My Stepmom won't let me see my very ill father - What are my rights?
I can't even speculate why you are "not welcome in her home" - that is private, and between you. This is not a legal matter - there are no defined legal rights. It's entirely possible that your father has previously made his wishes known that you should not be granted access. You may be able to approach a third-party - a relative who could plead on your behalf, but your stepmom may not be easily dissuaded from her role. The relative could then negotiate a few minutes access under some form of supervision by a relative, but I am uncertain of the outcome.
I hate visiting my mom. Do I have to?
I live with my dad. My mom is married to another guy, and they have four kids. Neither mom or her husband work, so they're on social services. My dad on the other hand makes really good money, and since I'm his only kid he spends a lot on me. When I visit mom I get bad-mouthed constantly about how easy I have it. My two sisters are always stealing clothes from me, and mom's always complaining about how I'm prissy because I don't want to do chores while I'm at her house. She's wrong. I don't mind chores, but on the weekends that I'm there they dump everything on me. They act like I'm a maid. I'm expected to do the dishes, all the sweeping and vacuuming, the laundry, and even some of the cooking. I'm there as a guest. I don't think that's fair. Also mom does nothing but drink. She barely talks to me aside from complaining about me, and when she's really drunk she becomes verbally violent. The only people I even like seeing there are my oldest brother and step-dad. They're both cool to me. The truth is that I don't love my mom. She's someone I'm forced to have in my life. I know that if you're above a certain age you can decide for yourself who you stay with, but I don't know if I can outright refuse to visit her anymore. Anyone know?
My father hates me. What do I do?
You and I — not too different, aside from you having a wife. Having lived with a hateful, stubborn, lazy father I do not love until college, let me give you some advice.Fuck your father. Don’t play into his bullshit. Continue to see your mother whenever you please, but ignore him entirely. He asks you something, ignore. He tells you something, ignore. He picks up the phone, tell him you want to speak to your mother. (You always have to remember your mother was your #1 Lady before you met your wife, so treat her that way.) I do that and, while ignoring my father is somewhat hard because he is just so annoying, I can successfully prevent myself from bashing his face in.While I do not care for my father much, I believe the attention I give my mother in his presence has him thinking a lot about where he failed as a father. Either that or he’s dumb as all hell, which I would not put past him. I assume, like me, your door is always open for reconciliation with your father, but you’re not going to waste time that could be sent on your life, or your new family, pushing him to this metaphorical door.
My step mom hates my real mom?
so you can either A. talk to her and tell her to leave your one true mommy alone IF THAT DON'T WORK B. Say: LISTEN DID YOU GIVE BIRTH TO ME? NO SHE DID SO SHUT THE H-E-L-L UP ABOUT MY MOM! C.talk to your dad he might be able to calm his bitchy wife down D say to your step mom ILL KNOCK YOU ON UR FCKING @$$ IF YOU SAY THAT AGAIN E. if your mom has a brother(s) or you have maternal half brothers get them to say it for you :) F. just punch her G. tell your dad you saw her sleeping with another man or that she is a prostitute that will get rid of her and her smugness H. KICK HER @$$ OR AT LEAST SLAP HER I. tell her your dad and your mom are having an affair J. have your mom defend herself K, talk it out with your real parents L. ask to go live with your mom full time M. say ATLEAST MY MOM HAS MANNERS AND RESPECT FOR OTHERS N. start calling her Cruella devil or Hitler O. just tell her to back off nicely P. ask you mom if she can file for sole custody Q.annoy her to death R. tell your dad his wife is treating you with disrespect by insulting your mom S. tell them if they don't show your mom some respect you will take them on a talk show like MAURY ANDERSON LIVE or KATIE T.make fun of her mom U. apply to be on maury Anderson live and Katie maury is best tho because he wautomaticallytake your side V. tell her if she doesn't respect your mom you wont respect her or your father W. tell her that of course your dad loves your mom they have a permanent bond named...YOU X. just ignore her Y. you and your mom can make fun of her and see how she likes it! and last but not least Z. get her some HOT coffee or tea spill it on her and say "sorry bout that I guess god burns people that lack manners and respect "
My step-dad wont let me see my dad?
OMG! I'm so sorry. Your stepdad is... sorry, I can't say what I think about him. I swear when I get angry. 1. As others have said, you need to bring your concerns to someone you can trust at school. 2. Make sure you give them your dad's contact information; give that info to several friends or store it online someplace with a password you won't forget in case your stepdad or mom try to take the info from you. Do this with ALL of your friends' phone numbers, address . . . in case your stepdad and mom make you switch schools or you all move. Your stepdad and mom may also try to monitor things you do online at home. That is not necessarily a bad thing (like protecting you from child predators). But reading what you said indicates they may be doing things that are potentially illegal. You need to safeguard your contact info for your dad and friends. You may need to have a friend or two at school help you do it. 3. Try to contact your dad somehow. If he really loves you, he will fight for his parental rights. 4. Don't take any $%&# from your stepdad. This might be embarrassing, but consider telling several trusted relatives or friends that he whipped your bare bottom with a belt. If they're ever called to testify in a parental custody dispute, that may be of help. 5. Make sure your school nurse examines you the day you come forward about what's happening (especially your bottom). If your stepdad beats you again, you MUST have her look at your bottom again. That will be extraordinary evidence of potential child abuse. It will be embarrassing, but be brave and you'll get through it fine. 6. Find out if there's a way to contact the judge who decided the custody issues. Maybe she or he can take some action. If your mom and stepdad aren't following her/his custody orders, the judge may get mightily ticked off at them. Good luck!
My step-dad wont let me see my real dad?
1. Your father needs to go to court and file for custody (either visitation or joint custody) if he already has a custody order in line, your Mother cannot refuse your dad from seeing you on his days or she will be in trouble. Your step dad is a LEGAL STRANGER.He has no rights to you at all and he can get into trouble for spanking you (bare bottom of all things) How, are you sure your father didn't sign his rights over? Did he originally sign the birth certificate? Your father really should be going to court for this instead of having you worried. Good luck.
Should I visit my grandparents without my mom’s approval? I’m studying abroad next year and they want me to stay an extra day to visit, but she hates them. She isolated me from them as a kid, but we have met in person recently & everything was fine.
Not sure I can answer but thanks for askin me directly.Does she know about this last contact? What was her reaction? How old are you? Are they her parents? What was her relationship with one and then the other of them, them as a couple? If not her parents still, what is her relationship like with them as a couple? Answers to these Qs will factor into your decision and the level of honesty w/her after. It would be great if you could have an in-depth conversation w/her B4 the visit time comes. Knowledge of contravening factors to her wishes can be important in your choice to honor her desires.Good luck with this important decision.
My boyfriend's son hates me..?
Well I'm sorry for you situtation but you are the one that choose to move in with a man that is NOT your husband and the son doesn't have much respect for you. I proably wouldn't either if I were his age. Yes it is his father and his mothers fault with the end of their marriage and not yours entirley but if he was still married with her despite he says it was over you should NEVER had gone out with him. You are living with a man that is not your husband and how do you treat his son when he is there? YOU ARE NOT his mother much less even a step mother. And it has been 3 years. I would say you are just as much as resonsilbe. HE is a child you on the other hand are suppose to be an adult. You need to grow up and stop acting like a spoiled brat and if you boyfriend wouldn't leave you for his son and for the well being of his son then shame on him. What you should do is grow up and start assuming part of the responsblity for this mess and stop leaving it to a child to do.
How do I convince my conservative family to let me have a boyfriend?
A2A.Let me tell you an incident in my life. I was 20. A friend of mine was driving me back to my hostel. I had a tiff with my mother about something and I was grumbling and whining to him all along the way. He heard me out. We reached my hostel and he stopped the car. He then proceeded to tell me something I will never forget.“Ankita, you are 20. You are facing typical issues any girl/guy your age is facing. You say your parents get you to do things as per their wish because they know you and because they know this world. And you know what, they are right. They do know you and know how to convince you. But you know what, you also know them. Definitely not more than they know you, but equally.And if after 20 years of knowing your parents, you are asking a stranger on how to convinve them, then I am sorry but your life is a complete waste. Don’t have any professional dreams or goals because you won’t achieve them.”That being said, I am not saying follow this advice right away. I would like to know a few things. How old are you? Do you have a steady job? What kind of person if this guy you want as your boyfriend? Are you both equally serious about each other?If you are physically, emotionally, financially independent and the guy you want to date is the same, I would suggest get to know him a bit more, find out on how serious he is or you are, before getting parents involved.If you are not independent, I would suggest you work on that first. No one is going to take you seriously unless you are independent.