My 12 year old nephew just confessed the he molested my 8 year old son. What should I do?
My nephew has been living with me for the last 7 months. My son was taking a bath last night, and my nephew ended up joining him(not sure how that came about). My nephew asked my son to do some things to him, and then to keep it a secret. My nephew then started freaking out and crying and wouldn't tell me why. I finally got it out of him, but he told me that he was also molested. He told me that I would hate him and he just wanted to kill himslef. I made him go back to his mothers home last night, becasue I dodn't want him to be around my son anymore. My son doesn't seem to be bothered by it, and asked this morning why my nephew wasn't home. He said he wants my nephew to come back. I don't want my nephew to think i hate him, but I have to protect my own children. My sister just thinks its no big deal and that my nephew doesn't need any help. I don't know what to do. Should I let me nephew continue to live with me? Should I contact the authorities? What can I tell my son?
I was molested 2 years ago by my mentally retarded brother.?
About 2 years ago when I was 11, my older brother molested me. He was 20 at the time, and will always live at home because he has moderate-severe mental retardation. I didn't know what to do, because I knew that no one would believe me. A few months later I told my other brother (who was 15 at the time), and he didn't believe me. I don't know what to do! I am afraid to be near my oldest brother but I have to every single day because he is home. I'm scared to tell my parents because as crazy as it sounds, I would be worried about what would happen to my brother. It only happened one time, and I doubt it will happen again. Should I tell someone anyway? I need some advice.
My uncle molested me 2 years ago, should i be over it?
two years ago when i was 13 i got drunk at my moms friends house. my aunt and mom were there. i was really drunk and got in a lot of trouble, and when they realized i was drunk my aunt called her husband to come over and take care of me. hes always looked at me like i was his daughter and the family trusts him a lot. i hardly remember anything that night. the next morning when i woke up i tried remembering what happened and when i remembered being in the backyard with him he put his hands in my shirt and did other things. i told myself it didnt happen but i finally stopped lying to myself about it. it happened. i ignored it and just learned to live with it. but now thats its bothering me i dont know if im just making a big deal about. my family is ggoing through a lot right now and the last thing they need is to hear this. and im scared if i tell no one would believe me becuz i was drunk, does anyone have some advice for me?
I’m 17 and I was just molested by my 50+ year old coworker in his car. I’m scared to tell anyone because I don’t want to ruin his career. But he made me scared to see him again. What do I do?
I understand your hesitancy. I think.Consider the situation this way… you are now scared of your coworker. Your own career has been out into jeopardy. Your own workplace began to feel unsafe for you, because you may see him at your workplace.Why should you suffer issued in your own career when you did not molest him?By molesting you, he has dealt a blow to your persons and your feeling of safety and security at the workplace. That is not right.What you can do is report his actions to human resources. It is THEIR decision what to do with your report. It is THEIR decision as to what to do with him, if anything.It is thus not your decision about whether or not his career will or will not be ruined. Your only responsibility to yourself is to make yourself feel safe and for that molestation not to happen again. There are also ways to do this without telling anyone, for example by handling it yourself if you think you are willing and able to confront or at least control your molester.I understand that you telling someone may indeed start the process which may end his career but then it may not. What I'm saying is it will not be your responsibility if his career does end.Whether or not to tell someone is a personal choice. Many factors go into it. I hope you make the right choice for you, whatever it may be.Do gather, record, write down any evidence that you have of the encounter. If any fluids were exchanged, it may be a good idea to check into a forensic/sexual assault kit for documentation purposes.
Can a 12 year old go to jail for molesting a child...?
Call law enforcement, make the report, and let the prosecutor decide. I agree, a twelve-year-old knows better.
2 year old might have been molested.. please help me.?
My daughter is 2 years old and her father and I are not married. She goes over there every other weekend and every sunday night she stays too. A couple of months ago she came to me and said "My pop pop, who is her grandfather, touched my "toot toot""(we've always referred to her vagina as her toot toot) I said something to her dad and he said that his dad hadn't been around her alone or anything and I tried to just think that she didn't know what she was talking about. But i've always had that thought in the back of my head. Now Saturday she came to me and said "mommy, my pop pop touched my toot toot and i said OUCH!" I don't think that at 2 years old she could put those two together.. that he touched her there and it hurt. Tonight she was talking about her pop pop and i asked her what happened. she said that it was bleeding. i said well show me what happened. she laid down and said he opened it and then she stuck her finger in it and then said "then he closed it". I called a child abuse hotline today and they are gonna investigate. but do you think a 2 year old could make all that up?
My stepson molested my daughter. What Now ?
Since I got married 5years ago my stepson have been molesting my daughter. He was 14 at the time and she was 4. He is now 19 and she is 9. I found out months ago that he had been molesting her since the beginning. He made her perform oral sex on him, raped her and evrything else inbetween. I kicked him out of the house, but now he has lost his jobs and moved back in with us. I struggle to get over my hatred for him and try to tolerate him for my husband's sake, but it is just so difficult to forget what he did. How do I overcome this hatred I feel for this man ? My husband does not really stand by me in the situation. He has hinted a few times that my daughter also carried guilt in the situation. At 4 to 9 years I don't think that is true. She was the one who told me about it now that she is older which proves that she took action when she became able to resist. He says that she is looking for attention when she gets emotional. He just doesn't get the seriousnes of the situation. She is getting councilling and is doing well. Every day at a time. I am the one with the most anger and hate in me. Please help. I am trapped in the marriage because I do not work and in the current economic climate I can't fin'd one. I also find it very helpfull to be at home right now while she needs me. What do I do and how do I overcome the hate?
My 15 year old sister had sex wit ha 22 year old!?
I am not sure that I fully understand what happened, which is totally okay. I am not sure what you mean by 'her acting out'. Most children who are molested, especially by a family member, feel shame and are made to feel that is their fault. Maybe the uncle said, it's your fault because you are so pretty or you wore that short skirt. Put yourself in your sisters shoes. She told you that it happened because she wants you to protect her. Tell your parents now. Right now. Go wake them up if they are sleeping. You need to tell the people in your sister's life who are supposed to protect her so they can do their job. Best of luck to you both. EDIT: I read this again, so her acting out is the sex with the 22 yr old. And, yes. It can totally be from her molestation. Advice is still the same. Tell your parents so your sister can get help.