WHY are majority of women so needy and desperate?
women who are insecure and needing love 24/7 are probably those who lack attention and love when they were a child from their parents or acceptance among their peers. it is a vacuum that is left which they seek and hope their perfect man can fulfil. but then alas, we know no one is perfect and it is an issue they have to resolve themselves else they be seeking love for the wrong reasons and wrong places.
Why are women attracted to men that treat them bad?
Aww, I hope you have recovered well from your other experience first before you encountered this co-worker =( I honestly don't know why we prefer "mean" guys over nicer men, but I guess it's kind of like asking why men like the chase rather than girls who just fall into their arms. Women feel good treating others nicely, and the more we do it (we have to treat others well until they treat us back it feels like) the better we feel about ourselves. If a guy is constantly nice to us, we might feel good momentarily, but we feel better if we're the one's giving and nuturing. If a man is mean to us, we feel the need to right the wrong (keep giving until it hurts, just to see if it helps) and while doing so we gain some kind of attraction to the person. It's kind of like if you're always giving someone presents, you're going to grow fonder and more used to them. If you're on the recieving end always, you'll be happy for a while maybe, but you'll get bitter and bored. Women are much more satisfied giving. We also like a challenge, and men who keep us guessing with mean behavior mixed between meaningful charms seem to be worth chasing (though it's hard to say if it's really worth it in the long run some may debate). Hope that helps a little.
Why are very attractive, well-educated women intimidating?
I am a very attractive attorney who can't seem to get a date. I am physically fit - 5'3" tall and weight in at 132 pounds. Most people find me very funny and tell me I am very easy going, down to earth, and never let anything bother me. Men flirt constantly but they don't ask me out and when I ask them out, they seem to want to dance around with the idea. Do men find well-educated females intimidating or are we off limits for some secret reason? I had a guy tell me once that he didn't think he was up to my standards.
How can I tell if someone is jealous of me?
I had a colleague who was very jealous of me, at least that is what people told me when I complained of her behavior. Here is what I experienced:She would copy me. If I got a new piece of jewelry then she would get something very similar shortly afterward. If I traveled somewhere, she would go on a trip also to some place similar.She would be very nice to me to my face but them put me down behind my back. People would tell me about some of the things she said I was doing. Not of it was true.She was constantly complaining about others. No one was very competent in her opinion. I was one of them when my back was turned.We were friends outside the work place. But she would like to purposefully exclude me and tell me about where she went and what she did.She would never compliment me or ask about a trip.I always had the feeling that she was trying to “ put me in my place”.These things went on for quite a few years. I tolerated it because I worked with her and wanted to keep my work environment as peaceful as possible. She must have taken this as permission to keep doing it. Finally, the last straw came. I had golfed with her and a couple other ladies for about 8 years on Wednesday afternoons in the summer. She had recently been particularly difficult to work with and had alienated several other people with her negativity and complaining. She was going to schedule a tee time for the following week. I asked her to just let me know. She never told me and I found out that our group had gone without me. I finally confronted her about it and told the entire group that I would never do anything with them again. They were not “friends” if they were going to treat me like that. At work I had asked to be reassigned to a different area so I wouldn’t have to work with her again.After breaking it off with her I realized a few things… Her negativity had unconsciously rubbed off on me. I had to work on not criticizing and complaining about others. She really had been toxic. I developed better friendships with other, more positive people. I was so much happier!
Broke up because of money?
I recently broke up with my girlfriend of about 6 months. While there were certainly more issues than the money it always seemed to be brought up. She was a couple of years older than me but we are both still mid 20s. I recently graduated with my bachelors degree and she has been a graduate for a few years now and has a career where she makes about $35k a year. I got an entry-level position making about $2k a month and I'm about to move into a position that makes between $35-40k. It was hard for me to save money when we were together because I had a lot of bills and loans to pay off, but I still managed a save a little or work some overtime to do nice things for her. However, she never really seemed pleased, and when I did a nice thing it seemed like less than a week later she was complaining about wanting more. She explained to me that she wanted to live the life of staying home with her kids and being supported by her husband when she got married. Both of her older sisters live that kind of lifestyle because their husbands make well over $100k a year. I'm not sure that I'll ever make that kind of money given the field I work in (mental health), but I love what I do and it pays enough to live comfortably. I really liked her because she was a nice person, but she seemed to put a lot of emphasis on money which bothered me. A lot of times it got me down because I didn't feel she appreciated what I was doing with my life because I wasn't bringing in the mega money (that's what I decided to move on). About a month after we broke up I saw that she was dating a guy that was almost 10 years older than her and very well off. It just stings a little because I did care a lot about her and she always told me how good I was to her and how I was the nicest guy she's ever been with, and her friends agreed with that. I guess my question is are a lot of girls like this or is it just a phase? I don't make as much as some people but I have an education and a decent job, yet I still feel like a failure because I couldn't make her happy. Is being a nice, educated guy with a decent paying $35k a year job not enough for women these days? Normally I'd just assume that it was just her, but all of her friends seem to have the same views as her so it makes me wonder. I thought I was in a good place because I'm only 23, but this situation has kind of wrecked my confidence.