How do I make a dramatic lifestyle change?
Sabrina, I tend to think you're making a great start, noticing you are back after 5 years. Anyway, I am more oriented to exercise, and Jujitsu in particular, so you might check out a martial arts program in your community, get on a total diet and work out commitment. It's fun, and you meet people of all personas and situations, particularly students, young professionals, but mature men and women too.
What can I do to change my life?
Hi Dear Friend,follow below setps and see magic in your life…1. Detoxify your speech. Reduce the use of cuss words. Be polite.2. Read everyday. Doesn’t matter what. Choose whatever interests you.3. Promise yourself that you will never talk rudely to your parents. They never deserve it.4. Observe people around you. Imbibe their virtues.5. Spend some time with nature everyday.6. Feed the stray animals. Yes, it feels good to feed the hungry.7. No ego. No ego. No ego. Just learn, learn and learn.8. Do not hesitate to clarify a doubt. “He who asks a question remains fool for 5 minutes. He who does not ask remains a fool forever”.9. Whatever you do, do it with full involvement. That’s meditation.10. Keep distance from people who give you negative vibes but never hold grudges.11. Stop comparing yourself with others. If you won’t stop, you will never know your own potential.12. “The biggest failure in life is the failure to try”. Always remember this.13. “I cried as I had no shoes until I saw a man who had no feet”. Never complain.14. Plan your day. It will take a few minutes but will save your days.15. Everyday, for a few minutes, sit in silence. I mean sit with yourself. Just yourself. Magic will flow.16. In a healthy body resides a healthy mind. Do not litter it with junk.17. For one month, eat home cooked meals.18. Keep your body hydrated at all times. Practice drinking 8–10 glasses of water.19. Make a habit to eat at least one serving of raw vegetable salad on a daily basis.20. Take care of your health. “He who has health has hope and he who has hope has everything”.21. Make a hobby (like dance/guitar/skating/singing/language learning etc.)22. Life is short. Life is simple. Do not complicate it. Don’t forget to smile.
I want to change my life every day, but my depression just won't let me do that. How can I force myself to change my life?
Oh dear, you're putting so much pressure on yourself. Depression is a medical condition, you can't just force it to go away. It takes time and treatment, and people who understand what you're going through.Please cut yourself a break. You're making it worse every time you fail to meet your own expectations.If you need to sleep, sleep. When you wake up, eat a real meal, bathe, and get dressed.If you can do those 3 things, it is a good day. Everything else is a bonus.Going out for a walk seems like a little thing, but as you've found, it isn't so easy when you're depressed. You have to put on shoes, get out the door, run the risk of seeing other people, figure out where to go, and keep going until you get there. Its really pretty complicated, any one of those things can make it too much to bother with.The best thing I've found is this: repeat over and over in your mind, “I love myself.”It will make you cry at first because you don't believe it. That's OK. Just keep thinking I love myself, I love myself, I love myself, I love myself. Over and over until it's the only thought in your head. Other thoughts will take over after a while, then you bring yourself back to this, I love myself.The only thought that matters right now. It may hurt, feel unnatural, seem like a lie.Doesn't matter.Just think, I love myself. Look at yourself in a mirror and say it out loud. Give this thought priority over all your other thoughts.Eventually you will start to believe it. Then things will get better.
Does life change a lot after you turn 18?
Turning 18 really does not have much to do with it. Life changes when you take on more responsibility- like getting your own car, job, and place to live. It changes more when you get into a serious relationship and share money/housing/your health. It changes drastically when have a child and must provide for that little one/s ahead of yourself. Then comes aging parents that need help, relationship problems that must be addressed, the results of poor financial, romantic, or career decisions, the impossibility of knowing how good a prent you are being, etc... I moved out when I was 17 and it was ok. I made my share of mistakes and it took forever to get financially stable since I had to work to support myself, which made finishing college part-time take forever. I was lucky that I did not get abused, arrested, pregnant, or contract any sexually transmitted diseases- those are the things that greatly impact your future. I was dirt poor working min wage jobs, but attending college part time, until I had a child at age 25. That whipped me into shape quickly. I finshed my bachelors and masters degrees as a single mom and now have a good job, stable life, great kid, and am happy. It sounds like you have a great foundation. You will pay a heavy price if you go out on your own now because you will be busy surviving (your present) rather than focusing on college (your future). Most people are not able to pull it together like I did- especially after they have a child. You can do it, but it is not for the faint hearted. It's an awful big gamble, but I am not sure I'd have done it any differently than I did. At some point, we all have to become grown ups. I'd caution you against moving in with a BF, though. A GF would be better- preferably at college. You may want to have a real heart to heart talk with your parents about what you are thinking. You are entitled to open communication about growing up. But try to remember they are probably having a hard time adjusting to your growing up as well and probably do want the best for you- even if they are annoying about it. You will need thier help no matter where you live, so don't shut them out and try to understand where they are coming from as well. Good luck to you!