AM I GAY BECAUSE I GOT MOLESTED?
Hey sweetheart. Dont EVRE call yourself stupid. Its not true. Like you said... you didnt know better. Most kids are molested and dont know its wrong because their molesters have manipulated you to believe its normal. Theres no doubt in my mind that what your grandfather did violated you, not only physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. But dont blame yourself. And as for the cousin thing, you were young and curious. There are psychiatric studies that say all men have gay thoughts and all women have lesbian thoughts. Some people react on them and others dont. My cousin is one year younger than me and when I was in about 4th grade I remember sleeping in her bed and we were on the lap top and a lesbian porn site popped up. we didnt know what it was but we copied some of the heavy petting that went on until we fell asleep. I'm not lesbian, nor am I bi. Im married to a man and I've only messed around with men. I was young. And so were you. Most kids dont actually learn about sex until about 6th grade so you were barely old enough to know what was going on. Have you ever thought of the possibility that you're bi? You obviously used to have an attraction towards girls and now you have an attraction towards boys. Im not promoting permiscuity but test the waters a little. And guess what. A man is a man. A woman is a woman. We're ALL human!!! Dont feel ashamed of your sexuality. Im a christian so I dont neccasarily agree with same sex marriage but I do agree that we should love everyone. And another thing, you're your parents child. Their love for you is unconditional. And if you come out of the closet and change your mind then guess what, they'll STILL be there for you. Dont be so hard on yourself. Theres nothing wrong with exploring your body or anyone elses body (consensually). Live loud and proud sweetheart. And eat something. haha. You make fat girls like me jealous. :) I hope I helped and God bless you doll
First if you feel guilty and evil then it’s not on the account of your mother but on the account of how you are perceiving the things she says. I’d ask you do you know where you stand in regards to the disagreements you have with your mother? If not then that should be your first goal. Learn yourself and your core values and express those.Let her know that you respect her perspective and show her that the love you have for, if indeed you have love for her, will never be destroyed for simply disagreements between the both of you. Tell her the truth but tell her you love her first and last.
One way is to allow to encourage your child to learn independently. Bring them out to museums, activities, exhibitions. Take a trip down to the Science Centre with them and allow them to take the time to explore and wonder.You can also involve your child in projects. These could be fun science projects, or it could be cooking or baking projects. These activities encourage active learning.Lastly, ask questions.Instead of giving the answer straight up, prompt your child with questions to think and guess. However, don't be quick to dismiss their wrong answer straight away but encourage them to think about the reasons for their answer and whether it is logical. Give credit to any wacky ideas they might have and have fun with them; this encourages them to use their imagination.According to John Langrehr, renowned author and researcher with a special focus on developing and evaluating children's creative and critical thinking, there are at least three main types of connecting questions:1) novel ideas2) choosing between choices3) thinking of reasons to explain our observations These thinking processes relate to inventive and inquisitive thinking- processes that are vital for individual survival in a rapidly changing and competitive world. A sample question that forces the thinking of creative ideas and the development of a risk taking mindset. What are some unusual uses for a brick?Why are coins usually round rather than some other shape?What are some good and bad things about killing whales?You can weave these questions into the dialogue of stories.
Just like neurotypicals, no sociopath is like another. We all have different triggers and might react in a very wide rage, from no reaction at all to being thrown into a “triggered state”.But like Dr. Bruce Kugler asked, why would you ask such a question? It’s like you’re waiting for some sadistic replies, in order to justify and fuel some demented fantasy, or maybe you’re just trying to find other sadists? We’ve already established that paedophilia and sadism are more common than we thought. Food for thought. As in, seek help.Or, and this is my favorite hypothesis, you’re nothing more than an edgelord. I’ve seen many of your (uninteresting) questions so far, and they all point to that. You’re predictable, acting up, looking for attention and infantile. Go home kid, play a game, watch some porn, stay in school, don’t do drugs. Maybe get a life. Make something of it other than being a waste of oxygen. You and your pattern ?Boring, already, and you’re nothing special.
Are kids who play doctor child molesters?
It depends. Most kids are very innocently role-playing a pretend version of what they would like to be as an adult. HOWEVER, that being said, when I was 2 years old I was the victim of sexual molestation because an 8 year old was "playing doctor". He would take me to the basement of the home I was supposed to be babysat at (but obviously was not supervised), take my pants off and do all kinds of inappropriate things that no child should have the knowledge of. He'd then tell me I wasn't allowed to tell and he called it "playing doctor". Being smaller and only 2, I did not understand and kept it to myself until my mother started questioning the changes in personality she observed. I've been in counselling for years because of this and it has torn apart my extended family because my relatives did not understand what happened as they thought my family was over-reacting to a child who was playing doctor. Fortunately, my parents did understand the real situation and rescued me from the situation once I was able to communicate what had happened. A major deciding factor in whether it's innocent or not should be if the child's clothes are on and the children should be supervised by a responsible adult when they are young. Also, listening to someone's heart, administering bandaids, and checking reflexes is very different than physically manipulating the child's genital/private areas, which we can all agree is inappropriate.
Can some help solve the matter?
They are 6. At this age (and even younger) kids become aware of their bodies and wonder about their parts. They are probably very curious and the foster child has probably been exposed to more than she should have been at that young age, otherwise why would she/he be a foster child? I would sit them down separately, and have a talk with them. You don't have ot go into great detail about sex or anything, but tell them there are words that are not appropriate for them to use right now. Be sure to ask if they have question and try to answer then simply, but honestly. In the case of a foster child, you may need to take some extra time and gently acknowledge that she/he may have seen some things that maybe they shouldn't have. Let her know that if she ever has a question, that she should feel free to come to you. If you blow up and freak out, you give them the impression that this is bad and it can make them more confused and curious to explore more. If you are worried that you foster child touched you child, ask you daughter if any one has touched her. Again, you don't have to get graphic or anything, just simply ask and let her answer. Don't ask it in an accusing tone or she may think you are angry with her. The foster child probably needs therapy. If she/he isn't getting any, I would make the arrangements for that to start right away.
To be completely honest, one of the reasons I decided to major in psychology is because I didn’t really know what else to pick and I remembered liking the things I learned in my AP Psych class in high school. At first, I wasn’t really committed to studying psychology and I kind of just kept going with it so that I could major in something.However, it wasn’t until I had finished about 6 courses or so, ranging from advanced psychological statistics to personality/individual differences, that I realized that psychology was more than just some other scientific discipline. Psychology is such a wide field of study that practically anything can be researched, from the neural mechanisms responsible for vision and sensation to positive psychology and how to help people be at their best.Additionally, psychology is by no means boring. Remember “The Dress?”Well, one of my psychology professors actually decided to study why people were seeing the dress as being different colors and published a study that included 13,000 data points (The Color You See “The Dress” Might Depend On When You Wake Up ). This goes to show that psychologists aren’t limited in what they study - if something about human behavior is interesting and intriguing, then it’s fair game.While the field of psychology isn’t without its problems (read ‘Estimating the Reproducibility of Psychological Science’ if you want to learn more about perhaps the biggest issue in psychology and the social sciences in general), I still think that psychology is beneficial to us as a field of study and as an applied science and it’s a shame that I still get people telling me I should switch my major as psychology “isn’t a real science” or won’t make me rich in the future. If my only concern and goal in life was to get rich, I would’ve applied to business school or majored in finance, but since I want to a) learn more about human behavior, b) get into a field with wide real-world applications, and c) have a chance to answer some really interesting questions, I picked psychology as my major.
Is incest more prevalent among gay men than other people?
I am 68 years old and I have been gay all my life. My first sexual activity started at seven with my best friend at the time and continued from there to other friends etc. I know that both my brothers had gay relationships as teenagers but both ended up married with children and are not practicing homosexuality nor as far as I know have they since their thirty's. However neither they nor my father molested me, nor was the subject a matter that was discussed openly within our family. I have what would be considered a very large network of gay friends among them policeman and women politicians judges and members of the medical profession. I have two couples among my friends that are brothers as you asked and I just contacted them to find that neither of the two couples were molested in any way as children and one couple have never had another share their love although they have had other sexual partners. as have the other couple. Both couples have a deep abiding love for each other similar to my own lifemate and my self. so I would guess that it is not uncommon but also not all that noticeable. I say if thy are happy and no one is hurt in any way, then good luck to them and may they continue to love each other with all the love they need. ROBERTO.