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Why does one in the autism spectrum have to walk on eggshells just to maintain friends?

Because neurotypical people only like sincerity, honesty and thoroughness as long as it suits them, their interests or their biases. An autistic on the other hand, tends to not perceive a need for affirming the opinions or interests of others. A neurotypical takes their perception for granted, never realizing just how many times a day they indulge in delusion simply because their delusions are shared; they perceive any behavior which doesn’t validate their idea of proper social or moral conduct as an attack on themselves or their values and will react accordingly.So for an autistic the options are either walking on eggshells or growing an extra thick skin; usually some combination of both.

Do you get tired of walking on egg shells when talking to other people?

It depends what you call “walking on eggshells”. The situation that instantly springs to mind is dealing with abusive people, having to watch every word so they do not turn their abuse towards you. I imagine this would indeed be tiring. However I try not to deal with abusive people, at least not in any capacity where they can cause harm in my life.In all other settings I try hard to understand people, make them comfortable and not say things that would be personally hurtful to them. I don't call this “walking on eggshells”, I call it trying to be a decent person. Sometimes when people say they don't want to “walk on eggshells” they really mean they want free rein to be an insensitive jerk.On the other hand, I will not pander merely to people's sense of offence. I will not tone down my essential beliefs simply because others dislike them. In this case I don't tire of treading on eggshells, because I refuse to do it.There are many times when I feel I cannot say something I want to say because I do not want to face the other person's difficult, but reasonable, reaction. Or because I cannot predict their reaction and do not want to take a chance. This can be very frustrating. But it is my own issue. I do not have to be as cautious as I am. I choose to be so. I am bringing frustration upon myself.So, although I may feel this way, I recognise the majority of these “eggshell” situations are of my own making. It may be tiring, but saying I am “tired of it” implies that others are placing unreasonable demands on me. And (in most cases) I do not believe that to be true.

Do INFJs make people around them walk on egg shells?

It is possible but we mostly don’t do it on purpose. Here is why you might think that:INFJs can be quite intimidating, especially when they are observing and judging everything you do. However, to be honest, we just naturally like observing and listening. We do judge but doesn’t everyone else do it too. We honestly don’t mean to be intimidating.We sometimes ask difficult questions or make questionable comments, we don’t do it to spike or mock you, we genuinely are curious or speaking what is going on in our heads. You have stimulated our intellectual need.INFJs can be very quiet and “passive”, this might put people on edge because you don’t know how to react to our weird state.But in all honesty, we don’t mean to make people feel that way. We just either prefer to listen to what you have to say or make intelligent conversation with you. We do have an intense stare but that isn’t because we want to make you uncomfortable. Who knows, that INFJ might have an eye condition lol.In my opinion, as long as the INFJ is talking to you and making eye contact, that means they don’t mind your company or tolerating it. Either way, you are in the safe zone because it’s clear if I like you and if I didn’t

What is meant by "walking on pins and needles"?

It actually means a couple of things.The first meaning is related to “walking on eggshells.” Think of the floor being covered with pins and needles or eggshells. Now you’re going to walk across the floor in your bare feet. If you’re not careful, you might get some nasty little jabs… or worse. We use the expression to mean taking enough time and care to avoid damage. If someone else is very upset or prone to quarrel (or worse) we want to deal cautiously so they don’t jump down our throat.The other meaning expresses what it feels like to have your foot fall asleep and then walk on it. As blood flow returns to the foot, we feel little shocks that remind us of having pins and needles stuck into us. Why would you deliberately provoke or deepen such a sensation by trying to walk? Because the quicker you can restore normal blood flow, the sooner the nasty sensations will pass. Using the limb that’s fallen asleep helps restore blood flow, which is why we tend to flap an arm that’s fallen asleep.The pins and needles feeling is called paresthesia, and it’s provoked by pressure on or damage to peripheral nerves. Everyone’s felt temporary paresthesia. Falling asleep with your head on your arm, for example, causes pressure. Chronic paresthesia is generally caused by traumatic nerve damage, neurological disease, nerve entrapment disorders like carpal tunnel or central nervous system disorders. So strokes, encephalitis, brain or spinal cord tumors, and multiple sclerosis can all cause this disorder.This reminds me of the time my autistic son had his arm fall asleep. It totally freaked him out to suddenly find it had gone numb, but then he became so intrigued with the process of it “waking up” that he forgot all about being freaked. It’s a nice lesson for anyone to learn. Engaging the logical part of your brain—which can start by simply being interested—can help you manage your emotions.

Why do some Americans call black people "African-Americans", even if they have never been in America at all?

I'm editing my answer because the question has been edited several times with substantially different implications for the meaning each time.  Originally the question asked why Americans "tend to" call non-American Black people African-Americans.  I.e., it posited that most Americans do this.  Which is part of the reason my original answer contained the anger that it did -- because that was an incorrect, overbroad generalization, suggesting that most Americans are too incompetent to realize that Blacks outside of the U.S. are not, well, Americans.Then the question was edited to ask why "very few" Americans do this; much better.  Now it's edited again to ask why "some" Americans do this; so now we're getting into subtler shades of quantity.  I have no idea how long this editing will go on, so I'm going to answer the current incarnation: "Why do some Americans call black people African-Americans, even if they have never been in America at all?"And the answer to that question is that anybody who does this is of course mistaken.  Why do they mistakenly do this?  Who knows?  One of the commenters said he himself has done it accidentally.  That makes sense; humans make mistakes when they speak sometimes.  Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.  To suggest, as some of the other answerers do, that this bespeaks an unhealthy obsession with political correctness or some sort of neo-Imperialist worldview... just doesn't make any sense.

What must one do to not be labeled as “racist”? I have to walk on eggshells around any SJW I meet and nothing I do is good enough. Aren’t minority citizens the real racists if they stereotype every white person as a racist just because they’re white?

I live and practice law in a very diverse part of the country. I am in constant contact with people from various ethnic, racial, and religious groups. I don’t walk on eggshells around people who are different than me. I don’t believe I am regarded as a racist by anyone. I certainly don’t do or say anything that could be construed as racist.Its not hard to not be labeled a racist. Treat everyone with respect and listen to them. You don’t have to agree with them about everything. You do have to avoid making broad stereotypical statements.I also don’t understand the SJW comment. Perhaps it’s because I am not in college or a teacher. Perhaps it’s because I’m an older lawyer, and I’m not confronted. It’s also possible that I never discuss politics with people I don’t know (outside a curated site, like Quora.) Politics is so fraught that you will be attacked for your opinion, whatever it is. I think that’s harmful to our democracy, but it’s a fact.Minorities can be racist. It’s pretty much human to stereotype and be racist. It takes a conscious effort not to be racist, but the effort can become ingrained. However, black people are no more prone to be racist than white people. In fact, I believe many black people tend to try not to be racist, because they know how much it hurts. We white people are oblivious and cannot begin to imagine the crap African-Americans are subject to on a daily basis.