Is it selfish if I want to leave my parents and move out on my own?
As Sara Booth noted in her answer, the answer to your question is going to depend greatly on your cultural context. My family bridged Bangladesh, the UK, and the USA. I felt a great deal of guilt moving out of my parents’ home (in Bangladesh) for university (in the US) and again for not returning (to my mother’s home in the UK) after I had earned my BA at 22.Your parents and siblings may perceive you as selfish. However, putting yourself first isn’t necessarily a negative thing. By leaving my birth family behind me, I have been able to accomplish much more in my life than I could have if I stayed. I am now raising wonderful 10-year-old twin daughters who know that when they decide to venture out on their own, they will have my full support to live their own lives.If you’re not able to live up to your potential in your parents’ home, it is more selfish for you to stay than to leave. However, are their social repercussions to leaving? How does your society view unmarried (I assume you’re unmarried) adults living away from their parents?This is not to say you won’t feel guilt. It has been 19 years since I left home. My younger sister was 7 when I left, and I still wonder what I could have done to make her life better. Perhaps if I had stayed closer to home or stood up more to my parents, I could have made her life easier. By the time I was in a financial position to bring her to live with me, choices that would limit her options in life had already been made. I live with that guilt by doing my best not to put my daughters in a similar position.I wish you the best of luck.
I'm 19 is that too young to want to move out of my parents house?
I find that I really need the experience.. being on my own. I'm quite independent in terms of emotional maturity and mentally but I find that living at home I am too sheltered. I can't do things I know I can do if I lived on my own. I can't go out to places I want, I am always being babied and scolded. I have no freedom at home. I'm sorry but I don't enjoy answering to people especially if I am19 years old.. I want that freedom. I want to know what it's like to take care of myself (of course live with my boyfriend) I want to be in charge, learn to bdget, actually shop for my own place. make my own rules and live happily and peacefully. When I'm at my parents house I am kind of unhappy. I find that especially when I go to school next year, living on my own in my own space with my own rules will greatly impact my academic career. Is 19 too young? I want to talk to my mom about it. Tell her that I am thinking of moving out for a few months (i say a few just to not make her worry) to see what it's like to live on my own, that I want the experience. I have a job that pays $15 an hour. He also has 2 full time jobs. I'm a little scared to move out only because ill really be without my parents and have to be responsible for myself and have no one to help me out. Well my boyfriend will help. Should I be scared? I think me leaving is inevitable.
How do I kiss her?? I want too but I'm scared?
Hey I'm Riley. A 15 year old girl and i wanna help you out bro! Planning out this kiss is important. You have to go to a special place, probably in private, like on a hill top or something (not a place where someone could randomly walk by and see) get close to her, maybe hug her or if your sitting put your arm around her, get really close to her (hinting YOUR READY FOR THIS KISS) if she gets really close too and doesnt back away, go in for the kill (kiss her) But dont make out, kiss her. not to fast though. a nice romantic kiss. then release the kiss, look at her and you could either make out after, or hug her, or maybe go for another smooch. Its gonna feel like a dream dude and youll be smiling for the rest of the day. I've had experiance so yeah. I hope it works out for you pal! good luck :)
I want to be a actress so bad but Im scared I won't make it?
I wanted be a actress sooooo much!! I love acting and drama :) But I know a LOT of people don't make it as actresses so Im scared I won't make it either:( Im one of those unlucky people in life so Im scared that I won't get the thing I want the most:( Last night I cried about not making it as an actress. Yes that is how badly I want it. I want it so much!!! I know I might end up disappointed but I still want to have a go. It's not about people knowing my name or becoming famous etc I just LOVE acting sooooo much. I have always been a shy girl and an outcast but I would not be shy if I had an opportunity to become an actress. I have a back up plan if I don't make it. I will become a fashion designer if I can't be a actress. But if I don't make it as that either what do I do? I want to become an actress the most though. I live in Birmingham so there is not much opportunity. I wish I lived in America:( Im still in school atm (Im in Year 11 when I go back to school) and I plan on going to college and uni and taking drama and fashion courses. I really need some advice here cos I won't to be a actress so badly!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!! Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I want to move school but I'm afraid too?
hey, what year are you in? I'm in year 8 and in the same position as you! I get bullied so much that it's resulted in self harm and depression. People think that the words they say don't hurt but they really do. Similairly to you - there is no local schools next to me apart from a Christian one - but I'm not baptised :L I have friends and i don't want to leave them. I'm nervous that if I would move I would still be bullied.. You should not have to put up with getting bullied. It should be illegal because the way it affects people is just horrible. Hang in there sweetie, think about the positive effects of going to a different school - be confident, be yourself and you will make friends. Don't worry - you're not alone :) if you need any help just e-mail me :) :) I also want to throw my chair at people --- numerous people :)
Im 18 and want to move out sooo bad, but im broke, what to do?
ok im an 11th grader but im 18, and my parents are killing me! i want to move out soooooo bad,every day i baby sit my 7 younger siblings, i cook i clean i fight with them all the time and i sleep on the couch! but i have no money ive been trying to get a good job for a year now but no one is hiring the only job i have is a "part time" job at a pet kennel, and i say "part time" because im averaging 3-4 hours on a good week. my bf who's 25 cant get a good job either and he has learning problems, i have good enough grades, but where i dont have a diploma yet, i really can't get a "good" job. any advice?
Why are people from the UK so scared of knives and guns?
I grew up in rural Missouri where both are legal. You rarely hear any crime at all. Much less knife and gun crimes! Why are British people so scared of them? Are people from the UK much more violent than people in the US? And even if so, wouldn't it be better to have something to defend yourself from attack with than be totally helpless? The reason I am asking, is I just read this question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;... and it's responses, they're kind of funny! I understand that knives are illegal there, so I sort of understand, but just because someone carries a knife doesn't mean that they're up to no good... that's just silly! Why do they feel that way? If you're from the UK please explain if: 1. Are people from the UK more violent? 2. Why are you so scared of knives? 3. Wouldn't it be better to have protection in case someone tried to hurt you? Thanks!
Are you afraid to MOVE to a new CITY?
If I were you I would weigh the advantages of going to a new city vs. staying in your home town. What is it that you want to gain by either choice? When I was 24 I moved from Illinois to Washington, DC just because I needed a good paying job after college. I had to make the choice to move into the unknown because it was the only fiscally viable option at the time. If the employment opportunities are about the same, then I don't see any particular fiscal advantage to moving. The next step is to consider the personal advantages. Are the dating opportunities better? Is there a personal situation in your home town that moving would allow you to escape (abusive ex, overly dependent relatives, etc.) Once again you have to weigh the advantage of each choice. I can tell you from first hand experience that taking the chance that moving presents can work out for you. You just have to weigh your opportunities carefully, and make a measured judgment about which one presents the best possible outcome. What you shouldn't do is make an irrational change just for the sake of making a change. If you are going to do it, make the change for a valid reason which betters your situation. I hope this helps.