If you had to make one choice - moving with the love of your life or living a mediocre life building a career, what would you choose?
I was one year out of college and working on Wall Street for the most prestigious bank on Wall Street. My boyfriend of two years (we dated in college), was graduating a year later than I did. He told me that when he graduated, he was going to move to California, with or without me.So I quit my lucrative job at a Wall Street firm, and moved out west. I was the lucky one. I had a former college roommate who got me an interview with a firm in Silicon Valley and I moved with job in hand, while my boyfriend went jobless and was job hunting when he arrived.Our relationship lasted another five years after the move, but ended due to his cheating. Looking back on it I still would have done the move, since I definitely got to do more different and interesting things as part of my career, and I got to live in California. Would I have had a completely different life in NY? Absolutely. Would I have been as successful? No idea. But you take the risks in life, and if they don't work out, you find a new path for yourself.
What does intense love making mean?
Well I would make out with Her then slowly kiss and suck on her neck then I would do some foreplay action. And later when I'm top of her love when she claws my back ;)
What are the best life choices that you can make?
There's a difference between best life choices and best life results. It's possible that the best choices do not lead to the best results.Take a game of doors. Given three doors: red, green, and blue, each have a prize behind them. Your friend knows a bit of information, the blue door has the worst prize. Given this scenario, there's a well defined worse choice and better choices. Given a limited time, picking a non-blue door is the best choice you could have made. However, you're not guaranteed the best results for the best choices "-- sometimes life is a twisted drama with bad outcomes."Information is your greatest ally, it allows you to predict best and worse scenarios.However, prediction is also another layer that needs more information if you want to get it right.Perhaps your friend is really not into art; they have no idea about the art world. Little did they know the painting behind the blue door was worth a lot of money to the right buyer. Poor prediction is performed using assumptions, non-factual inferences of data. However, you still made the best choice you could have --- aside from also choosing to not trust your friend.Thus "choice" in any scenario is a matrix of complex informational details, facts, and assumptions. The best choice is the one that uses a much trustworthy knowledge as possible.How to make the best choices in life?Be observantBe willing to learnBe willing to say your are wrongDrop your egoDrop the idea of absolute bestDrop the idea of perfectionFigure out your biasesKeep an open mindRespect your elders, gain their wisdomRespect your parents, gain their wisdomRespect education, gain inspirationFind role modelsFind heroesExperimentDon't be afraid to failDon't be afraid of being sub-optimumDon't be afraid of learning things the hard wayWhen you live life, you're goal is to constantly grow and reach higher and greater levels of ability/happiness.Since it is impossible to be perfect, the distraction and frustration of not being perfect will eventually become a net negative driver of your overall productivity --- in which your performance sucks greatly because your reaching for perfect rather than learning your lessons.How to make the best life choices: be informed, seek knowledge, seek wisdom, apply yourself gregariously, convert experience into knowledge, repeat forever.Thanks for the A2A Mike!
Should we make choices out of FEAR or LOVE?
And so you think that love will offer no consequences then? I love my husband dearly. But if he ever cheated on me there would definitely be consequences. Does that mean that he does not cheat because he fears me? Or because he knows that I love him and he loves me so he does not do it because of love? Did your parents ever punish you for doing something you were told not to? Did they do it because they love you and want the best for you and that means teaching you that there are consequences for the choices you make? Your choices should be made based on right and wrong. Only you can answer what is right or wrong for you.
If you were given a second chance to relive your life, would you choose the same path or choices or would you choose differently?
A friend of mine, a family therapist, complains that after saying in therapy that they want and will do X, Y, or Z, nearly all of his clients continue to do the A, B, or C that put them in therapy in the first place. He laments, “People won’t change.”My sense is that he’s more right than he realizes, and that actually if people had the second chance to relive their lives, they’d probably do the same things they did during their first go-around.In my case, I’m pretty sure that I made one really lousy decision with bad long-term consequences, and a lot of smaller lousy decisions. However, when I really think about those, I’m not convinced that different decisions would have changed the outcomes in any meaningful way. I probably just would have made different but similar blunders.The weird thing about life is that it’s to be lived, mistakes and all. And what’s the alternative, genetically modified babies routed through a pre-set sequence of presumably ideal challenges and accomplishments? Heck, if people could relive their lives multiple times until they got it right, not only would most never get it right, but I fail to see how “right” could be defined in any meaningful way.There’s nothing wrong with saying, “I goofed,” even “I goofed big time,” but I’m not sure that a do-over would change much that’s important for most people. Goofing is part of life, although I’ll admit that most who would like a do-over to be able to change their goofs probably have goofed “big time.” It’s sad when people are so dissatisfied with their lives (and probably out of touch with themselves) that they want a do-over.
Is love a feeling or a decision?
In my experience, it is both. Feelings come and go. When the feelings ebb is when we make a decision to continue to love, continue to put the other person before ourselves. Marriage has become disposable today because this notion that it is all about feelings has become so prominent. I've been married almost thirteen years. We've had our struggles, but we are still together precisely because we have both chosen to continue to love each other through the times when we haven't really felt that way towards each other. Our marriage is stronger today than it has ever been because we both know that we can trust each other not to run when difficulties arise between us. We know that the dark passages are temporary and that by choosing to continue to love each other through them, even times when we actively dislike each other, we will come through it even more closely bonded.
What's the difference between crush & Love?
A crush is simply lust and enjoying the feeling of being wanted. It is disguised as love sorta people get blind. Lust kind of comes and attacks you and it's important to use reason and thinking to realize the difference between lust and deeper feelings such as love. A crush is pure physical attraction. Love is an unconditional caring for another person, it is trust, along with a multitude of other things that I personally have yet to figure out. It is important though to note that love is something that comes to you in time if you grab it it goes away. It's kind of like forged metal though it can and does take a beating and while it may make it stronger it can also weaken or break it. Depends on lots of things. Love is who a person is not what a person looks like.
Give a guy an intense orgasm?
men tend to be short lived, we are cannon fodder, so evolutionary its needed to bypass our genes alongside till now we get killed or die from something, so we've a genetic tendency in the direction of greater usual arousal. in terms of intensity i've got do no longer bear in mind something concerning distinction, it may be variety of annoying to degree although, a 5 out of 5 for one guy or woman may be a 2 out of 5 for yet another, a guy or woman who's experienced sexually could have a greater constructive thought of ways extreme orgasms can get in comparison to somebody is isn't as experienced. thats the comparable reason a contemporary learn suggesting that there's no longer a genetic foundation for the life of the g-spot, is questionable at ultimate, its totally created from women self-reporting, without administration for distinction in journey.
Intense Relationship?
Intense relationships to me are ones where the channels of communtication are open... maybe a little TOO open. Intense relationships usually involve a lot of expressed emotion, and very deeply felt emotion. Intense relationships, at least from my perspective, also have a very high tendency to affect the people in the relationship in non-relationship-related areas. For example, people who are in intense relationships may behave differently at work if they are going through a rough relationship patch, even if work has nothing to do with their partner. Intense relationships are often ones that eclipse or override other relationships. By that, I mean that the people in an intense relationship put the needs of their partner or the relationship before those of any of their other friends, family members etc. An example would be a person who backs out of social events or skips a Friday evening dinner with family to spend time with the partner, even if the event has been planned for some time. Finally, intense relationships can cause partners to expend extra amounts of resources for the benefit of the other partner or the relationship. The resource can be time, energy, money, etc. An example would be calling in sick to school to play hookie with a partner, or spending one's entire paycheck on a birthday gift. My advise is if you are a young person, stay away from "intense relationships." They are too costly and too risky as investments.
Does love have limits?
Love cannot be quantized, so the limit not only does not exist, but it is also not equal to infinity.In other words, when you love someone more than someone else, it can mean:Relatively more intense emotional aspectRelatively more profound interpersonal connection, whether only neurologically explicable or (also) spiritualBut it is all relative.Of course, the word “love” is stretched to cover many distinctly different phenomena. For instance, there is romantic love, platonic love, asexual-romantic love, spiritual love, love of parent to child and vice versa, etc.Often, the experience of love combines one or more of the above with emotion.