I told my sister she has no life & is a loser & she started crying? Do I apologize?
I'm 17 & my sis is 16. She's always telling me we should spend more family time together like when we were little, but it's freakin' annoying. I have better things to do now like go on dates with hot chicks & get drunk, hi, & party(my sis never gets invited to parties). She's a loser who sits alone at school, & always reads books. She never had a BF or a kiss, how lame is that. She has 0 friends & just stays home on weekends & reads her gay books while I party. The only time she gets out the house is when she goes to school, she's a quiet awkward weirdo, UGH! it sux balls, I wish I was an only child. She recently c0cked blocked me while I was on a date. My sister showed up cuz she said she wants (gay a$$) family time. My date thought my sis was my GF I tried to explain to my date it's my sis, but she didn't listen & my date left. So I was really mad at my sister. When we got home I was mad & told me sis,"Why don't you get a life you f*kkin' loser, no wonder no one likes you & you sit alone at school, have no friends, never had a BF, don't get invited to any parties you quiet weirdo!!! just get out my life." Then my sisters eyes got really watery & she said all high pitched,"Oh, OK, sorry." & she just went to her room & closed to door. I think I should've have said that to her. IDK what to say to her now. She never talks to me anymore. She doesn't try to hang out with me anymore like she always used to try to do. Am I going to Hell? She doesn't sleep in my room anymore at night cuz she always used to say she's afraid of the dark & to scared to sleep alone in her room, but she sleeps in her room now, I guess she isn't scared of the dark anymore? I was mad but felt really bad when I saw her eyes get watery. Shood I get her to smoke weed with me to get her happy? But she doesn't do drugs. How do I convince her drugs are good? PS- Ima boy
I told my sister she's a loser with no life & she started crying? Should I apologize?
I'm 17 & my sis is 16. She's always telling me we should spend more family time together like when we were little, but it's freakin' annoying. I have better things to do now like go on dates with hot chicks & party(my sis never gets invited to parties). She's a loser who sits alone at school, & always reads books. She never had a BF or a kiss, how lame is that. She has 0 friends & just stays home on weekends & reads her gay books while I party. The only time she gets out the house is when she goes to school, she's a quiet awkward weirdo, UGH, it sucks, I wish I was an only child. She recently c0cked blocked me while I was on a date. My sister showed up cuz she said she wants (gay a$$) family time. My date thought my sis was my GF I tried to explain to my date it's my sis, but she didn't listen & my date left. So I was really mad at my sister. When we got home I was mad & told me sis,"Why don't you get a life you f*kkin' loser, no wonder no one likes you & you sit alone at school, have no friends, never had a BF, don't get invited to any parties you quiet weirdo!!! just get out my life." Then my sisters eyes got really watery & she said all high pitched,"Oh, OK, sorry." & she just went to her room & closed to door. I think I should've have said that to her. I don't know what to say to her now. She never talks to me anymore. She doesn't try to hang out with me anymore like she always used to try to do. Am I going to Hell? I was mad but felt really bad when I saw her eyes get watery. PS- Ima boy
Should I tell my sister she's my daughter?
What do your parents think about this? Afterall, they're the ones who have raised her thus far, shouldn't they have a say? Sure you were just a child yourself when you got pregnant and allowed your parents to take the baby and raise her, but you need to look at this from your baby's perspective. You are her sister, they are her parents - what is there to gain by your turning your daughter's world upside down except to possibly ease a little of your own guilt from the past? Personally I think you should let it go - uprooting her would kill your parents and would seriously mess with your daughter's head. Is that really what you want to happen? EDIT: You did NOT abandon her!! She has been raised right there with you her entire life - it's not like you just gave her up and walked away from her. I think given your age at the time (13) you did the best you possibly could under the circumstances & you have nothing to feel guilty about. You were a child yourself who still had a LOT of growing up to do - you couldn't possibly have had the emotional maturity to raise her as your own child so you did the next best thing. You were there for her as a sister.
My sister-in-law has a lot of control over my husband and she is very mean to me when he is not around. What should I do?
I went through this for years. Cut off his sister and any other in-law that instigates the situation. If you have kids then limit your contact (I don’t have kids so it made it easier to do so) Tell your husband to meet her on his own, but you can’t be disrespected in your own home or anywhere by her. I take it your husband does not believe you or he makes excuses for her behavior….a terrible feeling I knew it well. After I cut off his sister, I felt a peace. Don’t be surprised if your are viewed as the bad guy by your husband and your in-laws for a long while afterward though. Men are weak in the head when it comes to their family—it can take them years to realize/admit how horrible they are all because they feel if they verbalize their disdain of their actions; it will lead to them hating their own family and they don’t like that—-it makes them feel that they are not being loyal to them….Honestly if men love their families more than their own wife, they should just stay with their families and never marry. Yes I told my husband this once and he said nothing. He clearly knows he won’t be happy if he has to live with his family lol. Only when my husband and I were mistreated by his sister f(or her imaginary reasons) only then for the first time this year he supported me. We were married in 2012 btw…Answer should not be reproduced outside of Quora by individual who is not the author.
I slapped my sister & she cried? Am I going to Hell?
She 19 & I'm 17. I'm a guy & I hated her my whole life. She always bossed me around when we were little & slapped me if I didn't do what she said like clean my room. But around 14 I became taller & stronger than her so she stopped slapping me, but only yelled & annoyed the crap outta me, she says I have to do what she says cuz she's the older sibling. but I just tell her to, F*CK OFF! She way too controlling. We got in our second physical fight yesterday. Cuz she told me to empty the trash while I was playing video-games(Diablo 3) on my computer & I said,"F*CK OFF!" So she turned off my computer while I was playing & that pissed me off. We were on the ground fighting, not hitting just grabbing. She was like, "You're so dead!" & slapped me & punched me in the stomach & it got me more mad. So I held her down on the ground by her neck & slapped her for the 1st time ever, & she started crying & sniffing. I stopped in shock & she got up & ran to her room & locked her door. I never seen her cry before. She doesn't order me around anymore so that's awesome & no more annoying yelling. But she literally doesn't talk to me at all or interacts, kinda creepy. Whenever I'm walking around in the house & she sees me she turns around & walks in the opposite direction of me. Am I going to Hell?