Why aren't more teen moms forced to choose adoption?
As a teacher in Title 1 highschools, I've seen so many pregnant teens that are already living at poverty level in the projects, and I've asked them "so what are your plans?" None of them have ever mentioned adoption. I've asked politely "Has anyone mentioned adoption to you?" and the most common response I get is "If I have to carry this and give birth to it then I'm keepin it". Not ONCE have I heard any of my pregnant girls say "I love this child" or "I look forward to being a mother"...nothing like that at all. It seems pretty selfish to me. I've also asked a few times "but wouldnt it be great to know that your child will have loving parents, have a beautiful home to live in, and not want for anything?" I was shocked when one pregnant teen replied that if she didn't have those things then her kid didn't deserve it either. When I asked about abortion, one girl said it was too expensive bc it was like $300, which obviously I nicely stated that a baby is much more expensive than that. Another response to that was that it was against the Bible (isn't being an unwed mother and having sex out of marriage against the bible?). I'm not saying I promote abortion, I'm just so confused by these kids' choices. To add to it all, I've had teen mothers smoke meth, drink, and take oxycotin while pregnant, giving birth to badly damaged babies and they STILL get to keep them. I've never had one teenage mother in over ten years of service to only have one child. One teen mom had her first child at 11...and had six babies all by different fathers by the time she was 20. All of her children went to my family's daycare center and were paid for by the state, their clothes came from a local church, and no child support was ever involved. Eventually these babies suffer abuse and neglect and some are put into foster homes, or in the care of their grandparents who didn't do a good job raising the parent so they obviously won't do a good job with the grandchild. It's a shame that so many children in our country are unloved and unwanted and people have to adopt children from other countries. These abused and neglected children make up over 35,000 homeless children in this country...and a good portion of them came from teen parents. Bottom line: Teen parents cost this country $, and worse, subject innocent babies to abuse and neglect. Shouldn't they be forced to give up the child to the state?
My daughter forgot my birthday?
it was my birthday today and my daughter, who's 14, forgot. She just went out with her friends tonight to the movies while i was at home alone. i asked her to stay with me for company but she started yelling at me, calling me selffish. i dont think it's fair that i always remember her birthday but she never seems to remember mine. she remembers all her friends' birthdays but still not mine. i dont think she cares that it's my birthday or about me. we always get into fights over what she can buy. my wife died of cancer about 4 years ago and i work as a computer engineer so I come home around 6 every day. I guess i dont really spend that much time with her. she takes advantage of that and just parties all day with her new friends. ever since she has made those friends, her grades have dropped, her attitude has changed, and she's becoming a total rebel now. i've tried talking to her but i haven't succeeded. what should i do? thanks
My uncle died on my birthday. Why won't my parents and sister celebrate it with me now?
Imagine if your sister died. Would you still want to go to a nice restaurant? Your uncle is your mom or dad's brother. What if your significant other's brother died on your birthday? Wouldn't you want to be there for them and not your kid's birthday that could be celebrated at a later time? Let them grieve. If you still want to do something then go by yourself and let your family grieve.
I'm 16 and can't find a job... Help!!?
When i get my driver's permit, I'm gonna have to pay for everything on my own..... but i Don't have a job and I'm have a LOT of trouble finding one. I have tried almost every business in this small town and everywhere i try, I'm told, "You have to be 18 to work here" or "We're not hiring right now" or "We're going out of business".... So what do i do?? I've been looking for 2 years! I have to buy a car, and save up money before i graduate in 2 years. I'm freakin' out! Help, please!