I cut myself because of my parents?
My parents make me feel like complete fvcking sh!t and so do theother members of my family, I'm always being told that I'm an idiot and reminded that I'm a failure, even through I am trying, it's hard though bc I got some depression and anxiety issues, most likely bipolar, but my house is just such a toxic enviroment, and I'll sometimes end up cutting myself. I want to stop cutting myself but I can't handle my mom, she's insane and always being putdown by my family. Someone please help me :'(. I don't really have ALOT of friends but people that know me seem to like me, I mean of course there are haters but ya know. And other adults are awlays upping my self-esteem, my rents do the opposite, I can never do anything right in thier eyes.
Why don't my parents care that I cut myself?
I know that sounds really bad and like I'm doing it for attention. But I swear I'm not. I mean... I told them I cut myself cause I want them to help me stop, but they don't care. It's like it doesn't even bother them. They're my foster parents btw. I told them I want to stop, and I asked them for help. Whenever I try to talk to them about this they change the subject or something...and I really need them to listen to me, but they won't. (I'm 15) And I don't have anyone else to talk to(that can help me). And I'm not going to talk to the school councilor cause shes a *****. And I don't have any teachers I like... When I told them my dad asked me if I was on drugs:/ Why don't they care? And what should I do?
I’m 12. If I cut myself, is that depression?
The first thing you should ask yourself is “why I am doing this?”Do you feel a immense feeling of sadness, maybe, sometimes, even despair? Do you feel so discouraged that simple things like playing videogames (if you like it) or watching cartoons/anime isnt so fun anymore? Doing activities, from the ones you do with your family and friends to the ones you’re obligated in school (homework, sport), do these activities feel more like a hustle than something enjoyable/normal?If you’ve answered “yes” to some of these questions, I strongly believe you should seek help. Talk to your parents about it. Or someone in school that is responsible for the mental health of students. Don’t be ashamed if you feel depressed, feeling down is normal. What isn’t easy, is suffering from Depression. So, before you reach a point where it’s really depression, you should talk to someone, a responsible adult.Its hard to say if it’s depression or not. Cutting yourself might be simply related to the moment you’re living now (the start of your teenage years) or to things that are more complicated, like Bordeline Disorder. I don’t recommend googling it, so you will overanalyse. That’s why I ask you to seek the help of your family and professionals. Hopefully, it’s only a phase but it might be dangerous to your mental and physical health, too, to go on with this behavior. So keeping these feelings and doubts isn’t a healthy thing. Try to stop cutting yourself, and everything will be alright. Talk to an adult about it. Take care.
Are most parents angry when they find out about self harm?
I’ve been a psych nurse with grad degrees for more than 25 years. I’ve had hundreds of cutters and SIB patients.Parents invariably—no matter how good or bad they were as parents—are completely frightened and freaked out. They can barely think straight. Most saw cutting, etc. as the NEXT step to suicide.After talking to and working with kids who used self-harm to cope, I understand enough about it to realize it rarely ended it suicide. Self-harm was inflicted to deal with anxieties and pain.So the first thing I’d tell them is no, they do not need to have their kid in a locked unit.I would give them some reading material about self-harm and why people did it, why they got “addicted” to it. That gave them something to stare at until the next visit.The parents lived in terror that every visit would be the last. However people can respond to terror, I saw the gamut.Before you take a dip with them, first:Have you been in therapy, gotten treatment for the feelings that made you cut to begin with? If no, I’d do that first.Have a least a few sessions with the therapist and your parents, who can prompt you to explain the cutting in your own words, and why you stopped.They may never be ready to see your scars, and they may choose not to. Allow them this.They will also be terrified they will lose you to suicide, and won’t be able to absorb any other thoughts for a while. Do everything you can to ease them through this step.Some people continue to deal with depression and stress by cutting and self-harm right into their 30’s and 40’s. Usually it tapers off by one’s 50’s.So be sure, absolutely sure, that you are learning other ways to deal with stress. Get validation from another person, not just yourself.No parent I’ve ever met was able to cope easily with cutting. It’s not much easier for the nurses and others who care for them. It’s not easy to watch a person you care for inflict pain upon themselves.You will always be seen differently by your parents, and it will be hard on them.So no, I would not advise a casual dip in the pool with them with scars visible some evening. Within seconds, it won’t be casual, no one will be swimming, and most likely, one or both parents will be sobbing.Get the therapy locked into place first.Good luck. And stop it. I’ve never met a grown up with sliced up arms and legs who could casually toss it off with “Oh I used to be a cutter.” No more, no matter what.
I cut myself during the fall/winter?
When you cut yourself your probably getting a adrenaline rush and forgetting bout the problem that made you cut yourself in the first place, also the after affect of cutting yourself is there every time u bump the cut, hide, itch it and it reminds your sub conscious, so you got this routine down that you know that will either, Release the depression/sadness/stress also why some people smoke cigarettes, I used to cut for a long time when i was 15-16 bcz of my father dieing an there was this one time when i cut so deep i cut a artery an almost died, (iwasn'tttryingn to kill myself i was jus so upset) then i never did it again never. plus i have theses scars and one huge one with staple marks and all little children ask what it is... its horrible what you need is tobreakk down in someones arm whom you love an loves you in return an let them know what is wrong without holding n e thang back....