Why do people take advantage of good and kind people?
Because they lack a spine. The kind of people who can’t raise voice against anything wrong happening.You constantly feel that you’re being taken for a ride by your boss, friends, girlfriend/boyfriend, and basically most of the people in your life. Is it their fault or yours? The answer is—yours. There are some reasons why people take you for granted.You are non-confrontational. You hate conflict. They know you will never address an issue even if it bothers you.You cannot refuse people. You just cannot say no. It kills you to decline requests. They know they can keep asking you for undue favours and you will always oblige.You’re usually the one with no opinion. If you’re always ‘okay’ with any plan, if you rarely voice your wishes or dislikes, it is understandable why people take you for granted.You are always seeking approval for your actions. You send out a message that you cannot function without people’s opinions and that’s exactly when people start to feel that they can control you.You’re indecisive. You can never make up your mind about anything. And the moment you show the world you don’t know what you want, they start taking you for a ride.You’re never the one to raise his voice against things you don’t approve of. People know you’re too shy (read scared) to stand up even for yourself and that gives them the liberty to wrong you every time. If you don’t raise your voice against being taken for granted once, it will happen again. Always.You give people too much importance too soon. You go out of your way to help them when they don’t even need it; you give away exclusivity at the drop of a hat.You’re always trying to please people and truth be told, nobody respects a people pleaser. Even when someone does take you for granted, you let it pass instead of putting your foot down and talking about it because you always want to be in everybody’s good books. Stop fearing disapproval.You have low self-confidence. It looks like you’re keeping shut about it because you’re not sure about it.You’re too easy a person. While it is a great trait to be adjusting, you make yourself look like a doormat. Know how to be adjusting and yet firm.Give importance to yourself. Appreciate your existence. Appreciate your identity. If you don’t give importance to yourself, how can you expect others to do so? And the most important thing here is—Learn to say ‘No’.
Why do people frown upon people getting high(on weed) as opposed to drunk on alcohol?
The reason people frown on it is that it is a precondition in people's psyche now. Regan and his War on Drugs and the Just say No policy, helped to brainwash the American people into believing that all illegal drugs are the same, and therefore are all dangerous and bad for you. Which is the case for some illegal substances, not however, for marijuana. The over exaggeration of the effects of marijuana on people, and the subsequent demonizing of the plant in the mainstream media, have created a stereotype for users, portraying them as being ignorant or slow, even dangerous. Marijuana is much safer than alcohol, marijuana barely effects driving ability to anywhere near the degree alcohol does, and marijuana doesn't greatly decrease your ability to reason nor does it cause you to react over emotionally to a given situation like alcohol does. For example, you might get mad or violent or extremely upset over something when you are drunk, but high you will probably just laugh at it. Peace.
Im 14 and not a virgin anymore...?
Ok ill b 15 next month but last summer i went out of state n lost my virginity and i didnt really know the guy much(cought in the moment) and then on valentines day i had sex again with another guy but ive been in a serious relationship with him..i just want to know does this make me a slut or something of that sort because ive been thinking about it and ive been starting to think less of myself...and please just be honest :)
Alright, I admit it, I'm depressed cause I can't get laid. So what do I do?
If you are too nice to a woman, you come across as being desperate. Be normal with girls, treat them like you would a friend instead of a potential mate. When a guy is really really interested in me, I become wary and wonder why he is so thrilled. If he is that excited, I figure I must be out of his league. A guy who is worthy of me (not to sound cocky) will be happy to be with me but not absolutely thrilled to the point of becoming my servant, if you know what I mean. Try to not approach women with dating (or sex) on your mind. Almost every girl gets approached numerous times a day by men who would love to screw us. If we wanted to get laid, we could open the door of our house and yell "I WANT SEX." We wouldn't need to go to the mall or go clubbing to seek a partner. You need to stand out as someone we'd be interested in spending time with outside of the bedroom. Cultivate interesting habits and find cool things to talk about. DO NOT go to those dating seminars-- they are pretty mainstream now and I can actually recognize which dating seminar a guy has been to by how he talks to me. A major turn off... By your post, you sound a little too much like the dreaded "nice guy" that girls talk about-- the type who is willing to be a friend but secretly just wants to bang you. You need to have a bit more fight in you than that! Make it a bit more interesting for us-- so if we agree to go out with you, it doesn't feel like "giving in" and feels more like accepting a challenge. If I have to work to earn a guy's interest then I've invested effort into it and it means more to me than just going home with a random. My favorite pickup lines have been guys who do funny, nontraditional things, like ask me to borrow five dollars so they can buy me a drink, or who ask me about my interests and actually TALK to me, instead of asking me a question then stare at my ****, wondering how many more questions he has to ask before I'll bang him. And if you use something word-for-word from david deAngelo, WE WILL KNOW. Good luck. Happy *******.
My life is ****** up terribly. Need serious help please...save me?
Life can be tough at times. We all go through rough patches, trust me. You're young and you have a whole life ahead of you. People or situations may not be perfect but you must make the best of it. Try to see the positive in what you're going through. For example, the relationship with your girlfriend has most probably made you grow as a person. Your next relationship will most likely be better for it. Try to make your mom happy by making random acts of charity (possibly chores around the house that you wouldn't usually do). You can also volunteer somewhere in order to keep focusing on others instead of yourself. I strongly suggest you talk to someone about this, though (a member of the clergy or psychologist). Venting will make you feel better and you'll receive insight. All the best to you. Just remember that we're all in the same boat and struggling on this road we call "life". You can try praying even though you think God can't hear you. He hears every single prayer. I wish you all the best. Please don't give up; you'll be happy you didn't.
A guy wants me to smoke weed with him?
Say yes if you want to smoke with him, or say no if you don't want to.