Isn't it offensive to ask someone if they are "legal" before hiring them?
Any time you have someone do yard work, housekeeping, tax preparation, etc you should get a W9 form filled out. The W9 is a "request for taxpayer identification" and ensures that you have done your part to verify legal status. You can get a copy here: http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/fw9.pdf If you spend over $500 per year with the same person, you should issue them a form 1099 so that they are required to claim the amount you paid them as income. How Do I Know When To Use Form W-9? Use Form W-9 to request the taxpayer identification number (TIN) of a U.S. person (including a resident alien) and to request certain certifications and claims for exemption.
If someone says or does something offensive and refuses to apologize for it, is it appropriate for me to cut him or her out of my life?
Yeah. He doesn’t respect you, and so do the same. Don’t acknowledge him, and carry on and be bubbly.The key is.. just because he’s a jerk doesn’t mean you have to be one too. You want people to “ like” you, and so.. “ be” you.Some people “ wont” like.. you continue to be “ good”. “ Doo good, and good will come to you”.An who cares if he doesn’t apologize. It’s him with the issues, and not you. I suggest yeah cutting him from your life, and be the bigger person.Because your conscience is cleared, and you have no problems. it isn’t your problem while others are mean.You shouldn’t worry about anything…if you didn’t do anything, and didn’t say anything then what are you worried about. It’s just not interested in liking you.So. Find people that do like you.Love,Angela
What's the term for when someone says something offensive to/about you but you aren't offended because you don't realize it was meant to be offensive?
If it was said sarcastically and you don’t understand sarcasm, it’s just a lack of understanding.If you are overthinking and wondering if something said as general conversation meant something far more ominous than you realize, it might be overthinking.If you get instantly offended when someone says something to you that you don’t understand, it means there’s a lack of communication.Usually, it’s just something most people can let go, but those of us who overthink end up ruminating about it.
Is it rude to put your hand in someones' face? It's offensive isn't it?
if someone puts their hands in your face doing the ( I'm not touching you, I'm not touching you) thing not only is that annoying, but isn't that offensive to put your hands in someones' area? Or if you just plain put your hands in someones' face to get them all charged up, that 's a threat, right. I'm not saying that I wrote the handbook on manners but I think that's rude.
Why people say "no offense" then say something offensive?
My point is that I am quite sure that many people say this fully well intending to "offend." To say something like, "No offense, but you're just an idiot" is clearly offensive. To say "no offense" in that case is just to make it sound like you are such a great polite person when in reality you are being rude and inconsiderate. I know it can be used in a benign way, such as in the blonde scenario a poster gave. But this is not the way I hear it used a lot. Instead I hear people saying it in such a way that when the listener IS offended, he/she may actually end up feeling not only offended, but then feeling like a weak person for BEING offended!
If something is true then isn't that what matters instead of someone's opinion that it's offensive?
Truth has depth. The depth here involves understanding the truth about the impact of your words and how they make other’s feel.Truth vs falsehood is clearly a noble cause — almost too clear. And if you know you’re right, then you know you’re on the right side of this battle. What could go wrong? You’re a hero.However, this is still placing yourself on a high ground and you’re still looking to slay your opponent. You’re still on offense, forcing them to defend themselves. And — if you’re right — to be slain.This is clearly offensive.If this were a duel, then so be it. They know what they’re in for. In academia or times of war, fine.But in everyday life? Among friends? Among strangers?Why are you trying to be the hero?Why are you even fighting?Being right is easy if you’re smart and easy if you’re delusional. But your motives are inherently selfish regardless. You seeking to stand above. It’s arrogant and narcissistic. It’s merciless righteousness of a mercenary. It’s being a fucking asshole. You’re a villain.Which is worse? A villain that is wrong or a villain that is right?The truth does matter, but people matter more.This is empathy. And with empathy, the goal no longer becomes just about right and wrong. It becomes about finding common ground, being open minded, and seeking to amend your differences.Don’t murder them.You could still walk away.Being right is easy, but peace is hard. It helps if they feel you love them, and it helps if you truly do. But this is impossible if you can’t or don’t or won’t.Have a heart greater than the truth.Who is the hero now?
What's the best way to respond to someone who says something rude/offensive, and when confronted they say, "Just kidding.”/“Don't take things too seriously."?
In a group/social setting:Raise your eyebrows really high and just go, “Really?”Look expectantly at the person, waiting for an answer. Keep waiting. S/he will get uncomfortable and probably say something like “Yeah?”Then say, nonchalantly, “Oh, because that was really rude. Luckily you were just kidding though, lol.”Then look away from that person and address someone else, as if that person was no longer of concern.They will get off the hook and nothing especially bad will happen to them, but it’ll stop them from messing with you and you effectively put yourself in an elevated position.My favourite though is if it’s a personal dig at me, I’ll make a personal dig at them, and then go, “Just kidding HAHA” In a much louder voice. Make sure to perfectly echo the other person. This is much more petty though haha.