My parents are forcing me to do something I don't want to and the worst part is that they don't know that they're forcing me.What should I do?
First, you make it clear to them that you feel forced.I don't know what it is exactly they ar emailing you do, but I shall assume that it is something that is making you very uncomfortable because of your language. Hopefully it's not because they're making you eat at McDonald’s and you wanted to go to Burger King.You explain and give specific examples of word choice, attitude, and the parts of the situation that is making you feel that way and why. Make it valid, show them that you are serious, and make sure they understand. If they do not understand, mention to them that you are an independent human being and that even if they cannot comprehend, you feel that way for a reason.Stand your ground. Though don't get aggressive. Give them a chance to explain their point of view as well. They are your parents and hopefully try want only want the best for you.Again, I'm not completely informed about the situation but if it gets out of hand, there's always the authorities.
I don't want to get my hair cut but my mom is forcing me to?? :(?
My mom is forcing me to get a haircut on Saturday. My hair is NOT long and is NOT dead. My hair only comes about half an inch or so below my chest and I only have very, very few split ends. No matter what I say she will not let me not get my hair cut. I've cried a few times while getting my hair cut (I'm extremely sensitive about my hair) and she gets really mad. She has already booked the appointment, but I somehow need to make her not get my hair cut because I really don't want to. Everytime I say anything that relates to me getting my haircut she pushes me way and becomes very strict and mean about it. She says she's going to ask to get my hair cut about 3-4 inches and I'm so scared. Even if I ask the hairdresser to only cut of half an inch or so they get about 4 inches so... I JUST DO NOT WANT TO GET MY HAIR CUT BUT MY MOM IS FORCING ME TO. I don't know what to do. I know I'll cry and I know my mom will get mad because of that. She keeps saying my hair is too messy (it's not and I'm not just saying that, she also constantly wants me to put my hair up and no, if I put my hair up for the next few days she won't change her made). I'm extremely sensitve about my hair and everytime I get my hair cut I become extremely anxious about how I look because they always cut my hair very short and I think I'm really ugly with short hair (I am and I probably look 5 with short hair). I just don't know how to change my mom's mind. What do I do???
My mom is forcing me to do something i dont like?
im in the same situation my mom once i joined tkd she wouldnt let me quit and now im a black belt and she still wont let me quit and like when i dont go to my lessons i get grounded.my parents promised me that once i had gotten my black belt they would let me quit and do something i liked but they will just not keep their promise they have been promising me that since i was a white belt.personaly what i do is i just lock my self in my room when its time for my lessons and pretend i was asleep.every night i pray that god will convince my parents to let me quit.i just HATE tkd and having to go every day really stresses me out. because i have a full schedule i have TONS of homework and i basically just get home from school have a snack do some hw untill its time for tkd when i get back i finish my hw and have dinner and go to sleep!i dont get to hang out with my friends AT ALL! my mom says that i will thank her for this when i get older BUT WHAT AM I GOING TO THANK HER FOR? MAKING MY LIFE MISERABLE? -good luck i know what it feels like im in the same situation.:(god bless you -stephy
Have your parents ever forced you to do something you didn't want to do?
Yes, Swimming classes.I had just finished my 6th standard final exams and my parents were eager to send me to swimming classes for the summer. I tried my best to avoid it because I was scared. My mom came with me everyday to the classes to see if I am actually trying. On the first day, I had a lot of fun in the 3 ft pool but the next day they started training the whole group in the 9ft pool. I was extremely scared. I tried my best but always ended up with water in my nose and stopped flipping my legs mid way. That was a 1 month training and I was getting better day by day. I loved diving and under water swimming. On the last day, I was dead scared (still unaware of the reason) I was crying and begging my mom to not send me inside the pool. I didn’t go inside the pool instead I was pushed by my trainer. I had a feeling I would die (lol)My mom was very angry that day because I was doing really well and out of no where I freaked out.After that I didn’t swim for a very long time until 9th standard. At that time my bestfriend was taking swimming training so I used to go with her. When I went inside the pool, I felt like I was in my natural habitat. I swimmed for almost 2 hours and that was so refreshing. I was proud of myself.I love swimming now. I would jump inside the pool anytime and it’s really difficult to get me out of it.
My Mom Is Forcing Me To Play A Sport I Hate?
Now, to all of you fans of this sport, I am NOT hating on it, it's simply not my kind of sport. With that out of the way, my mom is forcing me to play volleyball. It all started back in fifth grade, when I was first allowed to play sports. Of course, at first, it was fun, but as time dragged on I began not to like it so much. Now, at this point, I completely detest it. It's probably not wholly based on my changing personality over the years, but the majority is, but just a tiny bit because my mom has been forcing me to play it for over 4 years. The practices became a pain because I've got too much other stuff to do rather than play volleyball (I play piano, I'm in the marching band, run track, play tennis, swim, and have to keep my grades up). Now that I'm in highschool, I thought my mom would let me quit if I asked her like an adult. Such as: "Mom, I'm not enjoying volleyball so much anymore, and I've got so much other stuff to do, mind if I quit?" Of course, she said no. I've told her countless times how much I hate the sport because now that I'm older, people aren't as kind. She has made me play in multiple clubs and bootcamps for volleyball, and I've just about had it. She forces me to do so much other stuff that if I had to choose one thing to drop, it'd definitely be volleyball. Why make me play a sport that I dislike? Her answer: It will make you a well rounded person! If you play sports and play an instrument and do well in school you will get accepted into college! Okay, 1, I'm only a freshman, 2, Hello? Have you not noticed that I play THREE other sports?, and 3, my grades have been STELLAR for my whole entire life. Why can't she just be satisfied with what I can do? I mean, COME ON. It's so ridiculous! She says she enjoys watching the sport, and wants me to play as well. Well, I DO have a younger sister who absolutely ADORES playing volleyball, just watch her. I. Just. Can't. Take. It. Anymore. Four years is enough. Any help?
My mom forces me to learn the piano even though I don't want to. What should I do?
I wish I had been pushed into learning to play an instrument.When I was 19 years old, I wanted to learn to play piano so I asked my mother for the money to sign my younger sister and myself up for lessons. It was about $25/month, if I remember correctly. She did give me the money.For a few months, we took the lessons every Saturday for a few hours. After 2 months taking lessons, I asked my mother for $250 to buy a keyboard so my sister and I could practice at home. She did give us the money, we bought it, and we did, in fact, practice at home. I sometimes spent an hour or two, three days a week and I did notice a nice progress. After that, I got a visa so my mom bought me a ticket to come see her for the first time in almost a decade (She lives in California, and we were in our home country). That was the first month I didn’t go to lessons in almost half a year.After I went back to my country, I tried resuming my lessons but ended up dropping the whole thing. That was almost 3 years ago. Last year, I bought a keyboard after getting a few paychecks from my first job. It’s gathering dust in my room. I have no one to teach me and I’m not sure on how to keep going by myself. I have a book about music theory, and one about Piano but because of work, I have almost no time to read it. I have no one to push me into learning, despite the whole range of known benefits that playing an instrument brings. And maybe you’re thinking “Well, you’re an adult. Why don’t you just simply start playing without anyone telling you?” Truth is, that’s a totally valid question but my parents always let me quit things I didn’t feel like doing anymore. I quit Tae Kwon Do lessons, Soccer practice, English lessons (but to be fair, I did keep practicing after I quit through games, books, and the internet).Could I have become a decent piano player had I kept practicing? Yes. I was 19 years old but I could clearly see we were learning.Should I take it back? Yes. It brings many benefits as I mentioned before including a lower risk of mental illnesses later in life.Should you keep practicing? MOST DEFINITELY! Do yourself a favor and don’t quit.I know my answer will not bring back your passion for playing but I do give you an honest story about me, hoping maybe you will not follow my steps.Keep practicing. Keep improving. Keep learning.As my mother always says “No one can take your knowledge from you”.
My mom is forcing me to date a guy?
After my break up, my mom wants me to date my ex again. I don't have any feelings for him and I literally begged my mom to stop. I had a mature conversation about it afterwards and she started screaming at me. She wants to force me to have sex with him too and I don't want to lose my virginity to him. Here's the story to why I don't want to date him. 1. Last November, I actually really liked him. We tried to date but he didn't want to be in a relationship with a 17 year old. He was 20 at the time. 2. After my 18th birthday party, he decided to try again. However, the way he treated me in November lead me to think he's not ready for a relationship, so I lost feelings for him. We both tried and had fun for a bit, but all of a sudden, he said he lost feelings a week after. He probably understood my body language and left. My mother was crying because we weren't dating. Shes being ridiculous because she can't force us together. We don't like each other like that anymore, but he never liked me in the first place. My mother became angry and said that I can't date anybody besides him. Afterwards, my mom called a psychic and she says that I need sex apperently, and my "hormones" are bringing a negative energy towards him. That doesn't make any sence. My mother clearly doesn't understand and wants to hear that we don't want to be in a relationship with each other. Because of my constant arguing with her, she happens to call me a negative ***** and shes now happy that he's gone
My mom is forcing me into sports !!?
( ok this is a follow up to my last question) I'm 13 and my mom found porn !!? ok i know i know i'm wrong but what happened was my phone has an mp3 player and of coruse i didn't want to give it to her but she asked me 4 it and i didn't want her to start asking y i didn't give it to her then she would get supsuious so i coudln't delted the porn photo because the phone was in my pocket and she knew it was there long story short my mom wanted to borrow it because she was going to work out at the gym 20 minutes later she calls and starts yelling about the porn and she says when she gets home i'm grounded (figured) and my cell is hers (temporary) i'm so embarssed my mom isn't home yet but i'm wonderign what should i do ??? 23 hours ago - 3 days left to answer. Additional Details 23 hours ago *Wondering* 22 hours ago my dad found out second when he came home today he came home with a smile in turns which made me cringe
Why is my mom forcing me to become either a lawyer or doctor when I am older? I don't want to do those things but she won't listen.
First of all, ask your mom why she wants you to be either a doctor or lawyer. Then explain to her that you want to be happy and successful at whatever you do when you are older. I think she would agree with that. Tell her that it’s well known that the two most important factors in success in any chosen career are:It’s something you find interesting and enjoyable, and even have a passion forIt’s something that uses your specific strengths and abilitiesWhen you enjoy your work and are good at it, you will be motivated and productive, thus successful and better paid too. If you don’t know yet exactly what you want to do, don’t worry about it until you need to choose a college or university program. In the meantime, think about it and get to know yourself. Try to visualize the kind of work you’d like to do day after day and never get bored.Your mom might want her daughter to be a doctor or lawyer, but tell her this: everyone will be much happier if you choose the right career for you, and become a big success at it. Nobody knows you better than you do, so make your own choice.