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How can I cope with an identity crisis at age 22?

I think what you r experiencing is a very common identity crisis-call it what you will- that happens around this age. For many it's around the first time of not having your life structured for you through either parents or school. So it's only natural to question WHO AM I ? without all these trappings, expectations, and structure.It reminds me of that cliche Chinese symbol that represents both Crisis and Opportunity. You can take this feeling of crisis and turn it into an opportunity to explore and discover perhaps new aspects of yourself that haven't been tapped up until now.You're still quite young. Don't freak out. Use this time as mentioned for learning and exploring. Yes you are a young adult and as such have to figure out how and to support self. And be moving towards your fuller identity that helps choose an approp mate, IF that's a direction you choose.But keep in mind you and we all are allowed to make mistakes along the way—-and we do. Because most of our choices we have to make with incomplete information. So we learn.Try to enjoy this phase of your life so that you won't look back and think I wish I had explored this, that, or the other (safely, plz) before “settling down” w either a choice of mate or career or both .

Do all teens have an identity crisis?

Yes. This is perfectly normal. You are not weird, you are normal. Teenage years bring along change. Lots of change. Kids' sexual orientation, personality, interests, and career choices will flourish at this point. At this time you will be unsure about everything. But that's okay, because this is also the time when you will really become YOU. What that means is that as the teenage years pass everything will begin to seem clear and at the end of the period your whole person will have suffered a metamorphosis. This is a necessary part of everyone's life. You will be fine, believe me. Hope this helps. Best of wishes! (:

How do I get over this identity crisis?

I'm not qualified to make a psychosocial judgement, nor could I make one based simply on what you have told me. Still, to me it doesn't sound like you are facing a classic psychological identity crisis, more that a series of decision points have come up in your life (as they do) and you have made choices, at least some of which have disappointed you. I know it doesn't help to say it but - trust me - this is not uncommon!You are probably on the right path in seeking therapy and having an internal dialogue with yourself on what you really want from life. Setting achievable goals and sticking to them through to completion would probably reap satisfaction for you. Dealing with "unfinished" stuff would help, even if it means parking the less achievable ideas for as long as needed.Talking it through with family and close friends can't hurt, too, even if you choose another path. Ultimately though you have to decide what really matters and stick with it, at least until you know that you have "given it a proper go". That means focusing on your goals, but not to the exclusion of your family and friends. Keeping a balance is important, too.

I'm 17 and having an identity crisis?

Just the fact that your confused on who you really are means your still going thru changes in life. Life is an experiment and it seems your still finding your self. Everyone makes mistakes but life is full of mistakes. What's important is how you repond to these events and how you go on. If your not someone who parties hard then its just not you. I hope you well in finding your identity and know that just begin to look at who you are and your values. Your defined by you and only you.

I'm having a identity crisis, can anyone help me find who I am?

Sometimes people adopt a child with the best of intentions. But good intentions aren’t enough. Feeling failure as parents they blame the child rather than question their own parenting skills.You also describe a failure for these people to form an attachment with you. Not being able to bond, they again blame you as somehow being defective. And now that they have branded you as defective they can reject you and avoid any guilt or accountability. You become persona non grata- literally, ‘the person is not appreciated”.I am trying to read between the lines and so my observations are tentative and quite possibly inaccurate. However, I am describing a dynamic that I have seen a number of times. A variation is the family keeping the adopted youth for no reason other than “the state check” they receive every month.You mention an identity crisis. This possibly is the difficulty you could have in trying to reconcile the negativity and rejection you have felt from this family with your own sense of self as being worthy of love and acceptance. Rejection is a core issue- it effects us to the marrow. As kids we always feel as if we are at fault for the adults’ actions. Rather than just feeling unloved, we feel unlovable.You said you seek salvation: deliverance from the pain, being able to calm down the the nagging guilt and the attendant sorrow and self-recrimination. The wish to be saved.I hope you see therapy as a good option. Any action that puts you with people who like and praise you will help the healing. Medication is another option that you could explore with a doctor. Some work with a minister or priest. Exercise, taking classes, yoga, mindfulness, volunteer work, sports, etc., etc. Whatever makes us feel better.In part, I think salvation is primarily from within. In order to be saved, we have to believe that we are worthy of being saved. We can’t let an unjust childhood determine the rest of our life. We have to move on.

Identity Crisis -- Bisexuality or being OCD?

Okay, I'm going to try to explain this as thoroughly as possible. I did post another question similar to this about a week ago if you had happened to see that, but I've realized something since then.

I'm a young teenager. My whole life I've worried about becoming things. For example, if I was to watch a bunch of murder mysteries I would think I was becoming a serial killer (haha, I know). I also used to think about dying way too much, and I would cry thinking I was going to get cancer (I've gotten over that, though).

So, for the past two years or so, when I first began to hear a lot about gays/lesbians, I pretty much got paranoid I was becoming one. I have absolutely NOTHING against homosexuals. I used to, but then I grew to respect them.

But in the last month, my friend came out as being bisexual, and since then every time I look at a girl thinking she's pretty, I pretty much go insane thinking I'm becoming lesbian or bisexual.

And being a young teen, I obviously can't really grasp what it would be like to marry a guy. When I think about that, I then wonder if it's because I'm lesbian and was 'born to marry the same sex.' Even though I would definitely, completely rather kissing a male than a female.

I don't know really what my issue is. I do have pretty severe OCD, but that's more like with things having to be straight and letters and numbers i write needing to be close. I'm not sure if that's what's contributing to this problem, but I'm guessing it does.

I'm asking if you think, based off this information I've provided, I'm bisexual or lesbian or it's just me worrying? And if it's just me worrying, how can I learn to stop?

Oh, and by the way, I don't want you to be like "GET HELP YOU'RE A MESS" or something, that'll like kill my self esteem. I'm just looking for some advice.

Do male ladybugs have an identity crisis?

Yes. Much like short men with a Napolean complex, male ladybugs have significant insecurities. A lot of anger issues. It's why they fly into roasting hot objects like lightbulbs instead of landing on cooler items.

The politically correct term nowadays is Manbugs. Tell your friends.

How can you tell if a teenager is going through an identity crisis?

An identity crisis is the following:“period of uncertainty and confusion in which a person's sense of identity becomes insecure, typically due to a change in their expected aims or role in society.”Upon observation of peers, I can conclude the following:They don't like being asked about themselves. This is because they don't know themselves. I have seen people try to change the topic or avoid questions like this all together. Some have premade responses as well.Their relationships/friendships don't last very long, or they change social circles a lot.They withdraw from normal activities. This is simple. They simply don't act the way they normally do at school, work, etc.They have suffered a loss of some sort. When you lose someone/something, you might be lost.They're easily bored to death. This is because they can't commit to anything such as sports, hobbies, etc. This is mostly due to the fact they don't want to end up doing something that might make life more miserable or can't decide what to do.An identity crisis can happen any age, and typically happens often to adolescents during puberty. So note that it normal for a teenager to have an identity crisis. Please also note that this might not be accurate as every person goes through a identity crisis quite differently. Good luck!(I may add more later as it is 1AM at the moment. But who knows? I might not.)