Unemployed mother-in-law and sister-in-law living with my husband and me... what should I do?
Before I say anything, I'd like to say that the situation I'm in is completely my fault. My husband and I just purchased our first home and we invited my mother-in-law and sister-in-law to move in with us... to help us out with the new mortgage payment and to help them out. At the time, only my sister-in-law was working and my mother-in-law was receiving unemployment. 10 months later, both are unemployed, not paying any rent (and haven't paid us anything in 10 months), not paying any bills, paying for a few groceries (junk food... yuck!) and my sister-in-law quit her job on the spot 2 months ago. She is 20 years old and extremely lazy! They both wake up around noon, stay up all night and watch television (which we're of course paying for and don't even use ourselves). They both use the telephone constantly and my sister-in-law is constantly using the computer to go on myspace and crap like that. I'm at the point in my relationship and my life where I'm depressed and considering divorce (not really seriously, but it's crossed my mind). My husband won't kick them out and I feel like I'm in a catch 22. At this point, I know that I can kick them out, but I feel that if I am the one to do it, I'll lose either way. I can't stand them living with us anymore yet I will really damage my relationship with my husband if I say anything to them. My husband and I have started arguing all the time about anything and everything (but it all stems from that). I have told him countless times how I feel yet he can't kick them out because he feels he owes it to his mom. Single mom who raised him and his sister, let him live with her rent free till he was 30, etc. On a side note so that you get all the facts, she did lend us $6,000 for our down payment and has told us not to pay her back until we are in a more comfortable economic situation (when that is, we will never know!). I personally think we're even on that "loan", but if it means she'll move out, I'd like to kick her out and start making payments tomorrow. I know that the answer seems simple, but can you please help me be diplomatic about this... this is family and I love my husband so much... I also love his family when they're not living with us! Please help!!! Thanks so much!
My husband has been calling another woman who is a "friend", but never tells me about it.?
I'm heartbroken on New Years Eve....I just found out my husband has been calling another woman (as soon as he leaves for work), who he promised to me when we got married, he would never call her again. I got detailed billing of the phone bills and he's been making several calls monthly. When I approached him about it, he first said he never called her...then he changed it to he called her one time a month ago, but left a message, to well they talked for 5 minutes...funny thing is, if she is just a "friend", why hasn't he told me that he has talked to her, like he does everyone else that he talks to? My husband is turning it on me now, saying, he's just never good enough and I'm always yelling at him (which isn't even true!!!)....what do I do now? I've given him EVERYTHING....I don't know if I can trust him.
My boyfriend doesnt want kids, but i do!?
I know it's tough situation... Even if you only want ONE kid... he still wants NO kids. Being in his late 20s I doubt that will change. Usually at the beginning of relationships, (yes one year is still the beginning) is when people are excited to get married and have kids and all of that other fairy tale stuff. If he is not responding that way now, it's more than likely he won't change his mind in the future. Esspecially since he is approaching 30... he's not a child anymore. He should know what he wants. If you do decide to stick it out, just bare in mind that you're risking a couple of things... You are cutting your chance of finding a man who would be HONORED to have a child with you. A man who will support you through it and love you and the child above everything in his life. Say you have a child with this guy... I doubt he will be a good and supportive father. If you get sick during pregnancy, i'm sure he won't go out of his way to comfort you through it because in the back of his mind he will be thinking, "I didn't want this anyway!" Do not set yourself up for the heartbreak of having children, being married, yet basically end up living like a single mom because he wants nothing to do with the baby. Also, if you get to a point where you decide you want to become a mother and you can provide for them... why limit yourself to 1? What if you LOVE being a mom and want 2? Obviously he won't fit too well into that picture. Do what's right for you and your dreams... and ultimately, for your children (assuming you have any.) If you stay with him and choose not to have kids - even though you obviously want them, you're going to regret it later in life and be one of those older childless women who have to spoil their friend's kids because they let a relationship dictate their life. Good luck :)
What is the reason that lots of engineering students can't get good jobs in India?
My answer is focused on core branches like Mechanical, Electrical, Civil etc.Quality FactorExcept some IITs, BITS Pilani, NITs and some other private colleges, none of the engineering colleges of India is producing quality engineers.There are many factors responsible for low quality. Some of them are:• Way of Learning/TeachingIt’s all about Rattafication, CGPA, Class Copy. It’s not about Research, Projects, Entrepreneurship, etc.• Lack of support from professorsIf any student wants to do something different from the curriculum, there is a lack of support from the professors.• Lack of InfrastructureLabs, Fund, etc. are not available.• HR Recruitment ProcessDuring placement-drive, HRs are looking for CGPA (except few companies), speaking skills and not on what you have learnt and what you have done in four years of your engineering.Ratio of Number of Engineering graduates each year and Number of jobs availableAfter 12th, everyone is opting or forced to choose engineering.Kota registers its 30th student suicide, numbs district administration - Times of India Guys, there are a lot of other better options.Automation FactorAutomation affected a lot of job opportunity and will affect more in futureLooming threat! Automation threatens 69 per cent jobs in India, says World Bank - The Economic TimesGovernment Attitude (quality v/s quantity)Our Ministry of HRD is busy with opening new IITs, NITs, IIITs, AIIMS, etc. instead of focusing on improving current system/scenario of education in existing engineering institutes.Students Attitude We students are also responsible. We are focusing on Rattafication, CGPA and getting a job and not focusing on Research, Projects, Entrepreneurship, Higher Studies, etc. But, I believe we students are a victim of this system.I request Indian Students not to opt engineering to get a job and if you are interested then make sure join some good institution.I ask Indian Parent not to force your student to join engineering. It’s not all about the job. Even we are not getting jobs.
What is the Broadway musical, the one with Jonathan Groff & Lea Michele, Spring Awakening about?
If you are confused by my wording-I basically wanna know what Spring Awakening is about because 1)I love musicals 2)I love Broadway 3) I adore Lea Michele 4)I REALLY love Jonathan Groff 5) I might want to see it but I need to know what it's about first!! P.S. do you think Lea Michele and Jonathan Groff did a good job on Glee? I think so! :)
Trying to quit walmart job... Help!!!!?
Okay, here's the question/problem: I tried to quit my job the other day - I went into the managers office and said "I can't handle this, I quit!" All the customers are mean. I do nothing but put stuff in bags and then get griped at for it. My arms and knees hurt SO bad when I get off work. I work different hours then what I put on my availability schedule - I have classes from 6-8pm on Mondays and I told them, wrote it down etc. and they scheduled me to work 5-9pm on Mondays! When I "quit" the other day, she offered me a position in the produce department, told me I was important to their team, and that I need to write her a resignation letter. I'm supposed to work until the 31st now... But I don't want to!!!!! I go to work all stressed out and don't know anybody there (my friends either quit or were transferred). I hate hurting so bad (I'm 19 and i have rhuematoid Arthritis so standing up all day really kills my knees and shoulders!). I am also in the process of being a model/actress and I have to travel 2hrs to get to all my gigs - it's hard to hold a job and go out of town 2-4 times a week! i guess what I'm saying is - i don't want to go to work tonight but I can't call in because I already have so many points (from having to go to class and miss work), can I just not show up? If I don't show up for a week, will they just assume that I quit? Do I HAVE to write a resignation letter? If I don't will I not get paid for the last 2 weeks that I worked? I just don't know what to do!!! Please help...
Do some people not understand the whole "Hero/Villain" dynamic?
I see constant, and I mean CONSTANT, whining about how much better WWE would be if John Cena turned heel. Could someone please explain to me who would replace him if that happened? You want to turn the biggest star in the entire industry heel, a guy who the VAST majority of fans really like (the IWC is not a large representation of most WWE fans), with no plan for what's next. You need a strong hero to take on great villains. (Also, I don't understand how anyone can say Cena right now isn't cool. He's been, by far, the best part of the Nexus angle) Sure, there's Triple H, but Randy Orton isn't a face (cheers don't make a guy a face, nothing has changed in his actions in two years), Edge flopped colossally as a good guy, Jericho, Mysterio and Big Show aren't superstars (in the sense that Cena and Triple H are), Shawn Micheals is gone and CM Punk would need a long build to become a face again. So I ask you, how would suddenly flipping Cena heel make any sense or benefit the WWE in any way? BQ: What do you think of Cena's role in the whole Nexus thing? I really like it, but feel free to disagree. What about Bourne's? Do you like him as Cena's buddy?