How do I stop my friends from taking advantage of me?
People will only take advantage of you if you allow it to. People by nature have needs and requirements and wants, and they look out for these to be met within their social circle,. Whether they consciously or unconsciously try to meet that need, want, etc or not is not important.There is only one way for you to control how much you really want to give to your friends and to stop you from being roped into things that you don't really want to do. It's using a word, which is a very powerful word. That word is “no”.Many people have a problem saying “no”, but don't think of the word “no” as just a negative. Think of it as a fence with gate around your property. Imagine if nobody had fences and all your neighboring properties were completely open, one piece of land shared by everyone. Who would make use of the most land? It would be the people who may be more demanding, ask for it frequently or even those who just take it without asking. Question: Can you blame the others for taking “your” property when there is no fence?So when you use the word “no”, you are merely putting up that fence and tell people that this is your property.Now, another aspect to this fence setting is that you also create a gate. What is that gate? That gate is when you allow people inside your property, and you do that voluntarily. That is when you say “yes” to any of your friends wants, needs, requests and requirements. Isn't that truly beautiful and encompasses the spirit of giving and not being taken advantage of? However, unless the fence demarcation is clear to your friends,ie they know how far they can go because otherwise you will say “no”, your “yes” is pretty meaningless.In other words, if you always say “yes” even begrudgingly, you will always be taken advantage of. It's your “no” that prevents abuse by your friends and allows your “yes” to be truly from your heart.Benefits: You will attract the right kind of friends that you will enjoy and who respect you, and you enjoy an inner self respect.Be aware that as you start saying “no”, some of your more demanding and property hopping “friends” might leave you because they can't accept the new you. Their nature (and usually they are not conscious of it) is to have “friends” without fences where they can freely have their needs & wants met.Try it!
Is my best friend taking advantage of me?
I don't know how you can call this girl your "best friend" because she treats you like dirt! Let me tell you how that whole shopping trip would have turned out if you were MY friend. First of all, I would never have decided to buy something that you liked but couldn't afford. I would have offered to buy it for you and let you pay me back later. I would never just say "too bad" if you were upset. This girl does NOT respect you, she's using you. She tries on your clothes without you permission?? Talk about rude! The problem is, though, if you don't say anything, it is as good as giving your permission. She buys things you like in order to make you jealous, and to make you feel bad. She is a terrible person, and she's not acting like a friend to you at all. To say you're a doormat is kinda rude, so I'll just say that you're letting her take advantage of you over and over again. The only way for you to change that is to stand up for yourself. First, never ever go shopping with this girl. EVER. She is bad for your self esteem. She looks for ways to make you feel bad. I wouldn't invite her over to your house, either, if she's going to start rummaging through your clothes. If she does come over, you need to stand up for yourself and let her know that you don't appreciate her trying on your clothes. Maybe when she visits you should stay in the living room or the back yard... stay out of your room to avoid the temptation of letting her try on your stuff. You need to create boundaries for her, so she can't take advantage of you. Honestly, I don't think you should be her friend at all, but I'm not going to tell you who to be friends with. You just need to respect yourself enough to not let her take advantage of you. You have a great heart, and you deserve to have friends that respect you for the wonderful person that you are. I wish you luck, and I hope you see what a great person you are. God bless you.
How do I stop helping my friend who takes advantage of me?
This is the biggest problem in my life most of my friends use me, they only call me meet me or message me only when they need help from me when they need money or they want me to their work.So what i do is i just ignoreWhen they message me i reply after 5–6 hours.When they call me i usually text them i am Busy i will call you later.When they come to my house i say i am going out with my little sister or my mother.This might help youBut remember that always talk to thrm after the incident and ask them what they wanted so they think you wanted to help them.
My guy friend took advantage of me?
He asked me to go to his house to watch TV. He ended up fondling and groping me, taking my clothes off. He told me not to think about it and get it out of my head because thats what hes gonna do. I feel betrayed and dirty, I thought he was my friend, i trusted him. I'm not sure what to do.
My guy friend tried to take advantage of me while i was drunk, what do i do now?
i went to a party with a guy friend i've been friends with for a long time. he used to like me but i made it very clear that i only saw him as a friend and wanted to keep it that way. when i was drunk at the party, i was still functional. i wasn't falling all over the place or wreaking havoc or anything like that. but he insisted that we go back to the motel room that we rented (we rented it w/ other partygoers as well) to stay for the night. at the time i was too drunk to realize that maybe he was trying to isolate me. when we got back, he told me he was cold and kept telling me to caress him to warm him up. i stroked him once (unwillingly) and he kept telling me to do more so i told him i didn't want to and stopped. he got the message and that was that. we just passed out on the bed. he was holding on to my hand and i let go b/c it felt uncomfortable. even though he didn't make any further advances after that, i feel so angry thinking back on it. i feel like he was definitely trying to exploit the fact that i was wasted. he was barely intoxicated too. i just think it's super low of him to try to do something with me when i'm not even fully conscious. he knows damn well that i'm not attracted to him. i don't plan on talking to him ever again. should i just ignore him cold turkey or explain all this to him?
Friend took advantage of me while high, is that considered rape?
first off, im a guy and im 15 years old, still in high school. this gets a little explicit i guess, so if you don't like reading detailed sexual things, dont read. yesterday evening, a friend came over to my house after school so we could smoke marijuana. he brought along ecstasy and wanted to try it. i said whatever and just stuck to the weed. i got really high to where i could hardly move around and after he took the ecstasy, he started getting weird. rolling on the floor and touching himself, things like that. but then he started putting his hands on me but i was so high, i couldn't do much to stop him. then he pulled down my pants and started sucking me off! i really didnt even have the energy to fight him off so all i could do was just lay there and let him give me a bj. he did it for like 20 minutes until he made me сum but even after i came, he still kept doing it. for 5 minutes, i was practically begging him to stop sucking and he finally did and then he got up and left. my mom came home about an hour later but i didnt tell her what happened and i havent spoken to my "friend" again yet, dont know if i should. im really embarrassed by this and havent told anyone i know about it yet. dont know if he has, i hope not... but anyway, i really dont know what to do now. would that be considered rape? do i tell someone or do i just leave it and not speak about it again?