel the need to keep them your friends as very pressing. It is natural that in cases where adolescent or adult jostling for space and dominance is involved your approach may be judged as weak and dependent. In short, you will be taken for granted, a mere dependent.For any man (or woman) to make a valuable friend they must offer something valuable in return. That's the reason that beautiful girls or rich men are always surrounded by a crowd of gawping fools. Of course ordinary mortals do make lasting and true friendships. So how to get there? In your specific case it involves two major steps:(i) Develop your own sufficiency. Prepare yourself to do things without needing friends. Realistically this approach should start early, right from the day when we ask teachers for permission to take a pee with a friend to the day when we need guys with us when about to ask out a girl. Learn to operate all alone in unknown or even hostile environments. Yes it is difficult but make a start; such improvements are unending so you have begun gaining the moment you started.(ii) Develop yourself in your own specific areas for people to desire your company, your presence, your opinion. Its like I said before, be able to contribute a friendship rather than just being able to care. Its what you are good with that determines your need and its your need that determines how much importance people accord you.Next time your friends take you for granted, your courage will be tested more than your friendship. For you to win will require you to put your foot down and let your displeasure be known. Obviously you risk losing them or alienating them and in any case that is one of the two inevitable pathways for you; the other being always being the caddy. That is the bitter truth.