My husband doesn't want me to work or go to college?
My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years, and we have two boys (2 and 1 yr olds). He works at the mccarren airport fixing the x-ray machines as an E.T. For the past almost 3 years now, I have been a stay at home mom, and I hate not accomplishing anything! Spending 24/7 with the kids is nice, but I feel...stuck. He works third shift so he's gone from 6pm-3am, and sleeps until about 12pm noon. Every time I try to talk to my husband about me working or going to college, he always thinks of some excuse so that I can't. "Who will watch the kids?" I suggested a baby sitter so he can still get sleep, but he said no because he doesn't want us to 'not be around for them'. I suggested I go to community college online from home, he said no because I would ignore the kids, I said I would do it only at nap time & bed time, and he said it's too much money (it's only $1700 for 2 years because I have a scholarship) even though he makes about $45k/yr and only half goes to the mortgage and bills. (I said I would put the $1700 back into our savings once I started working, he still said no) He says I'm being selfish because I want to actually do something with my life. He says that I should wait til the kids are in kindergarten, but I told him my scholarship expires in 2 years and itd be too late, so then he says I should wait a year til our youngest is 2. It feels like he just doesn't want me to do ANYTHING but sit on my *** all day in front of the t.v. No matter what I suggest, HE FINDS A REASON for me to stay home with the kids. He wants me to be completely dependent on him, but that bothers me. It didn't at first but if God forbid something happened to him, I would be SCREWED and that terrifies me. I need to do something for myself, don't you think?? I want to do something with my life, I want to be successful, and he says 'well you should've thought about that before you had kids.' as if the KIDS are the reason I can't do anything...they're not, it's HIM that keeps telling me no!! What the hell am I supposed to do?? I need to have a life of my own, not just him and the kids alone. Please help me find a way to make that happen!!
I am scared, my husband wants to join the military?
well honey let me tell you t his, he will not get a job in the military that he won't deploy or have a 9-5 job, i have been an AF wife for 5 years now (i'll be 26 in June) and i was dating my husband when he told me he want to join, i cried, i begged him not go, ( i was in a previous relationship with a guy in the army and he changed after he joined) i thought the same thing was going to happen with my husband (then boyfriend), he basically said i will undersand if you don't want to be with me anymore but i would love it if you would, well i was already in love with him and it would have been selfish for me not to let him follow his dreams, this is something he always wanted to do and i would follow him to the ends of the earth to be with him, i didn't know anything about military life, the Air Force is the most civilian like service, but they still do deploy, not for a year like the army but from 2-6 months at a time, you get great benefits, many companies have military discounts, you become very independent, the deployments do not get easier but they do get more manageable, i don't have kids yet but their is SO much support on the military bases from other wives who know exactly what you are going through, and your wrong, your husband is going to miss you and his babies as much as you would, he won't want to be away from you guys, but their is a good thing about being in a military marriage, you appreciate each other way more then civilian couples, i know i was one! and when my husband gets deployed and i pick him up from the base when he gets home, i get butterflies in my stomach when i see him coming off the plane and its like falling in love with him all over again, they do make descent money, and we he gets deployed he will bring home extra money, don't live paycheck to paycheck like you are doing, the military is not as bad as you think, you get to shop at the commissary (base grocery store) where everything is much cheaper and you don't pay sales tax on items! when you live on base you don't pay rent or utilities! you will probably travel to more countries then most people do in their lifetime, if you have any more questions my e-mail is jesirhoton@yahoo.com, good luck hon, don't worry, its an adventure you'll never forget and if you don't want to do it after 4 years you can get out and your husband will have military experience on his resume which is what employers LOVE!
Why are people always hating on teen moms?
I am becoming a mother in 2 months. Now I'm 16. I'm a JR and the remainder of my school will be finished online. I have a good job. I have a lot of babysitting on top of raising my sisters for experience. I honestly can't wait for my daughter to arrive. I have a good running 4-door 6 seater truck... Yes the argument "You should enjoy YOUR life before having another to take care of." Well, honestly...I think i wouldn't be straightened out if it wasn't for getting pregnant. I'm going to take care of my daughter. I have all the equipment. I have $1, 000 saved up Her father and I have been together for 2 years and we have a great relationship. So will you people quit telling me to go for adoption??? Some teen moms grow up, instead of the opposite.
I have a comfortable job in India, should I move to Canada?
If you have a comfortable life in India then there is no need of migrating to CANADA.Problems you will face:7 - 8 months of winter with 3 months it is freezing and only 2 - 4 months mild summer with maximum temperature 30 degrees. Temperature varies between -40 degrees to 30 degrees. It is a cold country. People say you have to dress up in layers but I would say cold is cold, till the time you are inside you are OK but when you are outside people want to get in.You have to leave your parents and extended family members. Your parents will never be able to adjust there. You will be missing majority of family gatherings that you enjoy in India. Travelling is very costly, time consuming and leaves are also limited for working professionals.Rents are higher, most of your savings will go into your setup and incase you buy a house which everyone does after couple of years you are blocked for 20 years. This is a trap of most developed countries.Look for the job market and payment in your field because minimum wage rate in Canada is very less. I have couple of friends doing 2–3 jobs to paying for their mortgage. They are working 15–16 hours for 6 days a week just to pay the loan.Chances of Divorce are very high in Canada. As per reports 40% of immigrants get divorced in spending 10 years in CANADA. This lead to financial crash for most people. Society of most developed countries are individualistic and people bear their own expenses, in case one partner had a long term finance problem or disease they just quit the relationship. It’s not like India where even one person is earning and the whole family can enjoy on that.Due to extreme cold and lack of sunlight people start developing new diseases such as depression (SAD), deficiency of various vitamins which lead to other problems.Medical system in Canada is good till the time you have a basic problem like cold, cough, fever, basic infection which a normal MBBS can handle. However, when you need a specialist they will charge you 300 - 400$ per visit and waiting time could be 2 months to 8 months depending on doctor’s experience and demand. That’s why people go back to India for medical treatments. My friends mother developed Cancer as she was unable to adjust in the climate and then they came back for getting the treatment in INDIA.Unfortunately, life is not as flashy as it seems in pictures or university booklets. If you have a peaceful life in India do not even think of moving to CANADA.
Which country is best to study in: Canada or Australia?
Canada Education Pros:Higher education systems in Canada and the US are designed specifically to accommodate professionals, While in US getting jobs might be easy the minimum wage is quite low, its neighbour to the north leads the continent in highest minimum wage within more than 14$ per hour state announced minimum and most firms offering at least 16 to 18 $ as an average minimum wage.Australian Education Pros:Higher education systems in Australia can be defined in two major sectors Streamline educational institutions and other institutes.It is very important in Australian where you get your education from , if you are educated in a streamline institute than your employment chances are 70% higher than those educated from other institutes.The minimum wage is similar to Canada and so are the working hours that is 20 to 22 hours per week but the average salary is among the highest in the world = $48000 AUDTips for living abroad:Universities and Colleges have student bodies and councils which help out international and local students get jobs in local businesses. things which can make your life a lot easier abroad are:1: Keep your finances under strict check. Remember you have travel more than 6000 kms for a better life not partying or booze.2: Act smartly and react cautiously, although Canada is a very peaceful place it is highly advisable to live and work in a multicultural environment.3: Street smartness and hands-on-thinking will take you a long way forward.For further details and much in depth guidance I would advise you to approach these firms:www.workandlivecanada.comWork and Live in Australiawww.hhelios.com