My mom is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do!?
My mom has been drinking for as long as I can remember, most likely before I was born . She usually drinks a medium bottle of Bacardi a night, sometimes a big bottle and that'll last MAYBE 2 nights. Anyways, shes not an aggressive drunk, shes more of a spaced drunk, she doesn't remember anything the next day ( I know of course its because shes drinking), she just says random crap and shes so emotionless and I hate it. She'll just stand in the kitchen and she'll stumble. I don't care if she drinks a little but this is ridiculous. Every time I talk about how she drinks or if shes drunk and i mention it to her, she completely is denial of the fact that she even goes to the liquor store and buys it. She absolutely does not believe she is an alcoholic, can't even admit shes the one drinking the liquor all night. She says things like; "I am not drunk, I've only had a little", or when I mentioned that she starting drinking at 10 a.m. before I went to work and she was passed out drunk the rest of the day and I got home at 8 p.m. and my sister said she was doing it till 4 p.m. I thought of an intervention but shes too stubborn to even believe that she does it. too careless that shes showing that its okay. It scares me to think about how she might have to go through a lot of health problems as she gets older. I can't convince her of what i see literally, every. single. day. of my life. I was just hoping i could get some advice or some tips on how I can help her.
How can I deal with my aggressive drunk brother?
We're very weak when it comes to family. We can tolerate much before reaching the boiling point. I know what you mean. I have an alcoholic, drug addict brother and he has made my family restless a lot of the time. As difficult as it is, you'll have to make the hard choice. The choice to cut him off. As a family member, you all love him, even if he is causing you all this trouble, there is that special place in your heart that refuses to take action. If he was someone else, he would have been kicked out of your house a long time ago, he would have been in jail right now. This is where the difficult part comes in, one way or another, he needs to be kicked out of the house. I'm sure you've all tried to make him stop drinking, hell, maybe even tried to get him to some professional help. I would advice your parents to sit down with him when he is sober, then let him know he is very destructive. After that, change all the locks and don't open up when he comes home drunk. Your parents also need a lawyer, I don't know exactly how harboring him will affect them. So hire or at least see a lawyer and know the consequences. If nothing can happen, the he should be arrested because he might get violent. But my advice of changing locks should taken first.
Why does my alcoholic mother become so aggressive and opinionated when she drinks?
Both of my parents are alcoholics. Since my mom switched from white wine to drinking whiskey, I've noticed she is increasingly overly opinionated, aggressive, arrogant and overly-confidant. She'll go from being passive and super nice to SUDDENLY opinionated on big topics like politics, religion, healthcare, etc. SUDDENLY and within in a few minutes she can shoot down any idea and becomes almost all-knowledgeable about an issue that I KNOW she doesn't even have all of the facts on. She never went to college, never studies any subjects, never learns anything, doesn't improve her self or participate in self growth and she has no friends (both of my parents have isolated themselves due to the alcohol I think). I don't drink, never have, and I wonder why does alcohol suddenly make a person aggressive or overly opinionated on topics they don't even have full knowledge about?!!! It's crazy!
Should we get our alcoholic father arrested or should i just get out?
Don't have dad arrested. Why would you do that to someone you love? It sounds like your mom is much more or a problem than your dad. If I were you, I would get out of there before I start drinking like dad.
Why do some people get aggressive when drinking?
its a way for them to release anything they have had bottled up here's my story: this year and last year i spent drinking for the first few times with my Vietnamese family and they brought out shot glasses, i wasn't the type to really even drink i was a sodaholic if you will (i craved soda more than alcohol) and as soon as i hit the first glass that did nothing to me so i continued to drink until i had 21 shots of patron, 2 hits of whiskey and 1 hit of marijuana (it was a celebration because 2012 was the year of the dragon) my vision was blurred my words were slurred and some of my emotions bursted out because relatively speaking people who bottle up emotions don't have an outlet to release it unto and they need a release its like holding 2 simultaneous explosions in a flask, what are you going to do once the flask breaks? the explosions are released and become dangerous 2013, i drank again but this time with my girlfriend this time with the vietnamese family only this time i took 24 shots of patron because my gf had school the following day so it was a bit noble for me to save her from that but stupid enough for me because i ended up shedding alot of tears for unknown reasons maybe regret from things in the past or maybe jealous one or the other it affected me alot. it also made me more aggressive to what people were doing. as an after effect major heartburn and frequent visits to the restroom at 4 in the morning in short as to why people get aggressive when drinking -> they need that stimulus to give them a reason to unleash what may either be bothering them or whatever they maybe be keeping bottled up due to jealousy at work, why their relationships may have gone sour, maybe due to kids, the society as a whole, it depends on the person themselves as to why some will get aggressive when they get drunk OR its a means of them to reveal their other self like a persona -> the other you (its been shown as a psychological fact that some people don't want to admit things even if they look themselves in the mirror but im straying away from the question) is going to show up through some hidden emotions. i hope this helps out in some way as being drunk is not a picnic neither is it a good thing as it kills your livers, even myself as a sodaholic have to learn to stop because thats alot of sugar for me and going back to water is a pain in the rear guaranteed