My parents hate my in-laws--how to deal with future kids?
I need advice on a future dilemma. My mother told me during our last visit that when I have children (hopefully next year), my parents will not be participating in any events that include hubby's family. Hubby's parents aren't the warmest people in the world, but have never been anything but nice to me. My parents feel that when we're in a group setting (like at the wedding) Hubby's parents don't do enough to socialize with them. My parents feel that Hubby's parents should talk more, invite them over for dinner, do more to interact with them. If I want to have Baby's first birthday party at my house, it's fine to include Hubby's family, friends, etc. but they will not be participating. My mother said that I would have to bring Baby to her house, so they can give Baby their own private party. Same for Christmas, etc. I know it's a little early to worry about it, but it's made me realize that this will cause a rift eventually. Growing up, we were never close to my mother's family, and I feel that history is about to repeat itself. Hubby doesn't know about this yet, and hopefully it will work itself out. Am I wrong to think that my mother is being incredibly controlling, not to mention petty? Do you think I'll have to put my foot down and say, it's either our birthday party or nothing? Help!!!
I'm giving my B/F my virginity for his birthday. Is that a good idea?
Cheapass! Get him a DVD.
How did you celebrate your birthday this year?
Thanks for this perfect A2A Vibhuti.I slept late at night, so I woke up today somewhat late. My Mom wished me, followed by my Dad. Then I received wishes from my lovely Quora friend.I took bath and went to the Temple with Mom and offered some food to the Children there.I had School today, so I dressed up for it. There was a farewell party, which I enjoyed a lot.After the farewell party, my friends demanded Birthday Party, So I took them to a nearby Restaurant. We had a good meal there.I returned home exhausted and slept for a while.I don't have any plans for Cake ( I don't really like sweets ).Overall it was a fine day with lots of fun, lots of memories and wishes, better than that of last year's.I hope I could live upon to the expectations of those who care for me.I also played Holi “in advance” with my friends :PIgnore my expression in the last pic :PThanks for reading : )SarthakImage source : Phone’s GalleryEdit : I had no plans for Cake, but looks like My Mom planned something else :
Can you help me with planning my mother's surprise birthday party?
Okay I'm going to play Devil's Advocate here. First off I think it's great you want to do that for your mom. My question is, can't you wait one more year for her 50th??? You would have all year to plan it. When my mom turned 80, it did take us a year. Okay I've said it. Now then here's my idea if you want to do it this year. (tough because of graduations, etc., but give it a go). Tell her you're taking her to a restaurant for dinner (since you've done this before it won't be suspicious to her. Call a local restaurant and make a reservation at one that has a private room. Have her friends, family already there (i.e. tell them to show up at 6:30 and settle, tel lher dinner reservation is at 7:00pm ) most restaurants have no problem with this and will even let you in early to decorate. If you don't want that, have a Belated Cinco De Mayo celebration in your backyard (get a pinata for her) have margaritas, chips, salsa, taco dips, etc. Good luck and have fun. Depending on the amount of people you have, instead of a cake, get 49 cupcakes (party rental places have cupcake stands)
Child of divorced parents invited to school friend's birthday on Dad's weekend. Does Mom have to take her?
I think she's being fair, offering to swap weekends with you so that she can be there to help her friend with the birthday party (if the mom is a close friend of hers). Think of it this way... Say you were still married & your child was invited to a birthday party. The party was at your wife's friends house. Who would take her, if only one of you was going to do it? Now, imagine the party was at the home of one of your old friends - who would take her? I think this should only come into play if your ex is actually close friends with the birthday child's parents - not just 'nodding on the playground' acquaintances, though. I don't think that it was right for your ex to be planning to RSVP 'No' without informing you of the party, since it was on your weekend. I think that it's great for you to want to get more involved in your child's school life, meeting her friends, being part of that day-to-day stuff. I also think it's great when parents can work together to make life as uncomplicated & parental-stress-free as possible for their children after they divorce. I would think that if you work with your ex on this one, she will be more likely to notify you of parties & school events that happen on your weekends.
Future me, ask yourself in the future?
You guys know the website http://futureme.org I've heard once of a website where you can send yourself a letter in the future but I had frgotten the name of the website. After 3 years I find it I sent myself a letter a month before ending senior year, telling myself to enjoy my last days, tell some people what I think of them, and lots of blabbing of what I am today, what I hope to be, etc. haha Did you guys know this website? Will you do a letter? What will you write and when?