Was it disrespectful that my boss told me "I pay you more than what you get me"?
Bosses are people, and sometimes people say foolish things for their own reasons.He may perceive that you add less financial value to the company’s bottom line than what he has to pay to have you on staff. That may or may not be true.He may instead be saying that to manipulate you to be more productive or to intimidate you, even if what he’s saying is not true.Saying that is foolish, whether or not it’s true, because it’s a discouraging thing to say and may result in lower productivity. I would be better to say, “To keep the business healthy and avoid having to cut back on staff, we all need to be efficient and productive. I’ve noticed some ways you can increase your productivity. Let’s go over those.” Then, he could ask you to do specific things, telling you he’ll continue to give you guidance so you can be as productive as possible while still being able to maintain the pace.Rather than worrying about whether he was disrespectful, try showing your commitment to doing your best by saying, “I hear you. You want me to produce more in order to help the business succeed. Is that right? Okay, please tell me what you’d like me to improve first and how you’d like me to do it. I’m happy to improve my way of working to support more success for the company.” By doing that, you’ll be giving him a way to get his stated needs met and showing that you’re a team member he can trust to focus on his bottom line. You’ll also be building a better job reference, assuming you follow through, improve your work, and ask what else you can do to support the business better.Really, giving the ideal answer and following through tends to diffuse complaints by supervisors. One time this might not be true would be in the case when the supervisor is threatened by a high performer and just wants to tear them down to others or scare them away so that they won’t feel their job may be threatened. If you have one of those kinds of bosses, your choices are to either get noticed by higher ups and transition to a job that doesn’t report to your insecure boss or take another job at a different company, using your previous boss as a reference or someone else at your current job.The key to handling this situation is to answer the same way and do the same thing but know what kind of boss you have so that you can either please them or find a way to change jobs so you can work with someone who actually wants you to perform well.
Boyfriend is stuck on my past?
I am 22 and recently I started dating a guy who, overall, I find wonderful. He is fun, funny, caring, and smart. However, one big thing has been hindering our relationship to the point where I am about ready to break up with him. He can't seem to get over my past. In the past I slept with a number of people (probably more than average but not over 20). I regret some of my actions, but many of them were long ago and currently I am living my life in a way that I am proud of. Still, he continually wants to know everything about my past. He fixates on details about my experiences with other men, to the point where our time together is often spent on discussing/arguing about things that happened years ago. I know that for the most part he is just insecure about his own ability to please me or "measure up" and he has admitted this. This hurts me because I feel like our relationship has just become a pissing contest for him. I tell him and show him all the time how much I care for him and that I want to be with him only. I've also tried different approaches. I've tried saying things like "babe, let's not think about this because all I want to focus on is how I feel so good being with you right now." I've also gone the opposite route and told him exactly what he wanted to know, but then he gets hurt and uses the information as ammunition against me later. The bottom line is that I really care about this man. I wish I could just lie, but I want our relationship to be built on honesty and trust. He has so many positive qualities that I admire, but but being with him has become more pain than pleasure for both of us. I wish we could just get past this one thing that is destroying our otherwise wonderful relationship. I appreciate any advice.
Do I need to tell my husband about my past?
Nope…!!!No need.He has nothing to do with your past. If you tell, you cannot see the same person. His attitude would change. He may try to make you comfortable. But, the truth is, At the bottom of his heart, something will remain. You are dumping unnecessary stuff in his mind. You are going to break a mirror, It can be fixed. But The cracks will be there forever. Please do not do it.What If he hears it from someone?1st thing, Please understand, He didn’t ask for your past life. What does that mean? He really isn't interested in your past. He wanted to live with you happily in present and future.We men know that, heart hurting, unsuccessful relationships, breakups may happens before marriage. It happens in men’s life also. Nothing wrong in this (as far as, there is a valid reason behind them). So no need to feel any guilty. Enjoy the life with your partner. If he gets to know about your past, he will understand you. If he asks any why & How give the valid explanation and he will respect and love you more…
Can I tell my orthodontist I don't want bottom braces?!?
Yes, I am a minor. And yes, my parents I believe have paid for the full treatment. But nothing is really "wrong" with my bottom teeth- no impacted teeth. They're really not all that crooked either. THey already say I'll have to have this impacted tooth appliance for a year, and then time after that to position my teeth. One ortho (my favorite one) only seems concerned with moving my impacted tooth. The other ortho seems primarily concerned with "oh, and you're gonna need bottom braces and a herbst appliance".
My gay top boyfriend wants to bottom?
well, ask him if he wants to try out bottoming, and if he says that he does, let him know that you've never topped anyone and really arent sure if its your thing. if you really dont want to try it, then let him know. however if you do want to try it, let him know straight away if you want to stop, and ask that he does the same. if one or both of you dont like it, then its not that bad, you just know that its not your thing. however, if it turns out that you both enjoy it, then you will be glad that you tried it out. hope i helped!
I've been told that if you wait and fill up your car when it's almost empty it will damage the engine, and that you should always refill when you are at about a quarter of a tank full or more. Is there any truth behind this, and if so, what is the rationale?
As stated by others, they used to tell us not to run on less than 1/4 tank due to the possibility of picking up water or crud from the bottom of the tank. BUT, the fuel line draws fuel from the bottom of the tank all the time anyways, so that kind of seems to be nonsense (plus, the fuel filter should handle any minor schmutz in the gasoline).A more practical reason to not run on near-empty… one my daughter learned the hard way. Many cars today have the fuel pump located in the fuel tank. The gasoline provides cooling for the pump. If the tank goes to empty, or momentarily near-empty like when you go around a sharp corner, you risk the fuel pump over-heating and failing.In my daughter’s case, she went through 3 fuel pumps in 4 years. We kept telling her, keep the tank above 1/4 at all times. But what the problem really turned out to be was a faulty sending unit for the fuel gauge. When the gauge read 1/4 full, the tank was actually almost bone dry… that’s why the fuel pumps were burning out.So, good to not go below 1/4 tank, just in case the fuel gauge sensor is off-calibration or goes bad. Plus, you never know when you’re really, really going to need to have gasoline in your car… like when the deputy comes banging on your door at 2 AM and says you need to leave right now, there’s a wall of fire heading for your house… not the time you want to be running on fumes.
What will you do, if you want something from the bottom of your heart, but you also know that it's not good for you?
I'll let it go.Hearts are crazy creatures. Listening to your heart is not always wrong but you should also consider your brain. You know it's wrong for you, why you wanna let it happen to you? Take an example of a person. Suppose you got cheated upon, your beloved angel cheated on you and left you. You are obsessed with them and still want them back. Why? Because you think they might change but you don't know if they'd cheat again. Still you want them back? That's nothing but foolishness.Be a man and learn to let go. It's not good for you is enough for a reason to do that.“A lion is the strongest, the king but a wolf doesn't perform in a circus.”Be a wolf, do what's right for YOU.Hope it helped. :)
If you have a missing bottom tooth will the top teeth cave in?
The lady in the dentist office was right on with telling you that a missing lower tooth could in deed cause an upper tooth to move. If for example, if a last back lower tooth is extracted and not replaced, the opposing upper tooth that normally touched it when the mouth closes, that upper tooth can begin to drop towards the lower gum. If for instance a tooth is extracted leaving a gap between teeth on each side of where the tooth was, those teeth will tend to move together and that movement can eventually affect every other tooth on that jaw. Replacing extracted teeth, other than wisdom teeth, is almost always as crucial decision in that all your teeth are designed to balance and work together, removing one and leaving the space empty is akin to having a gear with some of it's teeth missing, such a gear will not properly function and eventually cause failure of the device it's suppose to operate. As far as the dentist not telling you this, I haven't an explanation for his or her lack of responsible professional imparting of crucial information.