I think that my mom hates me?
My mom always is yelling at me and calling my stuff worthless and telling me that i am a brat even though i do everything to make her happy. she also blames everything on me and wants me to do all the house work while she sits around doing nothing. Lately i think that i am deppressed but i cant tell her because she will do nothing and probably think i am lying to get attention. i have also started to cut and it makes me feel so much better but i cant tell her because i know that she will just call my aunt and tell her to talk to me but my aunt is always on my moms side and can not see her flaws. the only one that understands is my half sister and her stepmom but they life in PA and cant help. my half sister moved out because she hated my mom so much. I dont know what to do I am only 13.
I think my mom hates me..I NEED help!!?
I am a pretty decent kid, I don't do drugs, achohal, or hangout with bad people. I am 15 and I'm a sophomore in highschool. Also, I'm a girl. my mom takes away my phone during school hours when I stay home from school so I am not destracted so then today, a little after she took away my phone for the day, I asked for help because I was trying to make an Excel spreadsheet for school on the computer, and when she came downstairs she sat down in the chair next to me and started saying how I am a bad kid because I was saying the F* words to one of my friends, as a joke. but she didn't think it was funny because it was an inside joke. Which I can understand, kids do not want their children cussing, but everyone makes mistakes. Then after she has this long speech about it (I just sat their and listened) she said "I am taking your phone away for the rest of the day" and I couldn't have her do that because I need it for my extracurricular activites going on tonight. and out of my anger (I always need to clench something, I am not really sure why, it just helps) I grabbed the first thing that was next to me, and of course, it was a pair of scissors. but as soon as I saw that I grabbed them I let go because I didn't want her to think I was going to hurt her or wanted to hurt her. then she just randomly says "go ahead kill me, I'd like it way better than being with you" and I just need help, this happens all of the time and I don't know what to do, I feel like she hates me.
I think i hate my mom help?
One thing is to stop thinking so negativly and start thinking positive. Try thinking of the good things she's done for you in the past. As for respect, it doesn't really work that way unfortunently. Try showing your mother respect before expecting it in return. Locking yourself in your room and turning to the internet for release really won't help your situation much. Anytime you converse with her, act happy, keep your cool, and keep your voice calm. If you don't pose a threat then she has no reason to yell at you except for the reasons you're actually giving her to yell at you. This could be breaking rules, not doing what you're asked, or simply just being disrepectful/rude. It really depends what's going on. Try writing down what she has a problem with/ what you need to fix that she's complaining/yelling at you for and then work on avoiding doing those things she dislikes/fix what needs to be fixed. It may not work perfectly but usually fixing your own actions will improve your mother's.
Ithink my mom hates me...Help!?
c'mon that's not true. What young people never realize is that their parents are actually REAL people with their own issues, they make mistakes they have limitations and it's all very normal. So sometimes they can indirectly send out the wrong message to us, and we as kid all think that our parents are these perfect people, who not supposed to have issues of their own. What you can do is talk with her. Good luck and she loves you and so do I (I am sooo going to get 10 points for this)
MY MOM HATES ME, LITERALLY. I NEED HELP?
Okay, so like the past 3 months my mothers and my relationship literally went downhill so fast. its like we dont even have a relationship now. It all started with my grades i have ALL B+, A's and a C+ in Language arts. im really bad at it, and i try my best but my mom doesnt think it is good enough. i tell her that im trying my best and she replies with, NO YOURE NOT!!!!!! and i truthfully am. And, i know im not one to speak but high school is REALLY REALLY hard. All my mom does is yell at me, she never tells me she loves me and doesnt care how i feel about anything. over the summer i go to camp and its kinda my "getaway" from home for a few weeks. but today my health grade lowered to a b+ and she told me i wasnt going bc i dont deserve to go. I dont understand what i did to deserve this. i always respect her and try to tell her how i feel but all she dooes is get mad and yell. SHE ALWAYS TAKES MY PHONE AWAY SO I CAN NEVER TALK TO MY FRIENDS TO GET HELP. any TIPS? I REALLY NEED HELP
Me and my mom got in a bad fight and I think she hates me?
I need someone to help me guys.. I honestly beg of you. Today me and my mom had a BLOWOUT of a fight. It started over cigarette smoke, and how to dispose of used cooking oil (sad but true). About 2 3/4 months ago I quit smoking cigarettes (i'm 19) and about a month ago I started to smell that "stinky funk" smell everyone talks of with them, as a smoker I didnt realize how bad they stunk since I was so exposed to it. So I was asking my gram if she can ask my uncle + grandfather to not smoke in the kitchen anymore, due to the fact that when I wash clothes they come out REEKING like an ashtray, and also when I eat down there I choke. Everyone keeps calling me this hypocrite and I cant stand it! I understand its his house and all, but all I was asking is if he can go in the other room and smoke so its not as concentrated. So then my mom gets all in my face about it saying "What in your right mind makes you think you have a right to tell the owner of this house not to smoke around you, especially from some 19 year old punk asking this" so I defended saying I quit for my health, and im sick of smelling like it/eating around clouds of smoke (which I hated even when I smoked). So when that was done and over with, I told her to stop dumping used oil along my neighbors fence, because it was staining it. Again she freaked out. Then she started just going nuts about how I bark all these order when I am a no life with no job. Then I started calling her an idiot/freak/weirdo because of how psycho she gets when shes mad. I honestly want to die thats how bad I feel when we argue, I know arguing gets people nowhere. But she even takes it to the extent of saying she looks at me like im a puddle of puke and stuff, and it kills me inside. Saying I am just like my father, I make her sick, etc.. (they are split). I just dont know what to do, can somebody go through and touch on some things? Id really appreciate it. - David.
I think my mom hates me?
me and my mom were never really the best of friends since the 4th grade for some reason. i never noticed until now though and i have no idea as to why. i mean all mother daughter relationships are a little rocky but not like this. my step dad insists that it is because she never had that relationship with her mother(my grandma) and my grandma insists its because my mom doesn't want me making the same mistakes she did in the past. but that's no reason at all to treat me like dirt! she calls me a bitchhh on a daily basis (probably 4-7) and she is always giving me this huffy look even when i don't do anything. she doesn't even talk to me like "how was your day?" or small talk of any sort. unless you count giving me attitude about what chores need to be done. and i'm just really sick of her attitude and i feel like there's no one to talk to. my stepdad is always on her side. my grandma is back in england. and i do talk to my friends about it, but wtf are they going to do about it??? i really just want to run away but i have no idea where i am going to go so that's a no-no. i just...i just want my mom to love me again. the way she use to when i was smaller. she treats my older brother like some god and that i'm the dirt he stands on.
My Mom Hates Me (I Need Help)!!! I JUST NEED TO KNOW YOUR OPINION ON MY SITUATION?
I guess you live in Rhode Island. The real deal is your the child of the first marriage and she wants her husbands approval , so your the guy that is out in the cold. Get a job and go to CCRI and make your decisions your 18 and old enough to sign for yourself. Play your music, take film in school and get a job so you have some money make your plan and do not what worry about your mom.Your mothers new husband is probably the problem behind this your eighteen and he wants not to help you. So help yourself and evolve your own life. good luck. You love your mom but, her present husband does not love you and that is the story behind it all.
This depends on the law where you live. Eighteen is an adult, but you are still living with her as a dependent child. If she has been abusing you since before you turned 18 that would be classed as child abuse anyway.Talk to your school counsellor, or a kidsline or other local child abuse service. It is unlikely that anything can be done to stop her - many people may lose the plot under extreme stress and lash out once, but ongoing abusers only stop abusing when they realise for themselves that what they are doing is wrong. Reeducation and skill training is a waste of time with somebody who believes they are entitled to behave like this.You're going to need somewhere new to live - and studying gets hard when you have to fend for yourself at the same time. Do you have relatives you could live with nearby? Grandparents are usually the relatives of choice for this, or possibly your father - if he's not just as bad. You will know your situation better than we can. You're probably too old for foster care, but there may be services to help young adults find student accomodation.Hitting you with a rolling pin is a criminal offence - assault or battery or whatever your local law enforcement prefer to call it. And the abuse is only likely to get worse until you get out of there.
You didn't provide any further information, like instances when you 'thought' your mother hated you. She might have been hard on you, more than you expected, distant herself and making you do things which seem unreasonable but believe me it's just Mother's way. If a lioness doesn't stop feeding her cubs after a certain time, no matter how hungry they are, the cubs will never be able to get self independent and hunt for food themselves. The lesson is tough but essential for survival.You know what I hate, I Hate Veggies.Veggies like Beans, Broccoli, Kale, Gourd(oh god) I hate every Gourd...bottle gourd, round gourd, ridge gourd, bitter gourd. I despise then, detest them, resent them, abhor them, I would kill them if they ever attain a form and try to meet me in person. Just the look at them makes me curl in a corner and kill myself(because every time I 'kill' any of them with a knife, my mother makes a dish out of em)That's me and Veggies.Is this how you think your mother feels about you?You feel like a hated bean whenever she calls you by a thousand baby names?How about just hug her and say 'I love you mom' or 'You are the best' and make her happy for once in a day. Not that hard as you might think.