How do I know if a person has told me the truth?
Thank you for the A2A.I have no sciency answer or special techniques for spotting a liar. So in a certain sense you can never know 100% if your being lied to. However, I do have some suggestions that should aid in receiving the truth far more often than many other people.Be a truthful and honest person. If you're a notorious liar many people will not feel bad about lying to you in return. If you are honest, people who are inclined to lie may feel more guilty about lying to you. They may even decide to tell you the truth.Be someone people can be honest to. If you are someone who only wants “yes men” in your life, that is what you shall get. Do you have an explosive temper? People may be afraid to tell you the truth. Do you regularly seek revenge? People will lie to protect others from you.Does someone regularly lie to you? Cut them out of your life. If that is not possible limit the amount of responsibility and trust that you give them. Never give that person levarage.Does your boss regularly lie to you? Find another job.If you catch a loved one lying to you talk it out. Figure out why they lied to you. Do they truly feel safe with you?Are you in a position of power? Recognize the fact that many people will lie to you to protect their jobs, receive recognition, promotions, and raises. If you catch someone lying do not advance them into leadership. If you do it won't take long before the whole organization will be ran by liars.If you do these things you will have good reasons to believe you are generally being told the truth.
Why do people get upset when someone tells the truth?
I believe it's completely subjective and dependent on the lie told and the truth that was being covered.Psychologically speaking, deception has been with us for ages, an evolutionary trait that we developed as a survival skill when we began socializing with each other. The ability to give a different statement in order to receive a different result.However lying has achieved another purpose, that is a defense mechanism to protect us from what we’re trying to hide. Maybe to protect our honor/ego. Maybe to protect someone. Maybe to appear to be a certain way, and that shows an individual in a different light.When people lie for these reasons, they risk their name, their reputation and trust from other people in order to hide something, usually a fear response. Being forcefully exposed and forced to face that fear is not a friendly experience and this causes a dissonance, the lying individual is emotionally hurt for having been exposed. Whether they should have or shouldn't have doesn't compute in the individual’s formula for feeling hurt, what matters is that they risked their name, and lost it.Anyone that would undergo such an experience will be angry, seemingly with others, but mostly with themselves for having lied in the first place.
Should we tell the truth even if we know it might hurt the other person?
I have found the error and substance of conveying to others in words the “truth” and have seen both sides of its effect. Most people don’t want to hear the truth much less speak it. The TRUTH is an absolute word and so it can be both objective and subjective.Every time a word is spoken it carries the force of thought. Hmmm, you say, a thought isn’t very strong? But remember thoughts are things. It’s a creator and a destroyer, can conquer and divide, injures and heals. It is through what you utter out of your mouth that creates the truth others see and feel.The truth is both a security, and the promotion of its flip-side, an insecurity. Humans have built personal and collective empires by this word we call the truth, but this same truth has destroyed lives and decimated areas of the earth.Truth, like Love or Hate, is a word. The power you give to it depends on how it is applied. Sometimes the greatest Truths are spoken without words. Throws a whole new twist to this truth, in the beginning was the Word.If you really want to help another person with the truth, share their feelings.
Can I get arrested for not telling police the whole truth about who raped me?
First of all, I am very sorry that you were raped. It is an awful awful thing to happen to anyone, and you don't need people here judging you when you were the victim of a crime. I doubt that the police will prosecute you for further protecting yourself against more harm. Without being in your situation, we don't know what the absolute right thing to do could be. what's done is done, and although I wish you could have told the police the truth, you were scared and now you probably feel even more confused and afraid. What I hope is that you call someone who you can talk to - you might not think so now, but being raped is a very traumatic event and I believe you could really use someone WHO UNDERSTANDS to talk to. You are a victim here, no one can understand how awful this experience is without being through it. Here is the a website for a national rape crisis center where you can get immediate free, anonymous and 'live chat" help - please chat with them them and tell them what happened - and hey are professionals who can help you. Take care of yourself - find support from others and I hope you will heal from this horrible experience. http://apps.rainn.org/ohl-bridge/ https://ohl.rainn.org/online.rainn.org/ Access the Online Hotline - Free. Confidential. Always Available. Anyone call also call toll free NATIONAL SEXUAL ASSAULT HOTLINE: 800-656-HOPE (4673) If you are in immediate danger, CALL 911
Do you think it is better to tell the truth and hurt someone's feelings or tell a little lie to keep from hurting the person?
Since i was a child, i was always told to be honest and tell the truth even if my life depended on it. On the other hand, I've lied a lot. I've lied to my parents, to my friends, to my colleagues, to the ones I've loved. I have lived the life of a liar. I was in my early 20's working for a Big Four Accounting firm. I was having the time of my life. I needed to take a vacation for a week but it was a busy period for the firm and i knew i wouldn't get the time off. So i lied. I took an emergency leave. It was impossible to get that week off without lying, so i did it. When i came back to work, things were different. My senior manager had a meeting with me, asked me to be honest with him and tell him what the real reason was that i needed that week off... i lied to him even though he already knew where i was courtesy of one of the firms employees who had seen me partying with a group of people in an another city. I was oblivious to the fact that he was just checking me at that time but that lie cost me that job.Over the years i have realized a lot about being honest. One thing about telling the truth is, you may hurt people in the process, sometimes scar them for life if they are emotionally unstable or weak but you should always try and be honest. Lying is easy. It is so easy that we don't even think before lying anymore, or what the long term consequences of that lie may be.People ask if they should be honest in their relationship even if being honest might break the relationship. They ask if one should be honest at work even if they might lose their job. If they should be honest to their friend about his/her negative traits or something they really dislike.The answer is yes. With the truth you will feel at peace, spiritually. Its hard, but its worth it. Try it.So my friend, be honest, you will hurt them now instead of hurting them later."Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth"-Buddha
What happens if all people say the truth?
First direct manifestation of everyone speaking the truth would be an increase in CERTAINTY… in short, most things dependent on humanity would become a certainty… this would then spread onto everything else directly affected by people speaking the truth…Now, people will tell you the world would become a harsh place… that everyone would be just rude and there would be an increase in the use of psychologists, because many of us are not ready to handle the truth and so on… BUT, this is the usual naive thinking…Here’s how I see it (will try keep this short)… in order to give credible answers to such questions, one must study Who We Truly Are… to begin, we are intelligent, self-aware beings, growing in our consciousness… we are also the body, the emotions, the intellect and the metaphysical (so-called spirit)… consciousness inherently seeks growth, so there’s only ONE WAY for us to go… and since we know there’e ONLY ONE WAY for humanity, why not embrace it?… of course, we don’t just jump of the cliff and see what happens… we Responsibly and Efficiently co-create the path that we walk… we take it step by step… essentially, we MUST INVEST into education… teach emotional intelligence at all levels of formal and professional education… design necessary study programs for our leaders and politicians… promote spiritual growth etc… in short, get ourselves ready for the truth… and, of course, make sure everyone understands the basics…First, truth is RELATIVE… it’s relative to various cultures and our power to accurately perceive the world and the self…Second, speaking the truth doesn’t necessarily mean UNDERSTANDING the truth… we can have possession of data, but we may not understand or be aware of the meaning and the many responsibilities… (again, think politicians…)Third, understanding doesn’t help much unless we transform knowledge into RIGHT ACTION… and right action requires Responsibility and Efficiency… it requires physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual aspects of our being-ness working in unison…PS: I wrote everything above while thinking the real purpose of your question was slightly different… namely, what would happen if all people did what is RIGHT? …speaking TRUTH and doing what is RIGHT is a huge difference… however, this brings us to the dilemma of Right and Wrong and that’s already another debate…
Why do people think they can create truth?
The statement that the only absolute truth is that there is no absolute truth isn't a paradox- it's a load of crap. It conflicts because it's wrong. I have a tendency to fall back on pedophilia when trying to prove that there MUST be moral absolutes (and that they MUST come from something other than humans if they're absolutes). If you're willing to say that pedophilia is a-okay as long as the pedophile thinks it's okay, then I can't reason with you. If, however, you admit that pedophilia is wrong, then you're admitting to a moral absolute. I'm with you, nice girl. You can't create truth. You can only observe it or choose to turn away from it. There's no middle ground.
I'm absolutely afraid of God. What do I do? What am I gonna do?
If, when you spoke of "The prospect of being punished for my sins with an eternity in Hell" is taken seriously by you, then that means you admit you are a sinner, and that sin will be punished in hell. What you have to do with that knowledge is admit to God that you are a sinner, that He is right to require all sin to be punished, then to thank Him for sending Christ Jesus to bear that punishment, in your place. Put your faith (trust) in the finished work of Christ to have already dealt with your sin so that God is justified in giving you a free pardon because you look to Christ now. But, do you? Obviously not. Other statements you made show that you don't appreciate that God has already done for us sinners what we could never do to be delivered from hell. You have yet to receive by faith God's forgiveness. Once you do, all fear of hell will melt as you are washed in His cleansing love. You will know that nobody who ends up in hell will do so unjustly. You will know that God does not send little children to hell. You will stop being brainwashed by such caricatures of the ungodly who are out to tell lies about God. Do not stay in their ranks, for if you do, you will never know the truth about pardon from sins, and from hell. Finally, some wise words from the Christian, C.S. Lewis, with regard to your last statement, 'I want him to leave me alone'. - God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there. There can be no such thing. There are only two kinds of people in the end – those who say to God, ‘Thy will be done’ and those to whom God says, ‘Thy will be done.’ [Mere Christianity] People may not admit it, but they all know, deep down, that if God was to deal with them purely on the basis of divine justice and holiness, they would be damned. Without God's mercy / grace, we can only expect judgment. Evil people and unbelievers will receive God's justice. Believers who repent of evil will receive God's mercy. This is based on the principle in James 2:13 – “… judgment without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful. Mercy triumphs over judgment." God chose to show mercy through Christ bearing in His body the judgment of God for sin, so that we could be spared that judgment. Mercy and Justice kissed at the cross.