I Want To Text My Ex But I Don

I don’t want my ex back but I have the urge to text him and stay on good terms with him, what should I do?

Your situation is commonplace. You are seeking to stay in touch with him because of the process known as ‘delayed detachment’. This is when our romantic relationship has run its course, but we don't want to LOSE our former lover forever! This is entirely normal as it is extremely difficult to face up to not seeing your ex again, (or not being in touch indirectly). You won't like my advice but my raison daitre is to hopefully help other quorans, as they navigate the minefield that is adult romantic relationships. You first of all must ask yourself whether you are being 100% honest with yourself, when you say you don't want your ex back in your life as a romantic partner? If you don't want your ex back then you MUST face up to the FACT that you can't have your cake and eat it too! What I am saying is that you MUST be fair to yourself and your ex. You clearly are not completely OVER your ex. You will never be over him if he is in your life at this point. You will constantly give him false hope of a reconciliation every time you interact, (whether this be via text, phone chat or face to face) This is incredibly selfish on your part. I do believe exes CAN be friends but ONLY after a sufficient amount of time has passed between the relationship dissolution and reconnecting. In this hiatus there must be absolutely NO contact between you and your ex. No texts, phone calls, social media following. Absolutely nothing! In this time (however long it takes), BOTH ex partners can move on with their lives totally ‘free’ of each other. The ONLY exceptions to NO contact are if you have children together or work and/or study together. In those cases contact should be minimal and functional in nature. You must take my advice for your own emotional long term wellbeing and that of your ex. And one final point: Most exes drift COMPLETELY out of each others lives eventually. It's just the nature of the beast! New partners come along. Any ‘pseudo friendship’ with an ex can create massive problems. In a nutshell: You give serious consideration to your TRUE feelings towards your ex. You decide to give your relationship another go if that is what you BOTH really want. If not, then you block your ex everywhere. And I mean EVERYWHERE! This is the correct option by the way. Only you will decide. I suggest you think long and hard about the situation. Whatever you choose to do, I do wish you luck.

Why won't my ex block me from texting her if she said she doesn't want anything to do with me?

The relationship is over, she doesn’t wish to see or talk to you, so she let you know. There’s no real need to block you. That’s what over dramatic people do. She handled it as an adult. She communicated with you, and she doesn’t seem to think you’ll be a problem to her. In other words, she might actually trust you enough to think you’ll behave as an adult and not communicate with her unnecessarily.There’s no golden rule that once a relationship is over, the other person gets blocked in social media and phone. Teens do that mostly, since drama is greatly involved in breakups and they don’t have the maturity to handle the situation better. Don’t wonder over such a pointless thing.

If you had a chance to text your ex, what would you like to say?

“The timing was bad.”Not too long ago I actually had a short text conversation with an ex.Out of the blue, I received a message that said, “Hey, it’s Brenda.”My heart was beating all fast. We hadn’t spoken in months since I told her I wouldn’t be contacting her again.“Hey, how’ve you been?”It took about 30 minutes for her to reply. It was because she sent me one of those paragraph long texts.I’m not going to write out everything she said. Honestly, I don’t remember everything she said.But, it was something to the effect of, “Thank you for being apart of my life. I learned a lot from you, and I appreciate our time together. I wish things hadn’t ended like they did. But I just wanted you to know that I care about you.”… I’m getting frustrated just writing about it.She added at the end, “I wish you had been ready for the kind of relationship I wanted, but I understand that you weren’t.”I replied, “I was ready. The timing was bad.”If I had a chance to text her today I’d just say, “sorry I was such a prick. You deserved better from me.”Her name isn’t actually Brenda by the way.

I really want to talk to my ex but I’m scared to text him. It’s been two months since we broke up and I’m scared that too much time has passed. How can I open a line of communication?

Alright before giving you some suggestions just wanna address this fact. Think about why you broke up. I mean was it because of him or just a misunderstanding on both of your part. If it was a misunderstanding then probably he too wants to talk to you but is afraid to text you. However, if its not this and he messed up then probably your not going back together. Think about it once.For the ‘how to start a conversion’ part. Here’s a few tips.Keep it simple to start with. Don’t send long texts on what went wrong. Send something like. “Hi (his name), how you doing?” then steer the conversion in the direction you want. You want to indulge him into a constructive conversion. So for example talk to him about your problems, take his suggestions. Draw him in. Once you attain fluidity you can then talk about how you messed up and blah blah (if you wanna get back into a relationship)However, the trick is to be confident and willing yet kind of ignorant. Almost your getting to know him for the first time.