What’s the best revenge on someone who emotionally hurt you?
First of all, ask yourself if revenge is what you need. It attaches you to the person and seldom feels as satisfying as you imagine it would be.Secondly, wait until the anger and hurt subside, then see if it is an action you want to commit to. Consider the pareto principle, and the least you can do to address the problem.Take responsibility for what role you may have played in allowing yourself to get into that position, look at the person you were, and what you have learned from the experience.The best revenge is living well but take steps to protect yourself in the future without losing your ability to emote, empathise and be expansive in your thoughts and affections.
Is it hard to live as a bachelor your whole life?
Yes it is and sucks more and more as you get older. Speaking as a single, 54 year old man who has never been married I can tell you that being alone as you get older is a scary and unpleasant proposition. Now, it's relatively easy to find anyone to marry but it's not just as easy as grabbing the first available woman who will have you and tying the knot. As you get older you become more aware and sure of your values and what you want. If you are not careful you become inflexible and unable to negotiate those values. In the meantime I see around me people my age who not only have experienced the trials, pain and joy of child-rearing, but are becoming grandparents. For a long time while they were changing diapers and coaching little league I was practicing for tri-athlons, traveling the world, doing whatever activity struck my fancy and drove expensive cars. They were the winners in the long run. Yes some, perhaps many, of them divorced but they still have their families and children, they experienced the joy of transferring their knowledge and love to another generation of themselves, not strangers, and they formed intimate bonds with someone special that exceed mere friendship. I don't regret the good times I had or the adventures or the exciting romantic rendezvous but I think all those things pale in comparison to sharing consistent, cohesive moments with someone you build a future with and plan to grow old with, and do. In addition, the silence of being alone is deafening. You can fill your hours with activities, reading, volunteering and more but coming home to an empty house and wondering who will find you if you die alone in the middle of the night, and who will even care, is one of the most pathetic fears of an aging bachelor's life. I still live in hope that somewhere out there is the love of my life, waiting to be discovered somehow, but it's with increasing fear and doubt that that hope is threatened.
How much for a back yard wedding?
I've been with my fiance for a little over 5 years, were still pretty young (almost 20) and we dont have alot of money. But its my dream to have a big beautiful wonderful fun wedding with all my family. I've already been looking at venues and ballrooms and it just doesnt seem like my big fairytale wedding is going to happen any time soon. So back up plan: backyard wedding? My Tia has a nice size yard that i could use. Im planning on there being 175 to 200 guest. Theres also a large wooden gazebo in the back yard. And pool off to the side. So... How much would tables and chairs be(with table cloths and seat covers)? How much for catering? Is there a better more affordable alternative to catering? How much would it cost for decorating with real flowers? How much to drape the gazebo to give it a tent feeling? My mother also told me that i could set up a bank account for any family that would like to contribute to my wedding. Has anyone ever tried that? I dont feel too comfotable with asking them for money.... but my mom says thats sort of traditional.
Why would homeless people's family allow them to be homeless?
A large number of homeless people are mentally ill or brain damaged and their families cannot deal with them any longer. My own father went homeless after being released from prison for pedophelia, having sexually molested me, my step sister, and a child he was babysitting (these are the ones known, there are probably many others). The family could not deal with him any longer. He was brain damaged from repeated concussions from sports and several car accidents. It's hard to know what caused what. Did he drive so crazy and have bad judgment from brain damage, or did he get brain damage from driving fast and poorly? But it released his inhibitions and allowed him to prey on the innocent.Pedophelia was not the only manifestation of brain damage. He was also irrational and quick to anger. He borrowed or stole things from the family. He couldn't keep a job. He pushed the family towards the poorhouse.It was an attempt to stabilize the family that led to my dad being kicked out of the family home. He was likely 30 by then, living with his parents. He had been lovingly called the black sheep until his conviction. After that we just did not talk about him at all. It's as if we were part of the family by adoption rather than birth. The family kept tabs on where he was and gave him some money occasionally. He eventually was employed enough to rent a tiny studio apartment and buy a beat up bicycle. Rather employed long enough in a union job to get unemployment whenever he was laid off. He lived in that apartment over 10 years until he died of an illness rather suddenly. He never did admit to having molested me, only saying that he did not remember. Perhaps that is the brain damage, but I don't know how a person could forget a thing like that.It's painful to have a family member who is homeless. When people ask about your family, you either have to lie or become a victim of their pity. It's kind of horrifying, but the family was being ripped limb from limb while he was present so this is the best alternative. It is a relief that he is no longer around.