My 12 year old little sister just lost her virginity last night to a 16 year old. Help?
I'm 15 and my little sister is 12. I had my friend stay the night with me last night and my sister had two of her friends stay the night. Me and my friend were planning on going to this huge party but my mom ended up saying no. We stayed at my house and ended up just playing poker with my sis and her friends and everything was fine. But then later, someone called my sisters friend. It was a guy who was a grade younger than me, a freshman. I knew him pretty well, he is a druggy and a major douche bag. He hits his girlfriend and has slept with so many people. He said he was at the party and was coming to our house. I hate his guts so I didnt want him to come. But my sister liked him so she said he could come. He showed up and we had to stay outside so my parents wouldnt hear his loud, deep, voice. He was high as ****. Then my sister randomly said she wanted to go polar plunging in the sound near our house. I didnt want to go because its in the middle of Feb. So me and my friend and one of my sissters friends stayed at home. THey didnt come back for a while, then the other one got back. She said they left her and they were going behind peoples houses. We went looking for them and couldnt find them for an hour or so. THen he finally called us bak and said he just dropped her off. We asked her what happened and at first she said they didnt do anything. But then she finally told us that he gave her extacy and they had sex. She acted like it was nothing but shes only 12! Her friend started crying and the other one asked her if she used a condom. She said she though she heard him use one. thats it. My mom doesnt know a thing and i cant tell her. I wont tell her. But i kindof want to. But i dont want to do that to my sister. my parents already think shes a whore becuase she talks to alot of older guys. i am overwhelmed.
At what age do you think a dad and a daughter should not sleep in the same bed?
What age should daughters not be consistently sleeping in the same bed as their dad? My stepdaughter (almost 10 years old) sleeps in my husband’s bed whenever she is at his house unless I’m staying there that night. We don’t currently live together.Well, considering the fact that she is able to sleep alone when you’re staying the night, this shows that she isn’t necessarily afraid of sleeping alone. I do think that sometimes in a divorce situation that children can get very clingy. The situation doesn’t give me a good feeling. But I just don’t know how you can change this situation, being that you’re not living with this man. I think it might even be a bit of a red flag for me.Your stepdaughter is getting closer to puberty. Some girls start menstruating when they are 10. Wouldn’t she find that embarrassing if she were sharing a bed with her father when this happens? They should both have privacy. But somehow I doubt whether anything you can say will change your partner’s mind.I just reread your question and realized this man is your husband. Well, for whatever reason, you’re not living with him, so I guess you don’t have as much say in the matter as you would if you were married and living together.
Brothers & sisters in the same bath...when to stop?
Tell their father that she needs to shower on her own. She is getting old enough to realize the differences and she needs privacy. Daddy should not be washing her at this point, she should be washing herself, (maybe he can help with the hair). to the lady who said her son and daughter, 6 and 8, a 6 yr old girl 8 year old boy should absolutely NOT bathe together.
If my 3 year old daughter asks if my dad is sleeping even though he's dead. What should I answer and how would it affect her?
The realities of life are real. It's important for children to understand life and that people die; to be honest with them. However, you know your child and her emotions, etc. so it would be presumptuous of me to expound on what you should or shouldn't do. At best I can offer suggestions.I had a sister that died from a brain tumor at the age of five. I myself was very young when she passed. My mother didn't allow me or my sisters to attend the funeral because she didn't know what our reaction would be given our age. Her explanation to us was that our sister had gone to heaven. We asked question and eventually came around to the realization that she wasn't coming home anymore.My sister was part of my life and I cared deeply for her so naturally I missed her being around. I recall dealing with sullen emotion for some time; although, I didn't fully understand what I was experiencing.Its difficult to expound on how anyone, especially a child as young as 3, might feel and respond when someone close is no longer around. We can observe outward actions indicating what might be going on inside someone however, we can't actually know what's taking place inwardly especially when one is too young to express feelings.I recommend getting a book that might help a 3 year old gain understanding of death. I'm providing you with the title of one such book below. It is recommended for ages 1-2. There are numerous books out there that are age appropriate.It is titled: Someone I loved DiedBy: Christine Harder TangvaldMy deepest condolences to you and your daughter!
My step-daughter hurts my 3 year old (which is her half sister)and teaches her bad things...?
Basically I would take the lead and tell hubby that he needs to support you with your decision making in this progress. I know EXACTLY what your talking about as i have a 3yr old daughter and my 7 yr old stepdaughter is the same except not as physical as yours. I would firstly sit her down and tell her that this is going to stop RIGHT NOW and that whatever she gets away with at her mothers house, aint nessercarily going to fly at your house. I would introduce a naughty board (sounds pathetic i know but it works! my 4yr old stepson HATES the naughty board because whenever he gets a cross on it, it takes ssoooo much effort to get it off- i make him sort clothes, clean the lounge etc) and each time she misbehaves, I would give her a cross and cut off ALL the fun activities she can do (ie no xbox playstation tv computer etc) until she has earnt the right to remove the X off the naughty board by doing chores and good deeds. I would make it so that all the family members are on it regardless of age (my 2yr old son is on it too but rarely gets X's and my hubby and i are too for doing things that we're not supposed to ie. leaving bread on bench etc) so that your 3 yr old gets to understand that when she does the naughty things to her younger sibling, she has to work her butt off to get privilages too! Be strict on the girl and i mean super super strict when it comes to the safety of your daughter. With such a huge age difference, the 11yr old could do some serious damage to your daughter and you don't want it to get out of hand. As for the taunting, remind her that she and your daughter have the same father but even though her mum & dad split; it doesnt mean that she can treat him or her new family like dirt beneath her shoe. Tell her that if she doesnt pull her socks up you will STOP doing the supportive and nice things you do for her (as will her father and get his support on this) and she will have to deal with it until she changes the way she treats everyone. Personally it sounds to me that she is bitter because daddy has a new daughter and she isnt flavour of the week all the time. This attitude may by helped along by her mother so be careful and goodluck!
Should a 11 year old girl sleep with her dad?
I use to sleep with my mom until I was 14 when she passed away, but I wouldn't sleep with her every night just when I didn't feel good, or couldn't fall asleep in my own bed, and i think something like that is perfectly okay, but for her to sleeping with him every night while she is there, i think you're right about that one she is to old, I also think you have a very good idea on approaching it with having him go in her room with her until she falls asleep, maybe when it's time for her to go to bed, have him lay in her bed until she falls asleep and than leave the room and when she wakes up praise her for doing such a good job sleeping in her own room ... that may seem like something to do for someone who is younger, but it might help with her too since she is having problems sleeping on her own, you could also try making up a reward system where you get a borde or something and some stickers and she gets a sticker for each night she sleeps in her own room, and once she gets so many stickers she gets a reward, by doing that it might make it fun or worth it to her, and she might not want to sleep with her daddy as much since she will be rewarded for sleeping in her own room by herself, if she feels she is being "left out" because of the new baby, see if she wants to help out with somethings, whether it's talking to him/her when fussy to calm them down or going to get you a bottle or diaper, make her your helper, she might like being involved and being a part in taking care of the baby, also make a big deal about how specail it is to be a big sister, and when she helps you with something make a remark about what a good big sister she is... it might make her feel better and i'm sure a little bit of extra help wouldn't bother you either lol ... good luck & hope this helps
My step dad abuses my mum, please help.?
Well basically my dad and mum spit up when i was about 7 and they didn't even sleep in the same bed for 3 years, so anyways he moved out then i was with my older & younger brother and my little sister. Then my mum met this guy and he abuses her and me and my brothers and sister but he hits my mum and i hate him and he hates me. He said if we ever call the police on him then he will kill my mum and i don't want to loose my mum, what should i do please help? Btw im only 14 and i cant live with my dad because he lives far away. p.s: This is from my best friend she just doesn't have a yahoo account so she wanted me to put this up for her, thank you everyone.
What do you think of a father and son sleeping in the same bed until the son is sixteen years old?
The boy is now 16 years old, and I would expect to have had his own bed a long time ago. That said this is a divorce situation where the father is probably sleeping in a one bedroomed apartment, therefore probably only one bed, which is a double bed.If there is no sofa for the lad to sleep on (an sleeping in a chair is not comfortable) then I don’t see why that should be an issue. It would appear from the qualification of the question, that the “boy” has been “dry”; i.e. not wet the bed for six years, so that issue seems to be resolved.Since it is every other week end and therefore probably only 3 nights at best, that means 3/14 nights. That really cannot justify a single bed just for that time period, particularly if it is a 1 bedroomed apartment. If the (I assume) double bed, nearly fills the room, the only other option would be to have two single (twin) beds in the same room the only issue would be the positioning of the beds and the spare space for them to both get to the bedroom door.Certainly, at Christmas time, when my sister, brother -in-law and aunt came to stay with my parents, who only had a three bedroomed bungalow, my sister and Brother in Law slept in one double bed, my Mother and Aunt in the other double bed; and my father and I slept on the sofa’s in the living room.Since this is a semi-temporary arrangement, I do not really see an issue, there is hardly incest going on ! Even if it was mother and son sleeping in a double bed for two nights, I don’t think that given the circumstances there would be an issue. In any case, there is the other option of the lad sleeping on a sofa in a bunk type set up with sheets and duvet, if he does not want to sleep in the same bed as his father.As for the bed-wetting issue; I don’t see that it is one, since the 16 year old has been dry for six years.If they are happy to share a bed then that is fine, if it was mother/son and it was a permanent arrangement, perhaps my view wold be different.