I’m 25 years old and my parents won’t let me stay over at my boyfriends place, is this normal? How can I convince them it’s ok?
Let me guess, you’re Asian? Asian parents tends to think they can control their children’s life until the day they die.Now, like everyone else said, you’re 25. At that age, you should be financially independent enough to make your own decision. If you back off every time they try to control you, chances are you will still be under their control at age 60. It is best that you move out of their house. Your relationship with them will evolve to a higher level when they finally have to accept that you’re old enough to be on your own. If you don’t have any other choice but to live with them, make it clear that it’s your life and you’re old enough to be responsible for it. (I know a lot of people feels that they have to stay with their parents because of the cultural upbringing or you simply live in a city where rental price is just crazy high for newly grad salary so I don’t judge your reason for staying home).Believe it or not, I once came home to visit when I was 25. At that time I was married for 2 years already but my husband couldn’t come with me because he couldn’t get off work. I went out with my friends for some boardgame gathering one night, one of the guys (most of my friends are male and my husband has no problem with it, he knows them all) was picking me up and going to drop me off so there was no safety concern there. At 10pm my dad called me and asked why I was not home. I said someone is going to drop me off so I would be home late. At 10.30pm he called again. At 11pm he called again. And it went on until I lost it and screamed at the phone “FFS, I am 25. I’m already married. I’m not a kid anymore. I will be home when I want to. And btw, I am on my way already so stop calling.” Afterwards, they never question me when I would come home at night again for my whole stay there. From that time on, I wouldn’t visit home without my husband. He’s like a ticket to all my freedom.Do understand that your parents will always see you as a child so if you want to be an adult, set the boundaries and do not let your parents cross them.
I gave my 16 year old daughter a car for her birthday and she got angry! Anyway on getting her to talk to me?
Change all the locks on all the doors to your house. Make sure no one can get into any of the windows. Then, call your phone carrier and disconnect your daughter's phone. Take her car keys and return the car. Box up all the stuff in her bedroom and stick it in the basement or garage or whatever. Make plans to turn her bedroom into your own private media room or craft room or rent it out for extra income, whatever. Let as many of her friends as possible know you are doing these things so you know the word gets to your daughter. She will probably try to come home while you are at work, which is why you changed the locks. When she can't get in the house she will see that you are serious. Then she will talk to you. YOU ARE THE ADULT she is the child! You are not doing her ANY favors by allowing her to act like this. You need to lay down the law and if she wants to run off to her boyfriend's house you need to report her as a runaway and let the cops know where she is staying. If her boyfriend still lives at home with his parents these people need to understand that your daughter is NOT their child and it is NOT their decision to let her stay at their house and do whatever she wants, by not contacting you and allowing her to stay there they are doing something illegal and seriously messed up. If the boyfriend has his own place then he is too old to be messing around with a 16 year old girl and he needs a lesson in right behavior versus wrong behavior. See that he gets it. Tame your brat or she is going to cause you and herself misery for many years to come. Maybe you ought to send her to live with her grandmother for a bit.
I'm 17 and I still haven't developed boobs yet, my 12 year old sister is bigger then me, what should I do?
It's ok. Your just tiny. I'm 23 and I'm a B cup. I'm proud of who I am!! God made me this way for a reason
Is it too late for somebody to finally start their career at the age of 28?
A2A.No, what the hell?!!I was watching this video on YouTube, where the older lot was giving life advise to the immediately younger ones. Say, a ten year old would tell stuff to an eight year old and so on.. At the end, there was this really old dude(in his nineties). It was his turn to give advise. And guess what he said?He said, "Dear Younger Self, Do what makes you happy. Because nobody knows what the hell they're doing."The truth is, you think that everybody around is happy in their careers and they are having a great life blah di da. The important thing here is, "you think that..."You have zero proof to prove that so and so is happy because they started their career early so now they are all settled and stuff. I am writing it vaguely because it is damn vague. You are thinking all these thoughts and your brain has illogically convinced itself that everyone is having a gala time in life because they stuck to a particular path and now they are reaping the benefits.Dude, every person is different. Every person's life path is different. Every person's career ladder is different. Not every person is meant to be in a 9 to 6 job. Not every person has the grit to open their own business. Not every person has the courage to set their own shop and wait for customers.Do you get it now?There are no rules to life. We just make them up as we go along, but guess what? Every person has different rules as well.I am 27 years old. Career wise, I left an unbeatable corporate opportunity two years ago. Now, I don't earn even 25% of what I used to. Many people in my position would be unhappy and discontented. But, does that give you the formula to calculate whether I am unhappy?Don't make happiness about your job, or your bank balance, or "how-it's-supposed-to-be". There is no way that it is supposed to be. Realise that fact.Life is field, not a corridor (Someone said this, I don't remember who).You have actually got to figure your way out. Stumble, fall, make a strategy, proceed.
Do any of your "adult" children live at home?
Not yet but it's a strong future possibility,my eldest moved out,the others are not yet adults but I want them to leave when they are ready and can afford it and I would never consider making them leave by a certain age. My daughter plans to go to university and if she can't find a job that pays enough to suport herself when she finishes then she is very welcome to return home until she does,at the moment it's easy,she is at college (uk) and works part time so her money is all hers with no bills to pay except travel to work and her phone but she could never live alone on her wage and she works as many hours as possible and has already been promoted and is earning adult minimum wage,that is the rate a 21 year old would earn but she is only 17. It is much harder now than it was 20 years ago,back then jobs were easier to find and money went further,I was out of my parent's home at 19 and managed fine on what was a relatively low wage but it is different now,less jobs,employers with higher expectations because so many people want work that they can be very fussy and the cost of living is so incredibly high now too,especially rents. In my opinion if you all get along well it is better to remain at home until the time when your circumstances imrove,there is no need to rush into a lifestyle that you can't really afford.
Is it unattractive for a 23-year-old guy to be living at home?
Am 23 turning 24 next month and am still living at home with parents to save money while attending school. Do girls prefer for a guy to be independent by my age or are they ok with what I am doing and where I am living? I mean is it a negative for me to be still at home and being in a relationship? Have heard mixed opinions on this. Girls please help.
Should a guy who has undergone a kidney transplant at the age of 28 get married knowing that life has already come to an end? Would any girl marry such a guy?
I'll tell you my story, and then you can take what you want from it. I married in 2011 at the age of 36. Eighteen months later, on an ordinary morning I had a stroke. My husband took me to the ER. I had an MRI that confirmed it. Less than an hour later, I was fine. They wanted to send me to the larger regional hospital. They let my husband drive me. En route I had a heart attack while he ran into Starbucks. Not kidding. He came out, handed me my latte and we went on. Once we arrived at the hospital he dropped me off out front and went to park. I went in, was admitted, and headed up to my room alone when I felt another MI (heart attack) coming on. I made it to my room, vomited, and laid on the bed. I saw a nurse, a young dr who diagnosed me with stomach flu, and a real dr who ordered an enzyme test to confirm the MI. I was in the hospital for a month. At some point a blood clot attacked (enfarct) my spleen. During the CAT scan they noted the dead parts of my spleen and my left kidney was HUGE. Like an orange. So I had a biopsy and it was kidney cancer. The kidney came out Oct 2012. Then in July 2014 I had a son. In October 2015 (at 40!) I had another son and my tubes tied. Now, I guess with cancer, blood thinners, and the depression that set in, it would have been reasonable to just move into my brother's basement and stop living. I didn't. I'm writing on Quora when I need to be asleep because I have work tomorrow. Unless this other kidney poops out, I have things to do and places to see.