I'm 16, my boyfriend is 18. we want to runaway. ?
Okay so i need ALOT of help lol. i hate living at home. its driving me crazy. my parents r so strict and seem to hate me. i get in trouble for EVERYTHING. small or big they like to punish me and hurt me and im sick of it. i've been through so much and in life and im so messed up because of them. im scared that if i stay here much longer ill become nothing in life and my life will just continue to go down the wrong path. i hate life and don't want to live when im here and constantly have suicidal thoughts but my boyfriend keeps me strong. so i need to get away. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and i love him with all of my heart. he has alot of money and we would have a good place to live and he's able to support me because he has a good job and he's still in high school because he missed too many days when he went into the hospital for cancer. but he's doing alot better now and has been out of the hospital for some time now but he has to make up credit hours for school and thats why hes still a senior, he re-took the year over again. i want to runaway with him but im scared. mainly because im 16 and from what i know runningaway from home at 16 is illegal and ur parents can get you back. and im scared that they will find me...n i know if they find me they will kill me... [[literally]] and that scares me so bad...but i just can't b here anymore, i suffer too much. so i want to know if my boyfriend will go to jail for runningaway with me? because he is no longer a minor, he's an adult because he's 18 and im still a minor. but its only like a 1 1/2 year difference so how is that bad? his birthday is aug. 11, 1990 and mine is april 18, 1992. so could he go to jail for runningaway with me? also if he could go to jail, wat would he go to jail for? and for how long? i don't know wat to do...i was thinking about waiting till i turn 17 to leave because from wat i know you can leave the house at 17 because you no longer have a curfew at that age and you can leave and never come back because u have no limitations of when you have to be home. and minors have curfew like by law, i tihnk itz 10:30pm is the longest they can stay out. so yah i was planning on waiting till i turn 17 but that seems so far away...if i do leave at 17 with my boyfriend who would still b 18 until his bday in 3 monthz. wat percautions would i have to take and is it illegal? please i need alot of help... :(
Eloping at 18, with first boyfriend?
To be honest, why don't you see about taking your relationship with your fiance to the next level before you commit to marriage? Getting married is not a decision that should be made to "shock" everyone and prove you're an adult. Perhaps you should leave your parent's house and move in with your fiance before you decide to get married. If your parents won't let you move in, once you leave their house you can do whatever you want, you're a legal adult. I would highly suggest moving in with him and learning to live together before you get married. You will learn so much about each other, much more than you think you already know. You will learn to live with each other's good and bad qualities. I am 22 years old, my fiance and I got engaged a year and a half ago, and our wedding is in four months. My fiance was the first serious adult relationship I had. We started dating four years ago, and I moved out of my parents house and into his when I was 19. We learned how to make it on our own together, and real adult responsibility. We learned how to live with each other, both the good, bad, and highly annoying qualities, and it's made us a much stronger couple. We have the foundations of a real marriage, and I honestly cannot say that we'd have had that if we hadn't put as much work and acceptance into our relationship as we have. My advice to you would be, take things slow, move out of your parent's house and into your fiance's, and take the time to continue to build your relationship with him, so that when the time is right for you to get married, you'll be the stronger for it and will have better foundations. Good luck!
My Boyfriend is in the Army and just got stationed in Germany, I want to move there to be with him...?
Just to add a few more details, I am trying to get a job working on the base he will be stationed at in April 2008 in Kaiserslautern, Germany aka K-Town. We've both been told there's a chance I could get employed by the govt and work on the base. I have a Bachelor's Degree and have 3 years of experience in the corporate world. If anyone can give me any information about base jobs and cilvillians working on the base I would really appreciate contacts or websites. We are both trying to do lots of research before I even go there. Getting married is out of the question! We want to take our time and not get married for the sake of making this easier. I don't mind a really good challenge and I'm up for it all, even him getting assigned elsewhere! Also, does anyone know if you work on the base if you can live on the base? I'm fully aware of how expensive it is over there and how hard this is going to be, like I said, I'm up for the challenge and willing to do what it takes to be with him.
I and my boyfriend have been together for almost three years, and I told him when I turn 18, I would move to MA to live with him. But what if it doesn't work out?
When I was 18, I was working the graveyard shift at the American Thread Company in Willimantic, CT. I was the only English speaking employee on that shift, so it was pretty lonely. I lived upstairs from an old wooden Italian grocery store in a two-room apartment with a communal bathroom at the end of the dark, dingy hall. One morning, while coming home from work, I was yanked off the street by an Army recruiter. I joined. But, I was riddled with fear that if it “didn’t work out,” where would I go? What would I do? So, I asked the manager of the thread company if he could give me some kind of guarantee that I could get my old job back if the Army was a bust. He laughed and said, “Sure, Kid. You’ll always have a job here.”That was over 50 years ago. I haven’t seen the City of Willimantic, it’s denizens, nor it’s run-down factories since. Never needed to. Life always has a way of “working out” just as long as you show up.Hopefully, your boyfriend lives in or near Boston, MA. It’s a neat place to live with or without the guy. The military is a good safety net, something to keep in mind in case a situation gets really dire. It sure beats living on the streets, if it were to come to that. It’s all about what you make of it. I had good food (yes, good!) and decent shelter for 3 years, learned a marketable skill, met people from all over the world and learned how to conduct myself properly in the company of those in high command. I grew up a lot in those 3 years. When I received my Honorable Discharge, I walked away feeling like a sophisticated Woman of the World and not a bumpkin, anymore. I not only served, but my experiences, good and bad, also served Me well.Don’t spend (waste) your time and life hiding behind what-ifs. Prepare as best you can, think ahead, have a plan or at least an outline—then JUMP! Take the leap, go for it, and never look back. That’s my advice.
I want to move out of my parents house at 18?
I turn 18 in 5 months, and i plan on moving out of my parents house. My dad could be very verbally abusive at times, and both of my parents are strict, i could only go out on Saturday, once a week, with a curfew, (which is only about 2-3 hours). I honestly do not like getting treated like a baby with curfews and only being able to go out on Saturdays. Right now I'm 17, i'm a teenager! I should be living my teenage life, i should be going out with friends and having fun, but my parents think not. I try to explain to my mom that i want to be able to go out without having to worry about getting back on time, when i go out my boyfriend always complains that i don't have fun and let loose because i'm always checking my phone to make sure i get home on time. When i move out i plan on moving in with my boyfriend, he is 21, and he has an amazing paying job, i know he is older than me but i love him and my parents approve of him. We've already looked at apartments and chose which one is perfect for us. I've tried explaining to my mom that i'm moving out when i'm 18 but she says that i cant, and i tell her that i legally can and she wouldn't be able to do anything about it but to accept it and move on, my father on the other hand, i haven't spoken to about it because I'm scared of what he might say, he is verbally abusive, and i just don't want to cause a scene. My parents fight a lot and some times it gets physical and I'm always the one to jump in front of my dad to stop him from trying to hurt my mom, but i don't think living in this hostile environment is healthy for me, i want to move out and start a life of my own. I just want some advice and support, how do i break the news to them in a way that wont cause a scene when the time comes?
When should a child move out of their parents’ house?
By answering this question I’m gonna assume your between the age of 18–25?I believe there is stigma in America for moving out at 18. False.You should move out of your parents house when you feel ready to move out.But that’s the tough part.When you feel ready doesn’t mean waiting till 36 and feeling like now is the good time. Feeling ready is when you have some-what of a stable income and can provide for yourself (for the most part).Moving out when you feel ready does not mean leaving when you have a long period of feeling comfortable. I suggest leaving home the moment before you begin getting too comfortable.I personally believe the sooner you can financially leave the better for two particular reasons:You’ll learn to become more independent.You’ll taste the real-world and be consumed by daily challenges.My kids technically moved out at age 17/18 for college, but they moved back in after school and stayed still they were between 22 to 26 (I have 5 kids).My husband and I didn’t put any pressure on them, but we made sure they found a job, and started saving some sort of income so that when they were ready to move on, they’d be able to.BUT…If your not going to college and simply want to “grind” and work 24/7, you get a long with your parents, and you don’t feel restricted living at home, then by all means, stay at home till when ever.You’ll save a TON of money that you could be spending on more important things, like your first house!Once you have a sufficient amount of income saved, rent an apartment. This could be at age 23 or even 27. It all depends on the situation.
Is 18 too young to move out?
I think it's legal, but do you think I'd actually be READY for the world? I'd like to move out, maybe when I'm about 18-19. I'm almost 18 now. People do it when they go to uni, but I want to do it so I can go and just work, make friends, have a fresh start really. I currently live in London so I'm pretty street-wise, but I'd like to either move to Brighton (an hour away), Cornwall (about 4 hours away) or maybe even overseas to America. I'm thinking either California or North Carolina. I've lived in a city all my life and I crave the seaside lifestyle, warmer weather would be a plus which is why overseas might be an option. What do you honestly think? Has anyone done this?
My 18-year-old daughter is moving across the country to live with her boyfriend. What should I do to stop her?
Don’t. It is her life and she is age of majority. If you try to sabotage her decision, she will resent you for it, even if moving doesn’t work out. Lord knows teens have enough to hold against their parents! Don’t welcome more discord. Respect her adult decision but welcome her home if she comes back. Parental judgment is the #1 thing teens hate the most!
What is it like to move away from home and live alone as an eighteen-year-old?
When I was 19 or 20, probably 19, my mommy told me, "You pay car. You pay apartment. I go Hawaii now. Bye!"I stared at her in disbelief. I was working at Macy's earning about $1,800 a month selling women's shoes. There was no way in the world I could cover all these bills. I was completely freaked out, even though I didn't show it much. I started asking my friends what kind of work they did and how much they were earning. Yes, I was that guy. That annoying guy who gets into your personal business, even though none of that should matter. My friend John had told me he was working at Manhattan Beach Toyota. I said great, how much are you earning? He said $4k a month. I did the math. I could survive off that! So I applied. After a few interviews and a drug test, I was hired. I was excited that I could live on my own! Then, the cold hard reality kicked in. The first two months, I earned minimum wage. I couldn't afford to buy food, so I lived off the free popcorn that we provided to our customers. It was pretty darn depressing, but I was confident I could overcome it. Then, my manager sat with me. He had told me if I didn't sell 12 cars, I would be terminated. Then inspiration, mixed with fear had fulfilled me. I had to figure this stuff out or I would have absolutely nothing! So I put my all into my job. Then, by my third month, I was able to hit that target mark of $4,000 of which John spoke. I was free! I was saved! I could do as I pleased and take care of myself! So I did just that. Then I got into a friend with benefits relationship type thing with my best friend. We went out and ate and played everywhere. However, the person I loved with all my heart entered my life one day, so I let my best friend go. We then planned out marriage and all of that other fancy stuff. However, that just all slowly crumbled away as we became addicted to drugs. Then I just spent every day crying my eyes out feeling like a loser, because I lost everything I had. Eventually, I tried to make my own business. That failed. So now, here I was, with a ton of debt, no lover, no car, and an unhappy day each morning. Things didn't really get better until over half a decade later, but yeah. That's how it felt.
Strict parents, should I move out on 18th birthday?
Okay, I'll be 18 in two months. My parents hardly ever let me go anywhere. I don't have texting. I have my license, but they won't buy me insurance because apparently I don't need to go anywhere. I just got a job, so they decided that they would buy me insurance, but they said they're going to check the milage on the car I'll be driving to make sure that I go to work and come straight back. I was never allowed to go over to friends houses when I was younger, and I'm not allowed to now either. I'm not allowed to have a facebook or anything. They said if I don't get mostly A's on my next report card that they're going to take my phone away, and 'cut off my socializing with the rest of the world.' My boyfriend's family said that I can move in with them if I help pay some of the bills. I would really love to do that, but the only problem then is I wouldn't have a car, so I would have to bum a ride to school, and probably have my boyfriend drive me to work until I can buy a car. Also I wouldn't have much money for food, and other necessities but my freedom would be worth it. I'm also concerned about ruining my relationship with my parents. I mean I'm not close to them by any means, but I am an only child so they would be really hurt by my decision. All of my friends that know my story suggest that I move out as soon as possible. Any advice? Thanks.