I have done an arranged marriage, but I am not happy. My parents and family say everything shall be alright after one gets married or when one has a child. I don't understand this or see any positive signs ahead. What are some suggestions?
I feel sorry for you#1. You are almost 30 and still you are not mature enough to make your own decision.#2. I have nothing against Arranged marriage but most of my friends who did arranged marriage are living in pressure. Most of them have a wonderful marriage and honeymoon and then maybe 2 months sex and then back to work and soon sharing and caring is with their old friends. They start spending more time with friends than their family.#3. Marriage - Is like a business or like a Project or like Research. If you want to be successful then you must spend Money or Time. You have to understand your wife.Biggest mistake is you married “a Stranger” . Your parents asked and you just pointed to a Stranger. Now you are married so try to understand her.#4. I had a Love Marriage and it is 100% successful. We are together for more than 7 years now plus the time we were in love. Love marriage is not like some idiot has written >50% will be failure. If it fails in India it is because people are not in love but in a “Want for sex”. Myself and my wife know what is true love. Once you have it…you will never ever want to split from your partner you will feel the pain and you will do anything to be together forever. We lost everything ( Money in Millions, Assets, Business) just because of a narrow minded society which did not let us live together as we were had an inter religious Marriage. We even had to runaway from the country just to live together. But we are happy. My wife is always there to support me and we build our life with just two suitcase to a good life by God’s grace. And it is damn good to live without relatives. And trust in God - If you ask me we are alive and I am typing this because Jesus Christ is there :)
I want a love marriage, but our Kundli is not matching, so her parents won't agree. What should I do?
Hey first of all its your fault ...u knw why because if u love someone frm the bottom of ur heart ..then this kundali and all these crap should not bother u .Don't believe in all these kundali and stuff just believe in one God and pray.Just think kundalis are nothing to do with ur life ..it's all ur karmasI live in usa work with all different kind of people frm different cultures and religionsWe have Christians , muslims ,hindus,jains, sikhs all different people .Now see muslim people never match kundali ..sikhs never match kundali ..christians never matches kundalis before marriage but still there married life are good and prosperous.I hve seen alot of Indian people here working with me wearing those birth stones ...but the white people here those are big multi billionaires running big businesses they don't wear any stones but still they are earning millions because they work hard they believe in themselves and dont believe in astrology and all . Wat I'm trying to explain is see the difference that a fuckin birth stone not gonna change ur life .I mn it's ur hardwork ...dedication changes ur life."We are creator of our karma ...we can change our fate "So it's all u and ur fiance today if u both change ur thinking then only u will be successful in ur married life .otherwise if anything happens like whenever u get sick or she get sick or anything bad happens ... u will have the same doubt again like our kundali doesn't match ... and that is why i got sick or this bad thing took place and all that "veham" & again ur parents will say the same .So getting sick ...getting success ...getting lucky these kinda things are under our control and based on our previous karmas.Believe in urself and believe in karmas nd pray to God ..but don't believe in false kundali or astrologyThese are pundits job to make money.U believe me or not.. but last think I want to say that we live in high tech world... computer age. So think practically ..compare urself with the people of different culture like muslims they don't do kundali our sardar brothers they don't do kundali ...our Christian brothers...They don't even wear any stone still there life is gud..Meet the people in ur own family and frnds group those got married without matching the kundali and see how happy they are.So in hindi I will say one thing ""veham ka koi ilaz nahi hai aur na hi koi dur kar sakta hai "Hve a gud luck If u like my suggestions then fine if not u can abuse me as well ..I'm not gonna mind
Has anyone else been bond to one person and desperately in-love with another?
I have been married for severial years now to my second husband. When we met it fwas like he had been sent by GOD himself. He has everything that I thought I wanted. We have spent many of the years that we have been married living apart and I don't mean that figuratively. We have been bacj living together under the same roof now since April after he was away for a year. I care deeply for him but I know deep in my heart that I am not in-love with him anymore. I have twins that are about to become 14 and he has been the only father that they have had since they were 6. The real messed up thing is that I have been writing to an old frien that I am very in-love with and want so much to be with. I just don't want to hurt my kids. We go through everyday like roommates. I want to be free to be with someone I love ,who loves me back but maybe I should wait just a little longer. ANY suggestions?????
Boyfriend refuses to marry me? What am I doing wrong me?
I apologize about the long post, I just want an outsider's opinion. My boyfriend and I will be together 6 years here soon. We have a child, a house, a few loans together, and get along well. I ask him about getting married, and its always no. I've asked him if he feels it's too soon, if he doesnt believe in marriage, or if he wants to wait until I'm done with Medical School, and the answer was no to all. He proposed to a girl after 6 months of dating, and I asked him too if he wasnt ready because that hurt him, and he said no again as he stated he wanted to marry someone someday. Unfortunately he did cheat on me 3 years ago and told her he would marry her tomorrow if thats what it took, but came back to me. Not long ago I got upset because most of my friends are talking about getting married, are married, or are getting married, and I asked him if it was something to do with me, and he stated he just didnt want to marry me. It killed me as I asked him what I am doing wrong, and again he stated nothing as he claims I'm still good looking, he will be able to stay home when i become a doctor, and we get along very well. I asked him then why does he want to marry someone, but not me....which he had no answer to. He is an amazing guy, but it kills me because I want to get married, and by no means am I in a hurry as I'm willing to wait 10 years if that's what it takes, but I'm very confused. Has anyone else been in a situation like this and figured out what was wrong?
21 years old, my mom is hovering over me like a helicopter, and my relationship with boyfriend is suffering?
Wow there is so much wrong with this picture. First off who is your mom to be giving you judgmental relationship advice like that? The things she's telling you to do as far as that is what she did and look at her now! If you take that ridiculous advice this will be you in the future, with nobody to really be close to and suffocating your own daughter. Secondly I do understand that you care about your mom and she cares for you but you have to make a stand. You are a grown adult and it's time for you to make your own decisions. If you don't want to leave your parents home and they don't want you to leave you need to tell her that she needs to give you your space and what she is doing is very harmful to you living your own life and having your own experiences. If she cannot deal with that you really have no choice but to move out. You are in the prime of you life and you are wasting it because your mom is trying to make you feel guilty for being happy when she's not. You will lose your boyfriend, who sounds like a good one, if you don't stop letting your mom Control you.