How do I tell my dad that I want to live with my mom?
Why is it that you want to live with your mom?Are there practical reasons such as you relate better to her, she is more supportive or that you have a better relationship?If it is because she is more permissive or gives you less structure then as hard as it is those are not practical reasons and it will hurt you in the long run.Do you have a good relationship with your father?Does he treat you well and listen to you?Are you able to have a heart to heart with him and ask him for a few things that you would like to see change?If he is very strict for example maybe if you check in or have a cell phone and he picks you up you might have more freedom when you demonstrate that you are being responsible?I don't know your situation -you do- so try to think of how he feels on certain things, how you feel and then come up with solutions that meet in the middle fairly- you might have to lean a bit to your father to please him?Its hard to consider things from a parental perspective when you are young but parents have seen a lot and know the sorts of things that can happen from either personal experience or knowing someone who has gone through something.If after you talk to him and try to resolve things, ( after really thinking this through) and still feel strongly about living with your mother I would then discuss it with your mother.Unless he doesn't treat you well or there are issues, eg temper, addiction, abuse- in which case you should live with your mother immediately- maybe try to stay with your mother sometimes for ‘visits’ and if you truly feel that this is what you want it will give you a better sense of what it would be like living with her.The last thing you want is to move in with her and find it is a bad situation or that it isn't what you want.As well you would need to discuss things in depth with her so that you are both clear on what living with her would mean.Maybe try talking it out with a guidance counsellor first at school and they can help you as well?Try making an itemized list to see what the reasons are if I haven't mentioned any- if it's staying out late or being able to drink or anything your father would have good reason to be upset about then those are not valid readons.Hopefully you'll find the answers and I wish you happiness.
How to tell your mom you want to live with your dad?
i dont know what to do. i know most people do this because there mom auses them but my mom is nice and trys to make a good life for me. i am 13 and a boy. i reason i want to live with my dad is because life here is really bad. we are really bad. we are really poor and its not fun here anymore. she has asked me if i wanted to live with my dad but i didnt know how to say it and felt it wasnt time so i just said no. also i dont want to live with my little sister.she is bi polar and never listens and runs away alot. we steals my stuff and almost killed me and my friend.she throw a knife at us and the handle hit him in the head/ she has really messed up my hand and chiped my tooth. i do somtimes hit her and yell at her but she never learns and my mom doesnt under stand when she does somthing like steal my stuff she just tells her to give it back. she never learns and just does it the next day. i know this doesnt seem like much of a problem but to me it is. i went to my dads for 2 weeks and its was great there and i got in with the feeling of living life like and when i got back i was like omg i have to live life that this again. i dont know if i am being selfish but i really want to live with my dad. plz someone awenser my ?.
I want to live with my mom again but how I tell my dad..?
I used to live with my mom and stepdad and HATED it. I would want to leave to live with my dad for very good reasons. Not like those stupid teen things others may complain about.. But after 2 years my mom came back and she really changed, as well as my stepdad and that's great! I really want to be a part of the family again. The thing is when I lived with my dad it was great at first. Then hell broke loose when he was cheating on my stepmom. So my grandmother wanted me to live with her for a while but my mom doesn't know I live with her, but the cheating she does know because I told her. (I needed to speak up how I felt to somebody!) I still am living with my grandparents and want to be with my mom but how do I tell both my dad and grandparents without them feeling disappointed or mad or anything. I really need advice:( nobody knows I do but I know my mom really wants me back with her. Any advice?
I’m going to visit my dad but I want to live there. Living with my mom is so hard/mentally draining but I don’t wanna hurt her feelings. I’ve only seen my dad twice in my 16 years of life and there is so much catching up to do. What do I do?
You are going to visit a man whom you’ve only met twice, and you want to move in with him?Absolutely, go and visit. Try to take at least two weeks. That way you are able to do some catching up, but also find out what kind of person he is, and what kind of life he lives. It’s easy to see a perfectly wonderful dad, with whom you’d make a fabulous relationship, when you are not in contact with him every day.It’s normal for moms and daughters to have stress surrounding the teen years, but before you set your mind on moving out, make an effort to spend some longer visits with your dad. Talk with your mom about wanting to have a relationship with your father. She should be included in all decisions. She has been there for you, day in and day out. Seeing more of your dad shouldn’t have to be all or nothing. Try to find some middle ground, and move a bit more slowly.
I don't want to go to my dads house anymore?
Ok well I guess I should start by saying that I'm 13 and when my parents got divorced I was 11. The way the custody worked out was that I go to my moms house for a week and my dads house for a week. My moms house is my real house that I've grown up in since I was a baby, so It's normal to want to go there more than my dads house. My dads house on the other hand, is my grandmas house. When my parents got divorced my mom was the only one with a job because when I was still pretty young my dad quit his job so he could stay home with me and my sister. So when they got divorced my dad didn't have much money so he moved in with my grandma until he could get back on his feet. It's been 2 years now, and I'm to the point where I'm fed up with it. I guess I should also say that my grandmas house is in a very underpopulated part of the city and is about an hour away from my moms house so it makes it harder to get back and forth. There is only one extra bedroom so me and my sister have to SHARE a queen bed and my dad sleeps in the office room. So as you can tell going to my dads is DEFINITELY NOT my most favorite place in the world. And I hate it there! There's nothing to do, nowhere to go. Even a gas station is at least 7 miles away. Whenever it comes time to go back to my dads after being at my moms for a week I literally want to die. I have to go back today and i just dont know what to do! I feel very upset and anxious every time before i go because i feel like i dont even have a house anymore and im a gypsy because of how much i move back and forth. it seems like just as im getting settled in at my moms house, the next thing i know im packing once again to return to my dads house. i've tried talking to my mom numerous times about changing the custody agreement to every other weekend with my dad and she says she's gonna talk to him but she never does. i feel as if im going to crumble to pieces any minute now. i know you may be thinking that im over reacting but you dont know what im going through. i guess i just needed to get this out here so im at least getting it out of my system even if no one is going to answer. i guess what im asking is what should i do? talking to my dad is out of the question because i dont want to hurt his feelings by saying i dont like going there. i really need help.
How do I tell my dad I don't want to go to his house anymore?
My daughters father and I have 50/50 custody, same thing one week here and one week there. If she didn't like coming to her house here then I would hope she would talk to me about it. I would never want her to come here if she felt like you do. She has her own room, tv, computer etc. She is set up in both homes. I think your father could understand and should understand that the situation is not comfortable. I don't know why he hasn't gotten you a kitty, a bed and other things that you like to make you feel at home there. Talk to him.
What's the best way to tell my mom I don't want to live with her anymore?
Let's start with this; I'm thirteen. I'm very mature for my age, I act and look more like I'm 15 or 16. I get A's and B's and I go to a private school. I also dance competitively 5 days a week, 4 hours a day. So I'm pretty busy. My parents got separated two years ago. They go divorced about 7 months later. Throughout the divorce I've been through hell and I've come back happier. I split my time evenly, one week at my dad's, one at my mom's. Here is the thing: My oldest sibling lives is in college, my closest in age sibling lives permanently with my mom. I LOVE being at my dad's. Its the best place in the world. His girlfriend moved in (who I consider my step mom) with her two kids at his house. And they've become family. I have a family at my dad's, a mom, dad, little brother, and little sister. At my mom's, I have my too-overprotective brother, and a PMSing mom. I seriously hate her. I know, it's a strong word. But I've never disliked someone so much. More than anything in the world I just want to move in permanently with my dad. I would love to not have to live out of a suitcase (unless your a divorce child you don't realize how horrible it is to have luggage laying around your room with clothes in them). I hate having to deal with my mom. I know my mom loves me, I've been told by her friends that I'm all she talks about and how I'm the most important thing in her life to her and they told me that when she wasn't around. But I can't do it anymore. I really really can't stand being at her house. Sometimes I just want to hide out at my dad's house so I don't have to go to hers. I don't want to break off conversation with her, I want to see her at least everyother week, just living with her is too much. The thought of breaking her heart kills me. I just can't do it... Any advice? Heres something I wrote a while back, maybe it will help you understand. So maybe home isn't where the heart is. Maybe all those silly quotes actually mean nothing in the long run. Because here, I'm not home. I'm at a house, with bad memories and what seems to be a bad future. Your lies aren't adding up anymore and I've stopped believing that it'll get better. This is where I grew up, this is where I had my first birthday; but this isn't my home, this is no longer where I need to be. THANK YOU for any input you may have on the matter(:
I'm feeling so dead and hopeless and just wanna commit sucidie?
Sorry about losing your father. I lost mine at 6 so I believe I can relate. My Mom never remarried so there was never a father figure. Let me say that your pain sounds like its worse because you say your Mom's not understanding. I don't know what that means. Does that mean you've told her you're still hurting from losing your Dad, or is she unable to console you and just say, I know, I miss him too? You sound very bright and capable to ask a guidance counselor for some advice as well as do some online checking for books on the subject. I always say, we seem to forget to go to other family members who can listen. How about your paternal grandparents - they lost a son and hurt like you. I miss my father but I love my mother and it's been 47 years later and I am such a better stronger person with 2 beautiful girls who also lost a father but gained a stepfather who loves them more than their father ever did. So do as your father would want you to do and push through the pain. Make him proud and become stronger knowing he loved you and that never goes away - he always will.
I don't want to look at my father’s face anymore, but I still have to live in the same house with him. What should I do?
I’d say that if now you are feeling so overwhelmed and depressed then it’s not the right time to try to analyse why you feel the way you feel.And by the way….whatever you are feeling is ok. Trust yourself and your feelings. You are feeling that way for a reason, so it’s ok.What I would do is to try to take some distance from him, as much as possible. I know you are living with him but you can still put some distance between you and him. First probably physical distance and then emotional distance. Give yourself breathing space. Only after you have given yourself enough space you can try to figure out why you feel that way towards him.And take your time. You don’t need to solve it tomorrow. Respect yourself enough to give yourself what you need.Oh…and the last thing….don’t go into fighting mode with him. That only drains you and frustrates you. So do it for yourself. Try to let whatever feeling/emotion you feel about him just pass by. The more you fight it/resist it, the longer it will stay and the worse it will make you feel.Wish you strength and best of luck!!!!